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You know it's funny when you actually sit down and analyze not only yourself but others as well. There is one thing you come to realize and that is that everyone in the world is the same, no one is better than you and you are no better than anyone else. For the most part people in general are often selfish and think of themselves above others. They tend to think that the world owes them something. Most people usually don't figure this out until later in life when it is to late and their life is almost over. They wasted their whole life trying to be the most important thing in the world, when the world is so much more important than they are. If you ask yourself if your were to die tomorrow would anybody miss you other than family and close friends. Would people remember you in 10 years, would people say nice things about you, would they have plenty of fond memories of you that they would cherish for their entire life, or would they just move on to their next friend or loved one, while you become a fading memory. People realize when it is to late that they should have or could have done something in their life that was meaningful and made their existence worth while for themselves and others.

You can ask 100 people this one question and most people don't know how to answer it. It is "What do you enjoy doing in your life that makes everything worth while" it is a simple question but most people find it difficult to answer. When the answer is very simple what do you do in your life that makes you happy as well as others. If you can answer this then you are living a worth while life. I am not saying that the rest of the people in society are living a worth less life. But people often try to think that being happy in life means finding a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife in order to be happy or maybe even just having kids accomplishes this feat. People are generally so focused on this that they forget what is really important and that is just living a positive happy life, doing whatever it is that makes you happy. Everybody is different and what might make me happy is not necessarily going to make you happy. But people in this world should not and do not have the right to judge anybody else saying that whatever their doing is wrong. If you are happy by doing whatever it is you are doing you should keep doing it if it makes you happy.

When it comes to relationships between a husband and a wife, you find that people often try to change the other person to suit their needs. But ask yourself this question is this right, is this fair, would you like to conform to whatever it is that the other person wants you to be, or would you like them to conform to what you would like them to be.
Either way is wrong, and this is the root of why most people have feelings of resentment towards their loved ones. If you can not except the way that a person is when you meet them or when you learn of there problems that you have with them. If it is not something that is fixable and I mean other than their personality and traits, or their morale compass then you should move on and find someone else that suits your needs.  Nobody is perfect regardless of whether you think you are, chances are you definitely are not especially if you think you are. Perhaps perfect for a particular person but not perfect as a whole. Most people should find people that are compatible with themselves in things such as interests, lifestyle, physical and emotional needs and desires. Even though physical needs generally drift into oblivion because what stands the test of time is the rest of the persons traits. If you can sit back and think in your head and honestly see yourself with this person waking up to them 50 years down the road, and you having to put up with the same personality, their same values and quirks then you are living and you have a very worth while and happy life and relationship. But understand they will also have to put up with your issues as well. Things that come with it such as kids, do not necessarily make for a happy life for yourself, because even that can be misguiding especially if the relationship is not strong enough in the first place. Having a baby is not going to strengthen your relationship just prolong the inevitable. In order to have strong relationship it takes a lot of commitment, devotion, patience, strength, and a need for the other person. If you can place the other persons needs above your own and they can do the same then that is when you know you have the need and the desire in your relationship in order to create a long term future with this person. Personally I think it is wise and important to have a very stable and strong relationship financially and emotionally prior to having kids. The reason why is because usually people get together and right away want to have kids, because they are all in love and want to create something special with this other person. Years go by and when the kids are out of the house, that is when the two people realize that they know nothing about the other person and they have nothing in common, because they have change throughout this time and the other person did not see this because the focus was one the kids. People spend most of the 18 years raising a kid. The relationship for all intensive purposes is put on hold. Don't get me wrong nothing is wrong with kids, but kids should be planned not accidents. Not to mention if the relationship does not happen to last 18 year then this is not fair to the individuals involved especially for the kids.
 
Perhaps you might get nothing from this blog or you might think I am mistaken or just plain nuts. I don't know everything I look at what I see and what I have observed in people or what I have noticed in society. However like everyone else I have my own opinion as well. To me personally I would like to say I would like to find someone where my world revolves around them and there world revolves around mine, this doesn't mean that we should smother each other we all need are space it just means that I would like to find someone who wants to share their life with mine as I would share mine with theirs, but our commitment would be to be together as one, or as a team following a common goal or path.

Most people kind of hope that the people they meet in their lives are true and honest and value the relationship they have with them. We all have this need to be happy in our lives, and when you do something in your life that makes you happy, it is always better when you can share that happiness with someone else and make them happy as well, to grow and learn together as a so called unit or as one.

It is a thought that if people were really like this, the world would be a much happier place to live in. But the reality is that there are a lot of bitter miserable people making other people feel miserable. Mainly because they have a miserable life so everybody else needs to be as miserable as they are. Nothing in life is so bad that can not be changed. We all have choices to make, you could either be a happy person with a great life, or a miserable person living a life that resembles a pile of crap. It is your choice and your choice alone nobody should ever tell you how you should live your life. People can suggest kind of like I am doing right now. But we all know deep down inside what will make us happy, and we should all do whatever we can to achieve this.

One of my favorite quotes is from Jimi Hendrix which is so simple and honest that shows the basic truth as to what I am mean in this blog.

"I am the one who is going to die when it is time for me to die, so let me live my life, the way I want to" Jimi Hendrix

David

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