What Dates #2 and #3 Mean To A Man
Crystal, if you want to understand exactly
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Crystal - how's it going?
Do you ever feel frustrated that men don't
know what they want when it comes to love and
relationships?
Even when you and a man are already
physical, affectionate, and having an amazing
time together?
What's going on here?
Are men really this clueless and frustrated?
In case you haven't figured this one out for
yourself, here's an important piece of info
about how men can be when it comes to "dating"
and relationships...
A man can be DOING all the things that say
he's interested and wants more with you... but
be FEELING like HE'S NOT READY or wanting more
in terms of a RELATIONSHIP at the same time.
Crazy, right?
It's enough to drive a woman mad.
And what's worse... a man can DO all kinds
of things with you from hang out to take things
to a sexual level... but he won't COMMUNICATE
about what he's really FEELING.
At least not until after the fact. (After
he decides things aren't "working" and he's
not ready for a serious relationship)
Ever had a man get close to you and spend
lots of time with you... but then he couldn't
get a word out about how he was feeling and what
he wanted?
If you know what I'm talking about here, then
you know that not so great feeling you get when
you're sharing an amazing connection with the
man in your life but...
Out of nowhere he does a complete 180 and
tells you he doesn't like your situation or
something really important about YOU.
And he's already made up his mind to LEAVE.
Arrghhhhhh!
Frustrating, right?
You didn't even get the chance to know or
talk about what was going on inside his head.
How in the world did he think things were
supposed to end up working?
Were you supposed to read his mind!?
As a woman, I get that it must feel IMPOSSIBLE
sometimes to get close to a man and have a real
relationship.
Well, it's not.
Tons of other women like you have gone from
where you are now to having an easy time
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growing from that UNCERTAIN area of the first
few dates to a loving and secure relationship.
I've helped tons of women create that "shift"
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happening with a man.
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WHY MEN DON'T CALL AGAIN AFTER GREAT DATES
I probably don't have to tell you that men
do this "suddenly pulling away" thing in all
different situations from "casual" dating to
committed relationships.
And they do it without warning, and for what
seems like no good reason at all.
How many times have you gone on a first or
second date with a man and had an absolutely
fantastic time...
And you were sure he was going to call and
felt as strongly about you as you did him...
You had both laughed and found so many
things you had in common...
You felt relaxed and confident, and you BOTH
had a good time flirting and getting to know one
another.
Best of all, that magic chemistry you can
only share with the right kind of guy was there.
And it was INTENSE.
When you went home after being with him, you
were 100% SURE he would call and ask you out again.
He had even said "I'll call you" as he left.
But then a few days went by... and nothing.
Several days later, after you had wondered
about him more than you'd like to admit... you
came to the realization that he was NEVER going
to CALL.
What's the deal here!?
Why did he act like it was such a great
date... and even say that he'd call you later,
when he obviously didn't plan on it?
Did he lie simply because it was easier in
the moment and he didn't want to hurt your
feelings?
And was there something strange going on inside
HIM he didn't want to share, show you, or be
honest about?
Or was there something else?
Something you missed that he saw in YOU?
Was there something YOU DID or said that was
the REAL REASON he didn't feel compelled to see
you again?
If you're like a LOT of single women, this
sort of thing where a man never calls or makes
plans with you again has not only happened to
you once, but it's happened to you a few times.
You've spent time with a man who seemed like
he could have been great "relationship material",
and who showed all the signs of wanting to grow
close to you and get to know you better...
But when push came to shove he PULLED AWAY
for what seemed like no good reason at all.
And he was never available to you to talk
about it or tell you why.
Which means... for all the times this has
happened to you, a part of you has NEVER learned
anything about WHY these things keep happening
to you.
Part of you simply feels like you're "cursed"
when it comes to love... and that things just
aren't fated to work out for you with true love.
But, if you're like lots of women I've talked
to and helped, then part of you has also made
up your own "stories" for WHY these things
happened to try and make yourself feel better.
Stories like:
-"He wasn't that great anyway."
-"It wasn't really meant to be."
-"You'll find someone better."
-"It was his loss."
Recognize any of these?
The reality is that we often make up these
"stories" in our lives when we let our FEAR of
what the REAL TRUTH about us might be keep us
from looking for and finding out who and what
we really are... and how others see us.
So let me ask you...
What if a man who you really and truly liked
and connected with was willing to tell you THE
TRUTH about why he really never called you again?
Would you be able to listen to him with an
open mind and an open heart?
Would you be able to believe him?
And would you be willing to do anything about
it if what he said was honest and real?
See, lots of women know they aren't getting
the "whole story" from a man... but on a deeper
level they aren't OPEN to hearing his reason WHY
because of the PAIN that could come from it.
