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48 Year Old · Female · Joined on July 27, 2006 · Born on February 23rd · 39 referrals joined! · I have a crush on someone!
48 Year Old · Female · Joined on July 27, 2006 · Born on February 23rd · 39 referrals joined! · I have a crush on someone!

If you are polyamorous, poly friendly, or poly curious AND you
live near Los Angeles, or are willing to drive here, please join
the Los Angeles Polyamory
Meetup Group
that I am Organizing.
Let me know you found us on Fubar!

Another great Polyamory
Group in the San Fernando Valley is Live the Dream. Most of the
events for the meetup group are held at the Live the Dream Events.

Since so many seem to not read profiles all the way to the end, I am going to start off by saying I am in a relationship, several actually, and yes, they all know about one another. I am not looking for replacements!!! Additions, maybe, but definitely not replacements. I am also not looking for casual sex partners. If you are not interested in forming a deep and fulfilling long term relationship, then I am probably not the type of person you are looking for. If you are not poly, or poly curious, we will probably only be able to be friends. All messages sent to me are forwarded, at my discretion, to my partner(s) for our viewing pleasure. (This is to hopefully scare off the Horny Net Geeks "HNG's) If this does not scare you off, then by all means, keep reading :-)

I am not your typical run of the mill American female, at least not according to society's norms. It is not that I try to go against them, I just don't fit the mold. I love to wear dresses, corsets and high heel boots with a leather miniskirt, but I am also very independent. I am very dominant in my day to day living, but submissive in a relationship (once enough trust is built up). It is easy for me to switch roles in either situation when necessary (even though I may not like to switch). I fall somewhere in the middle of what society expects, and what it doesn't. Many find me an enigma when they first meet me, yet once they get to know me, I am easy to understand. I enjoy surprising people. I also enjoy being surprised. I walk the middle ground in most areas of my life. I seem to attract the extremes to me, pleasure and pain, light and dark, etc. I aspire to find the fulcrum between extremes and allow them to co-exist in harmony. More often than not, I am successful.

I am a 3rd degree Priestess. I practice eclectic Paganism, always walking the line between the light and dark sides. Want to know more, just ask. I follow my own religious path, which I describe as being eclectic LHP(Left Hand Path) Paganism. I also like the ideas and possibilities proposed by the Quantum Physics Theory of Observer Created Reality. This in turn goes right along with "The Law of Attraction."

I have 2 children, both boys who are the loves of my life. I have a BA in Child Development. I am polyamorous, meaning I practice polyamory, (polyamoury). I am not interested in traditional single husband/wife or girlfriend/boyfriend relationships or polyfidelity. The model I base my relationships on is Multiple Primary Open relationship. Other words related to that topic include polyfidelity, fluid relationships and non-monogamy. I am bisexual, with a preference for men. I am currently involved in a multi-partner poly relationship, and have no desire to leave any my partners, so please don't try to turn me monogamous. I have been monogamous in the past, and it just does not work for me, I have too much to give. I am very picky about my partners, and adhere to a strict fluid bond protocol within my relationships, and require my partners to do the same. Trust is the basis of a relationship, and the health of all members is of utmost importance. I do not have any STD's and would like to keep it that way.

I am currently the organizer for the Los Angeles Polyamory Meetup Group. Please feel free to join. I am also raising my kids to the best of my ability. One of my children has been diagnosed with Autistic Disorder which is similar to Asperger's Syndrome. Much of my time is currently spent getting his needs met. My other son has been diagnosed with ADHD-I and Dysthymic Disorder, so I am working with the school to try to get his needs met as well.

I enjoy trying new things, and pushing my own limitations. My explorations have resulted in many changes over the past few years. I have come to the realization that I m not happy in monogamous relationships. My heart is way to big to be able to love only one person. I also do not like the baggage that goes along with most monogamous relationships.

I am really good at moderating discussions, getting people to see each other's points of view. I am very good at knowing my own limitations, and am not afraid to speak up when need be. I am really good at reading other people's emotions, and have a knack for being able to see all sides of a situation.

