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There is quite some information about sacred sexuality.

I also write about it.

Sometimes I hear from people that they get intimidated by it because they think it is “bad” if they are not constantly reaching higher states of being, or experiencing transcendental bliss while being at it.

Let me tell you… sacred sex doesn’t always have to be complex or enlightened.

It can also just happen when you have a quick fuxk on the kitchen counter. As long as you wholeheartedly commit to it.

Every time I have sex, in whatever way, I commit myself to make it the most beautiful experience ever..... when we get down and dirty on the bathroom floor AND when we melt together in the proverbial eye of the storm.

That’s because I always consciously “make” sex an ????????????????????????????????????, instead of an ????????????????????????????????????????????.

I don’t expect my wife to give me instant pleasure and orgasmic release. I bring a divine intention into it: “I choose to make this a beautiful energetical, deeply connected sexual exchange between myself and this gorgeous woman who I love.”

And yes, that sometimes happens in the form of a steamy handjob on the couch, or an animalistic quickie on the mattress after I hung the laundry.

Let’s not forget… the act of penetration is a force of nature that is loaded with meaning and mystery. Not surprisingly, to penetrate also means to gain insight and to have a marked effect on the mind and emotions of ourselves and others. Our language about our sexuality is as layered as the act itself, and by acknowledging this and opening up to this wisdom intentionally, the sex instantly becomes deeper and more “sacred”.

The secret to alchemizing every sexual encounter (including the wild shaboinking) into a deeper emotional experience is a combination of ???????????????????????????????????????? and ????????????????????????????????????.

And by connection I mean always tuning in with each other, because anyone can change their mind about what they feel like doing, anytime. Even if you’ve done it before, even if you’re both naked in bed, and even if you are already halfway penetration.

I always tune in…

… to feel if I have to up the rhythm, or if I should slow down, if I have to thrust deeper or softer.

… to take notice of her state of arousal, if she wants to be kissed and grabbed by her hair gently or more roughly.

… to sense if she is ready to be penetrated, purely physically AND energetically.

... to feel when I have to stop.

It’s important to ask for consent, from both partners. Not in the form of a verbally spoken out question (that would kill the moment, right?) but by feeling the changes in her energy, his body language, the way she looks at you, the way his body trembles, how her spine curves slightly, how he uses his hands.

Consenting and asking for consent is all about setting your personal boundaries and respecting those of your partner — and checking in if things aren’t clear. Both people must agree to sex — every single time — for it to be consensual.

It’s also important to slow down.

I always slow down, even when I unleash my sacred beast. Even if I am shagging my Queen wildly, my higher self always chooses to slow down.

Only then I can be present with her and really penetrate her in that very special moment. Only then I can provide to her, give to her, get closer to her heart with every thrust I make.

My wife does the same. She slows down, even if she is swallowed in a storm of unbridled passion, when she is in the midst of total surrender. Her higher self always keeps track of my skin, my movements, my eyes, my breath, and adapts to the energy in each and every moment.

That’s connection.

That’s intention.

And that is what makes every sexual encounter between us deep and divine.

From the “wham bam thank you ma’am” to the sacred soul sex.

So forget the idea that sacred sex should always look like a deeply meditative way of blending together into a high-vibrational crockpot of transcendental love-making.

No, as long as there is connection, consent, and intention, it’s also okay to throw her on the bed and “do” her doggy style or to rip down his jeans and give him a quick BJ.