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Would those who write or speak about a story they are involved in be truly honest about their role in the story? Or do they come off as a Saint or hero that tried to work with some ruffian, or demon and gave themselves, sacrified? Should we not hear the alleged ruffian's side of the story? Perhaps the Sait is nothing but the demon in disguise?
In my case it certainly is true that a demon is disguised and haunting my chapel. And I hate the woman. Oh how I hate her. If given license to act as I pleased she must needs hide away and sew her venom spewing, lying mouth shut.
Where else can I express such frustrations among the community in which they are sewn? And yet, I take care to conceal her identity - I do not drag her life through a public forum because I feel rejected and bitter. I do not drag her personal details through a public forum, though I could, even make worse here what it is she truly does, and the lies she spins, dejected woman she is, pathetic, yet a decade goes by and she is frozen in time like nothing has happened since then. I pity these people. They are so far beneath a person who has ambition and love for life - for the bitter and scorned are parasitic to those who would stand outside in the light and sun - feeding off of their good vibes and interest in life, whereas the parasite has nothing more to do than to work their negativity and spend time sucking the blood of the good.
One thing these parasites do is misinterpret word as it causes confusion and confusion is the bosom in which they live and thrive - spreading falsehoods and lies. Again, had I the license to do justice to such parasites - she would find succor in only the deepest, darkest hole of which she already lives and thrives.
Grotesque telling others details that are one-sided, lied about, and wrong - disgusting - liable to civil suit - please continue feeding us all the evidence for your own destruction. I would enjoy taking that which you now own tryiing to pay your civil wrong - yes, it is actionable. Be very careful. Very careful.
All men (inclusively taken to mean everyone) should stand up beside me - and take a stand against the vile gossip, the vile reputation ruining parasite that uses someone elses good energy to feed off of and destroy because inside they are bitter, angry and disugsted with themselves and their lives.
Remember there are TWO sides to every story - and these can vary differently. The person telling you a story, if they are in the story, are likely to leave out all the bad things that would refer to them and emphasize the good things, where it comes to the person they are trying to hurt they add and emphasize bad things and diminish or eliminate all good things to the story. Don't be fooled. Don't be a tool and used by one version of a story like some people here have - they are tools. Literally in the same sense as a means to an end.
Ever been offered to "play the game" with someone? I was. I didn't realize what it meant to "play the game," or even to "play the game with someone." I honeslty did not know what that meant. The main reason I didn't know what it meant was due mostly to the fact that I was not yet aware of the 'rules' of the 'game,' or what other people expected me to act like playing this so called 'game.' I had NO guidance whatsoever. I was just expected to know.
I got on here with no intention of 'hooking up,' or using Fubar as a dating website. Sure, I flirt, and who doesnt'? But what does flirting mean? Are there different levels of flirting? I mean, are there things I could do that would be taken as stronger signs of flirting? Or are all 'acts' of flirting considered equally? Then you have to consider who you are flirting with and how they are going to take the flirting. Some people are going to consider the same act of flirting differently than other people would. I might buy a 5 coin bling for someone and they take it casually or mildly whereas another person thinks I'm 'interested' in them emotionally and want to pursue a meaninful relationship outside of Fubar. How does one handle these kinds of different outcomes?
Do we make a set of ethical standards within the 'game' of Fubar so as to ensure that everyone knows or should know BEFORE we flirt or act towards another member or player of the game that we only intend to mildly be nice and that this flirtatin is not an invitation to sharing a life together, having children or otherwise changing one's life around to be with that other person. I, for one, believe I should make such a list - and expect anyone who deals with me to understand that list before we 'flirt' and what each 'act of flirtation' means and signifies.
