I met Chad (Shederick Deon Farrell) in an online chat room on Blackplanet.com. This was June 2004. We hit it off pretty good...talking from 11pm to 6am. We talked about anything and everything...just laughing and having fun. Found out he was a truck driver with 10yrs OTR experience...(for those non-truck people...OTR means "Over The Road" or "On the Road"...lol)
Later on we decided to finally meet each other...and the rest like they say...was "History". At the time he was living in Columbus, OH and I in Cincinnati, OH...so the distance between us wasnt that bad...we would see each other about every other week. Finally, One day he asked me to be his girl...and I said YES!...I believed I had finally found someone for me...my own special someone...Oh I had friends and BEST friends and even "Special" Best friends...but I had noone that I could say was completely mine and I his. Well, now I did.
We were together for 2yrs...and maybe to some that wasnt a long time...but for me...it seemed like forever and it was good. Yes we did have our ups and downs...dont most couples? Our fights and disagreements...but somehow we could never stay mad at each other for too long...so we would make up...:)...We had even broken up a couple of times...but never could manage to stay broke up...
On May 29, 2005...came something that I'd never thought would happen in my lifetime....He asked me to marry him! Of course I said YES!!!! It was one of the happiest days of my life....We started to plan...for the EVENT OF EVENTS...well to us at least...lol
But destiny must have known...and fate must had decided that this Union was not meant to be...This was not the one I am supposed to spend the rest of my life with...In July 2006, we broke up...not mad or angry...for we decided that if we couldnt be together as Husband and Wife...we would be together as Friends. We still loved each other and would do just about anything for each other...just not as Husband and Wife.
The pain of our breakup was evident...I cried constantly and so did he...we even talked about maybe one day getting back together and having children. But as the months went along...we both knew that we really were two different people with two distinct lifestyles...We both would have to compromise and that just wasnt in the cards...
We always kept in touch...I would call him and vice versa...laughing and talking like we always did...One day he asked me:"If I found someone...would you still be my friend?...Always...Always...I asked him the same and although he took a little longer to answer...he finally said Yes...lol...
We kept in touch up till Sunday, September 10, 2006 at 8:52 pm. Little did I know that would be the last time I'd speak to him...He was found dead in his truck on Wednesday, September 13....He was in Atlanta, Georgia...on his way to make a delivery in SC...He never made it.
The autopsy will be performed to find out what happened and the furneral will be on Tuesday of next week...in Fayetteville, NC. I found out at work at 4:30pm...His boss had called me on Tuesday evening asking me if I had heard from him...I told him no...the last time was on Sunday...he said he spoke to him on Monday night and he said he was ok...But Chad was a stubborn SOB...and even when he was sick he always said he was fine...that's one thing that would drive me crazy with him...I even called his cell phone with no response...so I left a message:"Chad I hope you are Ok...what are you doing? Everyone is looking for you and worried about you...please give me a call ASAP.
I loved and still love him with all my heart...not only that but I was in love with him as well...and he knew he would always have a home here in Cincinnati...no matter what...I dont know what happened but I hope that he wasnt in any pain...or met with any foul play...I hope he went peaceful...awaiting the day when he will see all those he loved and who loved him again...
"To all my "Lost Cherry" friends...new and old...my you have joy...peace...and happiness in your life...love those around you and let those around you love you...Dont let disagreements and misunderstandings get the best of you and yours...work in out...solve the problem...remain calm and patient in everything...for this life is not guaranteed or promised to us...So make the most of it...cherish it...embrace it...peace and my GOD bless!
