"A Master knows when to use the control he has been granted, and when to let go...."
A Master is confident
A Master is self assured
A Master knows the soul of a sub/slave
A Master knows what he wants and does not divert from his goal.
A Master is content in himself.
A Master has strong character.
A Master understands... "A slave should always be measured from the inside, for it is her soul that is enslaved, her body simply follows"
A Master seeks the mind before the body, any 'body' can be aroused, but few minds can be owned
A Master has control of his life, rather than letting his life control him.
A Master is gentle in his strength and strong in his gentleness.
A Master does not need to seek acceptance from others, for he has acceptance of self.
A Master does not need to announce his mastery, it is shown in all that he does.
A Master can control with a simple look across the room.
A Master is not afraid of punishment, for he knows it is his responsibility.
A Master accepts his slave/sub for who she is, building on her weaknesses, building her self-esteem, making her whole.
A Master is human, first and foremost. He is not perfect, yet he strives for perfection.
A Master is not afraid to admit his mistakes, he does not judge them, he learns from them.
A Master knows when to use the control he has been granted, and when to let go....
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Submission is far more than a physical experience, it is an emotional connection with a man; so meaningful that it contains her very soul. Submission is not a game. To treat it as such is to do her a great injustice; for submission trivializes her greatest expression of love.
When she gives herself to a master completely, she is also giving him the freedom to explore the depths of her sexuality and passion, to take her places she cannot get to herself to have experiences she probably cannot ask for.
Getting past resistance is where strength and understanding as a Dominant is essential. If you back off instead of encouraging her onward (by spanking or praise) she will not be able to explore the depths of herself. She needs your unconditional love and support to feel safe; to go where she can not go to alone. As you open her to you, you are opening her heart and soul.
Being with someone who treasures a woman's natural sexuality enough to go far beyond where most stop; is an extremely liberating experience. It touches upon the desire to be able to reveal herself as she truly is; as you help her by removing the falsely conditioning. Even if she cannot ask, it is important to understand that she wants to over come her resistance.
A woman wants her man to be strong, to protect and watch over her. She wants to be able to relax in the safety of his arms and the world he creates. If you can do that for her, you will see something inside her blossom and grow. You will marvel at the treasure you have discovered that was always inside. However never felt safe to come out and reveal itself, afraid that it would not be appreciated for the incredible gift it is.
There is the feeling of being taken care of . Knowing that she has certain rules and limits for herself. If she disobeys them she expects to be disciplined. When you are correcting her behaviour by punishment of some kind, several things happen. First is that you care for her enough to correct her. It is proof to her that she has your attention and you are watching over her, making sure she does what is best for herself. If it was a task or command of yours that she disobeyed, then your punishment leaves no doubt in her mind that she must obey you and this allows her to feel secure.
However if you never check, your message to her is that she isn't worth the effort it takes to see if she has obeyed. You are unconsciously saying she doesn't deserve your attention. This lack of attention touches many emotions in her... If she "overlooks" a rule it is a test to see if you care enough to catch it. The stricter you are in superving her, the more she feels your attention and the happier she will be.
The whole point is an exchange of power. She has lots of control, however the thrill is in giving that up in order to go to new places inside herself. One aspect of submission is that it's a wonderful way to escape from yourself. She gets a relaxing respite from the stresses of her life and she can renew herself once again.
