Over 16,540,123 people are on fubar.
What are you waiting for?
Ever been offered to "play the game" with someone? I was. I didn't realize what it meant to "play the game," or even to "play the game with someone." I honeslty did not know what that meant. The main reason I didn't know what it meant was due mostly to the fact that I was not yet aware of the 'rules' of the 'game,' or what other people expected me to act like playing this so called 'game.' I had NO guidance whatsoever. I was just expected to know.
I got on here with no intention of 'hooking up,' or using Fubar as a dating website. Sure, I flirt, and who doesnt'? But what does flirting mean? Are there different levels of flirting? I mean, are there things I could do that would be taken as stronger signs of flirting? Or are all 'acts' of flirting considered equally? Then you have to consider who you are flirting with and how they are going to take the flirting. Some people are going to consider the same act of flirting differently than other people would. I might buy a 5 coin bling for someone and they take it casually or mildly whereas another person thinks I'm 'interested' in them emotionally and want to pursue a meaninful relationship outside of Fubar. How does one handle these kinds of different outcomes?
Do we make a set of ethical standards within the 'game' of Fubar so as to ensure that everyone knows or should know BEFORE we flirt or act towards another member or player of the game that we only intend to mildly be nice and that this flirtatin is not an invitation to sharing a life together, having children or otherwise changing one's life around to be with that other person. I, for one, believe I should make such a list - and expect anyone who deals with me to understand that list before we 'flirt' and what each 'act of flirtation' means and signifies.
Even if I sent multiple drinks, bling or whatever to another player of the game, be them opposite sex or whatever, these acts DO NOT SIGNIFY by necessity, that I am somehow interested or that I propose and hope to be with that person. Yet, simple-minded people take other's actions and tell them what these actions mean instead of discussing these, by the way PUBLIC, actions with the person who is actually doing them. Simple-minded folks. Got to hate them really. I am reminded of the Farside cartooon where God is in his workshop and you see Earth in a baking pan, and God is holding a salt or pepper shaker full of jerks as the label says, and sprinkling the Earth with jerks. I mean, wouldn't Fubar be a lot more fun if people stopped this petty beauty parlor gossip and minded their own beeswax? Don't these people realize that they too qualify for the same treatment they put others through?
Is not the game of Fubar meant for us to be social? Are we not allowed to be attempt to be social with whomever we choose? What freedom(s) are restricted by someone else's jealousy, resentment and bitter pent up anger being projected outward on to our every decision? Is it bad enough we have to block other people but that they enable and employ third party spies to check up on you? Pathetic? Petty? You bet it is. Welcome to Fubar.
But then it isn't really Fubar that causes the trouble but people who misuse the site that cause the trouble. I do think Fubar should consider being harsher on people who are out to make a misery of other's experience on the site - currently they only offer "blocking" which we all know does not really deter the hardened stalker or bitter, rejected, jealous minded and mostly bored slanderer set out to defame you.
Ever meet someone like that? If you won't be on best terms with them then they refuse to allow you to be on good terms with anyone - so they set about to sabotage any and all relations you have here by selecting from your list of 'friends' and 'family' people they will contact and defame you in front of in hopes that that person will get scared or run away. I have someone here that does that very thing to me. She runs them through a timeline of what she thinks is my life - ensuring that she is coming off as a Saint and I come off as an absolute bastard. What could we say about such a person?
