You know those people, frustrated with love and "losing" at it? They have a phrase, more common today then in the past, and I'm not sure if that's by virtue of the way relationships have changed over time, or if by the mere change of culture in which they occur.
"I'm just tired of the games!"
I wonder to myself... why? The games are fun. They are exciting. That's why we play them. But what are they? Well, I've made my own assessment, and I'll share it with you, as well as my reasoning for keeping them.
I've taken on a new philosophy. I do this every year or so. I don't throw out the old ones, but I'll add a new facet if I feel I need to for my own growth. This one has been interesting so far. I don't lie. It's simple enough. I was a pretty big liar when I was a kid, and it didn't work out well for me. I grew up a bit and didn't lie anymore, or at least I didn't think I did. Sometimes when faced with authority and a need to slip out of an obligation or avoid a fight, I'd lie. You know... a little one. Yes I checked the locks. Yes I swept the floor. Yes I've done this before. Whatever right?
Well, now I have a new perspective, and it frightens people. You ask me a question and you better be ready for the truth. Most people are not.
That being said, I define the whole "games" thig as the game that people play with each other when they want to see how much they like one another. What's allowed. Where the line is. It's a game of emotional whits. Self control versus the drive to move on, and the ability to balance the two without looking like a fool in your own head. It's tricky. It's scary. It's riveting, and I cannot understand why anyone would want to pass it up. For what? Empty sex? What fun is that really? You take all the emotion out of it and it's all mechanics. You might as well have a doll or a "coin-operated-boy" as the Dresden Dolls put it.
I want to know what other people think. Do you really think life would be better without the games? Or are you just sick of not doing as well at them as you would like to? If you agree that the games are indeed the unknown play that allows you to be excited about what's to come, then I want to know how you feel about the idea of not having them.
Ken