And it's this FEAR of being hurt or feeling
unloved or unappreciated that pushes them to both
create a less painful "story"... and try and get
over it and forget about the situation as quickly
as possible.
It's ironic isn't it - the very thing that can
keep you from learning, growing, and creating
what you want is often your own unwillingness to
hear the REAL STORY about yourself from another
persons perspective. (A man's in this case)
Considering this, here's the real question
for you...
What if there was a real reason why a man
didn't call to ask you out again?
Like that he REALLY WAS interested in you...
but something else got in the way of him being
able to see you and feel comfortable with you.
If this was the case, and knowing what this
mistake was could help you avoid ever making the
same mistake again... wouldn't you want to know
what it was?
What if it was something you were doing on
an unconscious level that you couldn't even see
about yourself that was causing you to lose a
great OPPORTUNITY to start an incredible
connection with a great guy?
What if it was you who blew it because of
some small misunderstanding or "glitch" going
on inside you that is so EASY TO FIX that
you'll wonder why it was ever a problem for you
in the first place?
There's something I need you to understand
right now...
If there is something you might be doing to
get in your own way, odds are that you are 100%
UNAWARE of what that thing is, and what's causing
it.
After all, the reason you don't know what's
getting in your way in the first place is because
the mistake you're making is something that happens
completely UNCONSCIOUSLY.
Don't believe me yet?
I'll explain how it works like this...
I'm sure you've seen it where a girlfriend
of yours went on a date with a guy she really
liked... and she was completely intent on things
really working out with him - even though they
had only been getting to know each other for a
very short while.
But the more you saw how your girlfriend was
thinking about and approaching the whole situation,
the more that part of you knew that the man she was
dating would instantly lose interest when he picked
up on how she was thinking and feeling.
(UNCERTAIN and INSECURE)
And guess what happened?
Exactly...
The man did pick up on it, and he stopped
calling and making plans with her all of a
sudden.
It was over. And she was devastated.
You tried to talk to her about it.
But you knew that there was something that
your girlfriend just couldn't see about herself
that had made this guy get that weird awkward
"Eeeewwww" feeling when he was around her that
had pushed him away.
Even you would have been turned off by this
kind of thing in someone you had started dating.
And even though you tried to hint at what you
saw and explain it to your girlfriend... she just
wasn't having anything to do with the fact that
how SHE was thinking and acting was the reason
he lost interest.
Instead, she was FIXATED on HIM.
Here's the thing...
We all have our own "blind spots" - things
that we do in our lives that WORK AGAINST US
that we can't see for ourselves... but that are
obvious to others when they look at our lives
from the outside.
I'm going to suggest to you that if you're
having some of the same problems and frustrations
over and over with men as you're dating or in
relationships...then what's important is NOT the
belief you might have about how men are so messed
up and don't "get it".
What's important is you getting to the bottom
of YOUR PART in these situations that are keeping
you from creating what you want - YOUR BLIND SPOTS.
That way, you never have to wonder again.
AND... best of all, you can start making
LOVE come together and work for you in your
life.
Wouldn't it be great to be able to have a
connection with a man effortlessly grow into
a deeper relationship?
And have that deeper relationship quickly
grow into something SECURE and LASTING not
because it had to be... but because a man was
just that wild about you and had to be with you
and stay with you?
THE SURE-FIRE WAY TO GET THE RIGHT MAN "HOOKED"
ON THE FIRST FEW DATES
Let me ask you...
What are those things that even your best
friends see in you and try to tell you, but you
just don't listen to or believe about yourself?
What are the things that are true about
how you end up acting when you get close to a
man and you lose your composure?
I want to tell you that you aren't alone
when it comes to feeling this way and having
"blind spots".
And what's more, I recently visited with a
remarkable friend of mine who hears stories
like yours ALL THE TIME in her line of work...
and I'm confident that if you're single, or in
a new relationship where a man keeps pulling
away, then she can help you turn things around
almost instantly.
Her name is Julie Ferman... and a week or
so ago I sat down and interviewed her for all
of her best insights and tips for women.
Julie told me that a most of her new clients
consistently weren't getting past date number
2 or 3 with guys they really like. And they had
NO IDEA why.
The men just didn't seem to want to follow
up and explore things with them...
So they come to her for help and advice.
So you know... Julie is a professional dating
coach and matchmaker, and has been running a
wildly successful business in California where
she has connected tons of couples into solid
relationships and marriages.
Julie shared with me that she's responsible
for bringing together literally thousands of
long term lasting relationships and marriages.
But many years ago, before she met her husband,
she spent a lot of time going out on dates that
didn't work and went nowhere.
So not only has she "been there, done that"
as far as blind dates and meeting men through
dating services and online, but she has literally
seen it all through her work with her single
clients as a dating coach and matchmaker.
Bottom line - Julie knows the real secrets
behind WHAT MEN THINK when they do or don't call
back... and how the things you do on a date will
determine this.
