I believe that every person should at least at some point in their life experience what it's like to feel like they are the center of the universe and know what it's like to be loved unconditionally just for being who they are without having to do anything. Just stand there, be yourself, and be loved. If I don't have that approach towards every relationship in my life, then what will my habitual approach be when the ideal one comes along? Also when you do that from the bottom of your heart and you are sincere, that's when the Law of Attraction kicks in. Never in my life have I demanded commitment from anyone even in monogamous relationships. If monogamy is to occur, I think that it should come from within, voluntary, spontaneously, not based on any kind of expectations, or social standards. That's because I believe that a relationship is a moment-to-moment decision. If at any point my significant other wants to be somewhere else, with someone else, they should have the right to go there. That way I know for a fact that when they are spending time with me, that is what's really in their heart and I will treasure that. I overall have a strong policy against forcefulness, jealousy, and possessiveness towards others and myself... although, of course if you are human, at least on some occasions one would experience at least brief feelings of wanting to force things to happen a certain way...there’s no way of completely avoiding feeling that once in a while. It's a matter of rationalizing through it. It's a matter of asking myself, "What will I achieve by guilt tripping a person into spending time with me instead of doing something else they want to be doing?" ÂBasically an unhappy, bitter person who might be physically present there with me, but mentally and emotionally somewhere else. Even if you tell them to go ahead and do what they want but hold anger inside towards them, they will feel it, and the whole time they are out there trying to enjoy themselves, they are feeling worried and guilty and fearful. They will come back resenting you for depriving them of the fullness of the experience. Who am I to take that away from them? Also you know how when you discover something fascinating or read an amazing book and you want to tell everyone about it. Well, if I think someone is absolutely magnificent and magical, how dare I steal that away from the rest of the world? It's that unconditional love, coming from a place of security, and fully trusting that person to do what's right for them. Knowing that they will come back, and knowing that they know that you will still be there when they come back. Wow, that’s some intense Surrender right there that I would love to share with a like minded individual! And if they don't come back, then why would you want to be with a person who does not want to be there in the first place. You can't beat someone's heart into submission. Wouldn't you rather know the truth than live a lie?