Following up on the previous question about the terms "husband of a
hotwife" a "cuckold", there is also a variety of terms for the
hotwife's lover.
Could you explain the nuances between terms such
as "bull", "stud", "lover", "companion", and "playmate?"
As a guy who has fun with hotwives, I like to use the term playmate.
To me, it connotes that hotwifing is about fun and pleasure for the
wife (and subsequently the hubby and the playmate).
Your thoughts?
Some People find it interesting that I have a preference for what I
like to be called (or referred to) in the Hotwife lifestyle. Meaning
that the terms we use when referring to the Extra male in a Hotwife
couple's life is going to vary depending on the couple.
For example: some women desire romance and prefer to be made love to.
They might refer to their playmates as "Lovers."
For women who have a steady favorite or two and have a fondness for
familiarity, the term "Boyfriend" might feel more appropriate. For
these women, an actual relationship exists with their man/men that
extends beyond the bedroom. It tends to be a term of endearment as
well as a fairly accurate description of their relationship.
The term "Companion" eludes me a bit. To me it sounds like an old-
fashioned way a lady might seem fit to describe a gentleman caller or
a man who might chaperone her for the evening without any real
attachment. But that's just me. Keep in mind, I only speak from my
own experience.
"Bull" is often used to describe the sexual partner of a Hotwife in
which the husband is more of a cuckold. The clear reference is to the
male bovine, or bull, which is sent into the pen to take the fertile
female(s) and spread his seed. He is dominant and in control. He is
assertive compared to the Hotwife's cuckold who takes on a more
submissive role.
"Stud" is basically the same reference as "Bull," with its roots
coming from the arena of horses rather than cattle. When a horse-
owner desired a stud, it was for breeding purposes ~ the better the
stallion, the higher the price for it's seed. Obviously, we use the
term "Stud" these days to mean that a guy is really masculine and
deserving of female attention. You can fill in the rest on your own.
You already defined "Playmate" as well as anyone could. It definitely
conotates the idea of fun and pleasure all rolled up in one awesome
package!
However you slice it, name it, brand it or type it, the Extra male is
a major player in the life of a Hotwife couple! As William
Shakespeare reminds us, "What's in a name? That which we call a Rose,
by any other name would smell as sweet!"
Boyfriend or lover works just fine for me!