She also can tell you clearly what's going on
when a man "goes silent" after a great date.
She's heard all the stories, and she knows how
small misunderstandings can often turn into huge
disappointments and missed connections - and how
to avoid all this as a smart single woman.
Beyond knowing what women experience when
dating, and how men think and respond... Julie
has developed a set of fantastic tips and
techniques that she shares with her clients about
what to do on first dates, and what to say on the
phone and in person, so that a man will not only
"say" he'll call... but you can be sure he'll
really do it!
She even shares some stories of what happens
when you've done everything right and you STILL
don't hear back from the man... and you'll be
surprised at how you can turn this sort of
disappointment into a FUTURE OPPORTUNITY that
sparks his interest and makes you unique and
even more interesting to a man.
I learned so much interviewing Julie that
I decided that I needed to release the interview
we did and share it as soon as possible.
So I've made Julie as the next guest expert
in my monthly "Interviews With Dating And
Relationship Experts" series.
Julie covered some incredible topics and
tips about making first dates successful and
relaxed, making the RIGHT impression, and making
that transition from just "getting to know you"
dating to a monogamous, intimate relationship
as smooth (and anxiety-free) as possible.
Here are some of the amazing insights that
Julie revealed during our interview:
-The one thing most men complain MOST about
when they first start to date a woman they hit
it off with (know this and never again blow
your chance with the right guy)
-A big conversation "faux pas" that literally
DEFLATES a man and makes him think you aren't
fun to be around. Learn how to avoid doing this
so a man will be open to learning MORE about you
and not get turned off because he thinks you're
"high maintenance"
-Exactly how to tell a man what you really want
from him or the relationship that not only
INTRIGUES and ENGAGES him to WANT to talk to you,
but creates the kind of playful energy that allows
for more open and honest communication
-Exactly what to say on the phone to SET UP the
1st, 2nd or 3rd date in a way that takes the
pressure off the man and allows YOU more freedom
and less worry waiting and wondering if he's
going to call
-Specific "scripts" of what to say when approaching
the often embarrassing subjects of "safe sex" and
"monogamy" before you decide to get intimate with
a man
-An important tip about when to answer your
cell phone and when to let it ring on to voicemail
that could LITERALLY save you from scaring away
Mr. Right before you get to know each other
-Two powerful tips on how to EASILY and QUICKLY
connect with a lot of attractive single guys in
your area if you're NOT into online dating
-A specific way of communicating on the phone
either before you go on a first date with a man
or in the beginning stages of dating... so he
pegs you as fun, mature and "together"
-Two easy and stress-free ways to meet and connect
with great single men you and your other single
GIRLFRIENDS can take advantage of that will make
at least double your odds of finding your right
man (and NO, it's not going to a club or a bar
together in hopes that an attractive man will
come up and ask for your number)
-How to get the response you really want from a
man when you ask him for something... without
giving up your self-respect or manipulating him
in any way
-Find out the ONE THING about how a man's mind
operates that is CRITICAL if you are to be
successful in dating or relationships. (Knowing
this will virtually guarantee that a man will
never feel "put off" or "annoyed" when you ask
for something)
-How to structure a first date ? what to do and
how much time to spend with a man so that you
can have a lot of fun without ending up doing
something you might regret the next morning but
build his level of attraction and interest
-What to say at the end of a date if you DIDN'T
have chemistry and you don't want to see him
again that is graceful and honest, but avoids
that awkwardness later when he calls to ask you
out again
-Should you offer to pay for ANYTHING on a first
date? Find out what men are really thinking when
the check comes... and how to use that moment as
an opportunity to make a great impression (without
opening your purse)
-3 things to consider BEFORE you sleep with a
man you just started dating, so that you don't
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been a great relationship
-FOR NEWLY DIVORCED WOMEN: the best advice on
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-A NO-BRAINER TIP on exactly what to talk about
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a serious and long-term committed relationship
and not just a "fling"... in a way that won't
freak him out and scare him away
And a whole lot more...
As you can see, Julie shared a huge amount of
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If you were to sit down and have a private
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Truth be told, I'm so excited for you to hear
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Here's another question about dating and
relationships I get asked a lot... and I'm sure
you can relate.
Women will come up to me and say, "Christian,
all this dating advice is great, but I don't
understand why I can't just BE MYSELF and still
attract Mr. Right."
The answer is, you CAN be yourself, and really
you SHOULD be.
But how do you know that the way you "are"
around a man is the "best" and most attractive
you?
I believe that ALL women have the natural
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The problem is that because of the baggage
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When a man starts telling you "I care about
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attracted to you, deep down."
Believe me, if a man feels that DEEP EMOTIONAL
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I'll talk to you again soon and best of luck
in Life and Love,
Your Friend,
Christian Carter