I am good at offering advice, giving moral support, etc..... or so I have been told. I enjoy helping people as much as possible. I find it easier to keep my cool, than to lose it, and many people seem to respect the fact it is difficult to rile me.

I am tall, have long red hair, and green eyes. I am brutally honest. Many people make the assumption I am a fluffy bunny, and are surprised to find out I do have a very sharp set of fangs when I am crossed. My family and friends are my life, so don't even think ill of them.

Favorite Books are by the authors Christine Feehan, Mercedes Lackey, Andre Norton, Anne Bishop, Kate Forsyth, Anne Rice, Heinlein esp.Stranger in a Strange Land, and Kahlil Gibran. I also enjoy philosophy, mythology, psychology, and religion.

Favorite foods...steak and strawberries. Besides that, I enjoy Thai, Italian, Mexican, Chinese, Japanese, Mediterranean, Persian, and am willing to try new foods.

I don't like shellfish, shrimp, mushrooms, green bell peppers, or star melons. Unfortunately, raw meats don't agree with me either, but I love sushi when it has cooked fish, or veggies.

The SIX Things I Could Never Do Without

1. My Kids / My Family

2. Blood / Oxygen to the cells is a good thing!!

3. Yahoo Messenger / My Friends

4. Polyamory

5. Sleep

6. My TeufelWolf/ My Partners

You Should Message Me If:

Paganism, Friendship, Polyamory, the Occult, etc.

If my having other partners does not scare you off.

You should NOT message me if you are ONLY interested in sex. Not only I will ignore you, but I will forward the messages to my partners for their viewing pleasure. I am picky about my partners, and need a spiritual bond in order to enjoy a physical one. Also do not message me if you think you can change my relationship preference. I was in a monogamous relationship for 13.5 years and will never do it again.

I enjoy helping others, learning about myself, learning about others, thinking about new things I want to try, my children, my partners and my friends.

I also think a lot about, energy balancing, tantra, magick, sexual experimentation ( I like to be kinky on occasion), and life in general.

I love to experience new things, and I love to push my own limits. I like to think about what makes "me" tick. I also like to observe others and figure out what makes them tick as well.

I enjoy cuddling, giving and receiving massage (I used to do it professionally), holding hands, falling asleep in my lover's arms, looking into people's eyes, making friends, helping others, learning, sleeping during the day, and staying up all night.

I have issues with the sun, so I tend to avoid it. The bright light and UV rays tend to give me migraines.

48 Year Old · Female · Joined on July 27, 2006 · Born on February 23rd · 39 referrals joined! · I have a crush on someone!

Polyamory is about having meaningful long-term relationships with multiple partners, not sex.

My favorite analogy regarding polyamory is relating it to a rose bush. The main stem is the individual. Each branch can be a partner. The branches grow and bloom just as relationships do. Each branch adds to the beauty of the whole plant. Roses have thorns, just as relationships have difficult times. If you cut a branch with a rose off and place it in a vase (monogamy) it will last a short while then fade away no matter how well you take care of it. If you leave the branch on the rose bush (polyamory), nurture it, and the rest of the plant, it will continue to grow and bloom year after year. Occasionally the branches will die, just as relationships do, and those branches must be trimmed back so they do not sap the strength of the rest of the plant. New branches grow to replace the lost one, but the plant continues to add beauty and enrich the lives of those people represented by each branch.

The Benefits of a Polyamorous Relationship

Relieving Pressure of Meeting Needs

When you allow for more partners, you are able to enjoy the qualities of several people that, together, are able to meet a much greater percentage of your interpersonal needs. This has the advantage of "taking the heat" off of single partner relationships to provide what a partner is not able to provide. No two people are exactly alike, or share the exact same interests. Polyamory allows you to have people that you care about that share different interests and can meet different needs. These needs can be simple interests, or more complex: perhaps one partner wants children, while another does not. Polyamory allows the first partner to have children with another person, so that the desire to be a parent does not interfere with the first loving relationship.

On the flip side of having all of your partner's needs met, is of course the comfort of knowing that your own needs will be met as well.