Even if I sent multiple drinks, bling or whatever to another player of the game, be them opposite sex or whatever, these acts DO NOT SIGNIFY by necessity, that I am somehow interested or that I propose and hope to be with that person. Yet, simple-minded people take other's actions and tell them what these actions mean instead of discussing these, by the way PUBLIC, actions with the person who is actually doing them. Simple-minded folks. Got to hate them really. I am reminded of the Farside cartooon where God is in his workshop and you see Earth in a baking pan, and God is holding a salt or pepper shaker full of jerks as the label says, and sprinkling the Earth with jerks. I mean, wouldn't Fubar be a lot more fun if people stopped this petty beauty parlor gossip and minded their own beeswax? Don't these people realize that they too qualify for the same treatment they put others through?
Is not the game of Fubar meant for us to be social? Are we not allowed to be attempt to be social with whomever we choose? What freedom(s) are restricted by someone else's jealousy, resentment and bitter pent up anger being projected outward on to our every decision? Is it bad enough we have to block other people but that they enable and employ third party spies to check up on you? Pathetic? Petty? You bet it is. Welcome to Fubar.
But then it isn't really Fubar that causes the trouble but people who misuse the site that cause the trouble. I do think Fubar should consider being harsher on people who are out to make a misery of other's experience on the site - currently they only offer "blocking" which we all know does not really deter the hardened stalker or bitter, rejected, jealous minded and mostly bored slanderer set out to defame you.
Ever meet someone like that? If you won't be on best terms with them then they refuse to allow you to be on good terms with anyone - so they set about to sabotage any and all relations you have here by selecting from your list of 'friends' and 'family' people they will contact and defame you in front of in hopes that that person will get scared or run away. I have someone here that does that very thing to me. She runs them through a timeline of what she thinks is my life - ensuring that she is coming off as a Saint and I come off as an absolute bastard. What could we say about such a person?
Simply put, is it not the case that each of us should have the right to tell our story? When someone does not like you or sets about to hurt you they try to tell your story for you in a hurtful and destructive way - to show you in the worst possible way - and for what reason do they tell your story for you in a bad way? To get attention? To cause you trouble and pain? What, you must ask yourself, does someone else get from telling others YOUR story or things in your life. when in fact, it is you who should be telling your story? Would you not want to be the person that controls, tells and is responsible for telling your story? What if everywhere you went someone got there first or just after you and slandered you? To friends, family or work?
If you want to know me then the best person to talk to IS ME. If you want to know who I am, then listening to gossip, libel, rumors are pretty lame. Very childish. Extremely teenage. Do you call yourself an adult? Or are you chronologically an adult, but mentally stunted as a child still? An adult adolescent as we call them.
When I hear someone else tell me another person's story or about their life, I think, "I would rather hear a first hand account instead," because someone who borrows something (as people do when they try to tell a story they are only a secondary source of or maybe a tiertiary or worse source - he said she said bullshit) from you is unlikely to treat it with the same care and respect you would, or even purposely damages it with intention to cause you harm.
I know of a bitter, old, tired woman who does just this very thing. She tells stories of other people's lives with bad intention. She is frozen in time. She speaks words that try to paint pictures of the distant past as though they had happened only yesterday. Her paintings always show her in shining light and polished armor, whereas the people she damages are left as grease stains, spewtum, demons, or ghouls. She is only capable of telling one side to a story, but acts as this story is the real article, the genuine reality to "how it really was," when in fact time, interpretation, perspective are all turned around and twisted into grotesque ministrations and mechanations invented in her own mind and projected outward to defame, defile, slander and libel only for the sake of her own interests and justifications.
Fortunately time is not on her side. She may go to the grave being this bitter, pent up, angry soul but for her sake, I hope she finds peace, forgiveness with herself and perspecitve on a much larger picture in life than her petty quabbles and irritating, if adolescent fixations, before she meets her Maker. She has used, abused, told absolute lies, and acted callously and recklessly.
Tired, old, bitter....I would never want to share a life with such a person, nor would I want to be known by such a person, yet it is the latter for which I suffer and had I known this were true of this bitter, angry person, I would have stayed away for my own sake. A decade has passed and it is to her as though no time has gone by whatsoever.
I could tell the whole of Fubar about her tired, bitter life - I could. But why bother with something so uninteresting and petty?
