The term hot wife is often used to describe a happily married woman
who enjoys intimate relations with other men, with her loving
husband's full and genuine support, but where he typically agrees to
be completely monogamous with his wife. Both spouses derive
satisfaction from the wife's extramarital pleasures. The husband is
not necessarily submissive, although the couple may role-play that
the wife relentlessly flaunts her "infidelity" in front of her
husband.
It is understandable that this arrangement can appeal to women with a
polygamous nature, but it is far from obvious why so many husbands
are genuinely into this seemingly unfair arrangement. The husband is
turned on by his wife's adultery, whether this happens as part of a
heterosexual threesome where she first has sex with her lover and
then her husband, or if the husband is not present during her
adventure, waits impatiently for his wife to come home from her date
so that he can make love to her. You are forgiven if you wrongly
believe that the husband is hoping for his wife to reaffirm to him
that only he can truly satisfy her sexually. No, her husband gets
more excited the more the wife enjoys her extramarital lovers! When
the hot wife is back in her husband's arms, she will often
graphically describe the intensity of the orgasms she has just
experienced with another man or men.
The wife's sexual pleasure should not be confused with her romantic
feelings - she is only in love with her husband. To minimize the risk
that she develops a romantic interest in a lover, the couple has
typically agreed to certain rules so that she for example only sees
the same lover a few times, that there is a significant age
difference, and that her lovers never are part of the couple's
regular social, professional or family circles.
Hot wife relationships are often first suggested by the husband who
has fantasized about, if he ever gets enough courage to overcome his
embarrassment and bring it up with his wife. The wife tends at best
to react with complete amazement, at worst with severe hostility -
even if she herself has fantasized about being with other men. She
does so for good reasons: whilst there are common biological reasons
for why the husband can be excited by his wife's adultery, the
reverse is rarely true and she therefore suspects that her husband
has some other sinister reason for asking. Does he feel guilt because
he has cheated on her? Doesn't he love her anymore? Is he bisexual?
Is he suggesting this as a first step to later justify that he should
have the right to be with other women? Little does she know that the
husband's thought of his own wife having sex with another man tends
to rank as the second or third most preferred fantasy amongst married
men, and it increases with how long the couple has been married.
It is one of life's ironies that men with hotwives often become very
committed to themselves being faithful the more promiscuous their
wives are. The husband typically finds his wife sexier than ever
before - even when they first met - and the excitement of competing
for his own wife highly erotic and exciting. There are accounts from
wives that upon becoming hotwives, not only did they experience great
sex and fun, but their husbands became more loving and romantic,
bought them more gifts and vacations and started to take a greater
interest in household duties - classical actions by a man seeking to
gain a lady's affection. Few wives can even in the slightest imagine
that her no-nonsense husband who most definitely wears the pants in
the house, possibly could be the type who would greet her with a
passionate kiss in the early morning as she comes back to a picked-up
house, knowing full well that his wife has just spent hours in bed
being pleasured by one of her lovers! Now, before too many wives get
their hopes up - only a minority of husbands - although a sizeable
minority - would react in this way. And most husbands even in this
minority will react with traditional jealous rage if he catches his
wife cheating on him and where no hot wife arrangement has been
discussed and agreed to in advance. The husband's complete trust in
his wife is fundamental for him to accept a hot wife arrangement.
