Or perhaps the person that they cheated with, is a slut or a whore, or just an asshole trying to get laid. You hear this all the time, and the funny thing is that this is the first thing that friends and family will tell you. You don't hear them tell you that it was your own fault. It is always easier to blame someone else rather than take the blame yourself. People always think to themselves why did he/she do this to me. What have I done to deserve such a betrayal from this person. And the question that everybody should be asking is what have I or could have done to prevent this from happening.
The truth is that people cheat for two reasons. The first is lack of team work that is there in the relationship. Which I will discuss in part 2 of this blog series.
The reason I would like to focus on in the first part, is about SEX. The sexual act has nothing to do with love other than the closeness that touch brings to the people involved. Sex is not only natural but it is a human need and desire. It is a part of a relationship that promotes closeness between people in an intimate fashion. Although sex is not the only thing that matters, it is a part of a relationship that is necessary in order for it to succeed and grow. People don't cheat because they don't love you, they don't cheat because they need that physical touch, or they need the release they get after the sexual act. I believe a majority of the reasons why people cheat is because they feel neglected or feel like they are unimportant or insignificant in the relationship. Usually because the relationship just plainly feels to be one sided. This most likely is the main reason why people cheat. You have to understand that people who cheat are cowards and have no sense of integrity or honor. Because if this person has to cheat to prove a point because they are being neglected or aren't being heard they should either speak up or hit the road and let you know what the problem is this is where that communication thing plays in. Back to the subject at hand though which is sex. If you are in a relationship with someone, sex is not something that should be looked at as a chore. Sex is something that has to become an integral part of the relationship on a normal basis either daily or weekly. If you are truly a person that is genuinly tired all the time and you don't have the energy for this. You basically have two choices. Either start going to the gym or do some excercises to get in shape and build some stamina. Or just come to the realization that eventually even the most loyal, loving and honest person given the right circumstances will get there needs fullfilled from somewhere else not necessarily with someone else but in some other form and the need from the other person will simply vanish people are only human. And that you allowed this to happen because you don't care enough to service your woman or your man. Now I am not saying that there isn't a time where people are legitmately tired and just want to relax sometimes or perhaps it is medically related. But there are certain things that can be done without having to go through the whole sexual act. Sometimes just showing affection whether it be kissing, hugging, or perhaps a certain oral activity will fullfill and satisfy a need or desire that is there. This usually is enough. This all depends on how much of a need or desire this person has or requires. One important thing to remember guys and girls is that these things should be mutual not one-sided. Though some people might think that having your own personal sex slave is a good thing it is not. For any relationship to trully stand the test of time and one that will become everything you wish it to be You have to understand that in a relationship with someone there has to be a sharing of both of your needs and desires. And that nobody in a relationship speaks for themselves alone. Whatever you do in the relationship it is for the good of you both and not just yourself.