Deeper Non-sexual Friendships

Have you ever seen a relationship (either your own, or someone else's) where one partner was jealous of a deep, non-sexual friendship that the other partner had? It is not uncommon for a partner in a conventional relationship to be jealous of these deeply emotional friendships. A feeling of insecurity arises at the thought of a partner being so close to another person, and jealousy is often felt over the time spent with that friend. In many conventional relationships, these types of friendship are frowned upon because they are close enough to warrant a sexual relationship, which is a natural human expression of such emotion. However, just because someone has a close emotional relationship with someone, does not mean that they have to have sex, and that is what many "monogamous-minded" people don't always realize.

Polyamory does not necessarily mean you have to have sexual relationships, it also allows you to develop these kinds of deep friendships with people without fear of your significant other (S.O.) getting jealous. A polyamorous relationship is not something that everyone can be successful at, but if people could learn to handle a monogamous relationship in such a way as to allow your S.O. to have the deep emotional friendships, and at least have someone to fulfill their NON-sexual needs, monogamy would be much more successful.

Keeps the Love Alive

How often have you heard someone say that they miss that "in love" feeling? That when their marriage/relationship was new, it was more "alive". People long for the "sparks" that they remember. In poly discussion groups, we call this NRE* (*new relationship energy/excitement). NRE is partially the effort that we make in a new relationship to prove to our partner that we are "special"... that we are "the one". In many relationships, once the relationship becomes settled, we can get lost in familiarity, and caught up in the monotonous schedules of daily life. No matter how much we may love that person, we forget to show how special we are, or to show our partner how much we love them. So how does Polyamory help that? As strange as it may seem to some people, when you are in a new relationship, or your lover is in a new relationship and you discuss it with each other, you are reminded of all the little things you did to romance one another. You remember what it was like to be constantly trying to keep a new lover's attention, the things you did to show your interest and prove you were "the one". When love is involved, you find yourself not only practicing those niceties with your new lover, but with your old as well... and when you discuss it with them, and they remember, they begin to do the same. The new relationship is fun, and manages to bring new life to the old relationship in the process.

New and Unusual Friendships

One of the best benefits is the opportunity for a new and unusual friendship. Getting to know your partner's new lover, and forming a friendship with them if they are comfortable with that. It is not everyday that you have a friend that you can be truly candid with about aspects of your own relationship. Being in love with the same person consentually and unconditionally forms an unusual bond between two people that is indescribable.

*Definitions modified and used from "Loving More" and various informational publications

Famous polyamorous people

* Simone de Beauvoir, Jean-Paul Sartre, and Olga Kosakiewicz

* William Wilkie Collins

* William Marston, Elizabeth Marston, and Olive Byrne

* Percy Shelley

* Eric S. Raymond

* Amelia Earhart

* Robert A. Heinlein

* Emma Goldman

* Vita Sackville-West and Harold Nicolson
Favorite Music...hmmm....Generally, I like goth, ambient, industrial, ethereal, and steam punk music. Here are a few of my favorite groups. Lesiem, QNTAL, Die Form, Lacrimosa, Pussance, Helium Vola, Midnight Syndicate, L'Ame Immortelle, Delerium, Enya, Dargaard, VNV Nation, Ah Cama Sotz, Hayden, Alexandre Desplat, Beethoven, Collection D'Arnell Andrea, Arcana, Dead Can Dance, Tchaikovsky, Clan of Xymox, Mussorgsky, Era, Evanescence, Holst, Fields of the Nephilim, The Retrosic, Silke Bischoff, Nick Cave, Viavaldi, Tangerine Dream, Weltenbrand, Gary Stadler, Sardonyx, Berloiz, Black Sabbath, Mozart, Nox Arcana, Inkubus Sukkubus, OLD Rush, OLD Depeche Mode, and various Hard Rock, Heavy Metal, and Alternative Artists. I haven't met a Classical composer I do not like, and if I have, I don't remember their name.
Favorite Movies...good sci-fi. I will watch just about anything. I like horror, drama, action, dark humor, and docu-dramas. My favorite movie of all time is the original Dune. I also own a copy of Threads, an amazing realistic docu-drama of the aftermath of a nuclear attack.

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