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NOTE: If you haven't taken a few minutes to check out all of the different programs I've put together to help you learn how to meet and date the kinds of women you've always wanted, then maybe now is a good time. Go here to get tips you can start using IMMEDIATELY: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/Catalog/?cid=ZZ3A3Z&lid=1 "The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women"And What To Do About It..." Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes... MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much of A "Nice" Guy Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys? Of course you have. Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU. What's going on here? It's actually very simple... Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. And guess what? Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you. I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT. Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want. MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince" Her To Like You What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested? Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently. Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION! Never, ever, EVER. You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning". Think about it. If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her? But we all do it. When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind. Bad idea. One that will never work. MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission". Another HORRIBLE idea. Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER. Don't get me wrong here. You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you. But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again. You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval. Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her... MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With Food And Gifts How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did? If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT. Well guess what? It's only NATURAL when this happens... That's right, I said NATURAL. When you do these things, you send a clear message: "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection". Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION. MISTAKE #5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In The Relationship With Her Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on. Attractive women are rare. And they get a LOT of attention from men. Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME by men. An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month. And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men. That's right. They have EXPERIENCE. They know what to expect. And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates. This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves. Don't do it. Lean back. Relax. There's a much better way... MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For Women Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction. But does the same apply for women? Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on? Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks. Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around? Think about it. Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone. If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman. But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this. And ANY guy can learn how... MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age. And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things. But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks. There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet... And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys. YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome. Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman. MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission. Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women. Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants. Another bad idea... Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies! MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women Now I'm going to blow your mind... A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking. Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES. I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it. And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help! And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating... Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything. If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING. And you KNOW it. It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom. MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP This is the biggest mistake of all. This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want. I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help. Hey, I've been there myself. Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women... About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to. It frustrated the hell out of me. One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating. Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out. I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well. It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone. I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women. I've written a book on the topic, and I've done seminars on both coasts of the United States... and taught tens of thousands of men all around the world. In addition to this email newsletter, I also have a killer downloadable eBook that you can download right now and be reading in literally MINUTES from right now. It's JAM PACKED with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for overcoming fear, approaching women, getting phone numbers and email address from women quickly, great inexpensive or even free date ideas, and how to take things to a "physical" level smoothly and easily. Download Your Copy Of The Online eBook Here http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/eBook/?cid=ZZ3A3Z&lid=2 I've also put together what is arguably the most complete educational product on planet Earth for DRAMATICALLY increasing your success with women. This new digitally recorded audio and video series contains over TWELVE full hours of me teaching all of the ideas, concepts, techniques, scripts, and secrets that it has taken me YEARS to learn. Now you can get all the benefits of hearing me teach my best ideas, all from the comfort of your own home. In this day and age of "instant gratification", I realize that this might just sound like another late-night infomercial promising to make you rich by next week. Well, that's not the case. I've spent a lot of time, effort, and energy making this program. I wanted to design and create a program that ANY guy could easily understand and start using IMMEDIATELY to meet and date more women... without having to lie, do dishonest things, or be "manipulative". I now believe that ANY man can be more successful with women and dating, and I get emails every day with success stories from guys who are using this program to meet and date wonderful women. I know, I know... an audio and video program that can teach a regular guy how to be more successful in the dating world? No way. Well believe me, this program will DRAMATICALLY increase your success with women... I absolutely guarantee it 100%. If you'd like to take your success with women and dating to the next level, and have the kind of success that you've always wanted, then go check out my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program. To get all the details, and check out some great free audio and video samples of the program, just go here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/?cid=ZZ3A3Z&lid=3 And I'll talk to you again in a couple of days... Your Friend, David D.

