Red Queen of Broken Hearts's blog: "Tale of the broken heart"

I was reading some articles about why we fall in love and why we cheat... 

Why we fall in love seems simple enough.. 

There is a rush of chemicals to the brain "similar to a cocaine high" according to one article I read.. 

Men tend to fall in love easier or faster (for want of a better term) than women do because they are more visual.. 

In fact, men tend to be the first one to say "I love you" in a relationship.. around 60% of the time according to another article.. 

Now then, when it comes to cheating seems things can get way more complicated.. 

While high percentages of both sexes agree that cheating for any reason is wrong it still happens in approximately 50% of relationships.. 

So why do people cheat?

One article I read basically laid all blame at the feet of the person cheated on and not the cheater.. 

Another article listed 25 reasons why.. I'm not going to list them all here... 

In a nutshell tho it would seem that they boil down to a couple of basics.. 

Either there is a problem in the relationship or there is a psycological reason within the person who is cheating.. 

If there is a problem in the relationship that has caused someone to cheat there is at least 1 other problem, communication.  

If couples would talk to each other that would probably go a long way toward preventing cheating.. 

Now I'm, obviously, no expert on successful relationships.. I am a veteran of 2 failed marriages and 2 failed relationships since then... 

My marriages ended because my husbands cheated.. I have looked within myself to see if I could figure out why they would do that.. trying to find out if it was because of something I did or did not do... 

All I can say is that I tried to be a good wife.. and if I failed.. I'm sorry..