What Women Look For In A Man >NOTE: If you would like to see all of the different programs I've created to help you learn how to approach, meet, and date the kinds of women you've always wanted, then take a minute and look at this: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/Catalog/?cid=ABZZZ3&lid=1 I thought it would be interesting to give you a different point of view this time. And I thought it might be helpful to take you "behind the scenes", and show you what it's like for a woman when she's "looking" for a man. OK, to start with, I have something important to tell you: WOMEN ARE CRAZY. I know, profound. You can write me later and tell me how this new revelation has changed your life. But please calm down, collect yourself, and let me explain. Why do I say that women are "crazy"? Well, BECAUSE THEY ARE, first of all. lol... No, it's because women do something that SEEMS crazy (especially if you're a man). Women like to SAY ONE THING, but when the time comes around to actually ACT, they do something TOTALLY DIFFERENT. I could go into an essay on why this is, but for the purposes of this discussion, the most important reason has to do with EMOTIONS. Women tend to SAY what they THINK when they're asked a question. But they tend to ACT on their EMOTIONS when an actual SITUATION presents itself. Here's an example: You meet a woman, and get her number. You call her up. She agrees to meet you the next day for a cup of coffee. The next day comes around, and she doesn't show up. You call her. Something came up, and she just couldn't make it. Ever been there? What happened? (And doesn't it piss you off when women ALWAYS seem to do this? Me too.) Well, what HAPPENED is when you were talking to her on the phone, coffee the next day sounded fine. But when the next day showed up, something else that was more interesting came up, and she didn't FEEL like meeting you anymore. Or maybe she just decided that she DIDN'T FEEL like meeting you when she woke up the next day. Whatever. But it PROBABLY had something to do with her not FEELING the same way anymore. Now, if you're a man, you hear something like this and say "She lied. She said she would be there, and she didn't show up. She's a liar." Or you say "Women who do this lack integrity." Or even "Women are FLAKY!" Of course, ALL OF THESE ARE TRUE! lol... no, no, no. Just kidding. Well, I'm not kidding 100%, but I'm kidding. The point that I'm trying to make here is that when a woman says one thing, then does another, she sees that as being perfectly OK, because she's "just following her feelings". But from a MAN'S point of view, if a woman says one thing, then does another, she's either a liar, being flaky, or doesn't have integrity. Here's the point: Women aren't going to change "how they feel" about this topic anytime soon. So us guys are basically left with two main options in a situation like this one: 1) Keep banging our heads against the wall and expecting women to change, and start showing up when they say they will. 2) Learn how to make women FEEL like they want to actually show up for the meeting, so when they wake up the next day, they SHOW UP. Get it? Good. Now let's talk about the REAL topic of this newsletter... WHAT WOMEN LOOK FOR IN A MAN. Of course, in my usual style, I'm going to put an interesting twist on this concept. I'm going to argue that women will SAY that they "look for" one thing, but they actually RESPOND to something completely different. All guys know that women seem to be "naturally" attracted to things like fame, wealth, Brad-Pitt- handsomeness, height, etc. But I've now realized something that is actually pretty profound when you REALLY get it. I now believe that women DON'T KNOW what they are ACTUALLY responding to. In other words, these things like money and fame trigger EMOTIONS inside of women. And if you're NOT rich or famous or naturally handsome, you can get the same kinds of responses from women if you learn how to TRIGGER THE SAME EMOTIONS. So, in the end, what women are REALLY "looking for" is a man who triggers their ATTRACTION. Of course, a woman will never SAY this to you. If you ask a woman what she's looking for, she'll say "I'm looking for a nice, honest guy who is successful and cute". But if she actually MEETS this guy, and he just happens to be a WUSSY who acts needy and clingy, then she's NOT going to be into him. In this case, she won't respond to the guy that she's "looking for" by being attracted to him. And it won't work out. On the other hand, if this same woman meets a guy who ISN'T what she "thinks" that she's "looking for", but he triggers her ATTRACTION EMOTION, then it's all over. It DOESN'T MATTER if he's rich or handsome, because he's done something that TRUMPS these things. It has taken me a long time to actually get to the point where I BELIEVE this at a deep level. And the REASON I believe it is because I've never been the type of guy that women "approach". I have friends that are tall and handsome... and when we go out, women start conversations with them. Before I learned what I know now, women never felt that powerful, GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for me that they do for my taller, handsome friends. But NOW, now that I know how to use my body language and other communication to trigger the EMOTIONS in a woman, it's COMPLETELY different. I get responses from women that I actually considered IMPOSSIBLE before. And it's not because I grew 5 inches or became more handsome. It's because I KNOW SOMETHING that most guys just don't know. As you've read in these newsletters, there are certain techniques, like being Cocky & Funny, teasing women, never acting like a Wussy, etc. that will help you be successful as well. Use them. Use what you learn. There's a BIG difference between what women are "looking for" and what they RESPOND TO. Don't let anyone tell you any different. AND, if you're reading this right now, and you're saying to yourself "OK, it's time that I stopped wasting time screwing around, and I GOT MY BUTT IN GEAR and learned how to meet women", then you need to do yourself a HUGE favor. You need to TAKE ACTION, and get yourself a copy of my Advanced Dating Techniques program. It's taken me about FIVE YEARS to find, test, and develop the concepts that I teach in this program... and I guarantee that it will forever change the way you view the topic of women and dating. More importantly, it will help you walk out your front door, and meet more attractive women starting IMMEDIATELY. And I'm not kidding. When you get it, you'll be stunned. You'll probably lock yourself in your house for three days and listen to the whole thing. But when you finally unlock your door, and walk back out into the world, your interactions with women will be VERY different. I think I've said enough. Go read all about it, and check out the free audio and video samples here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/?cid=ABZZZ3&lid=2 And if you haven't downloaded your copy of my original eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need to do that immediately. It's the introduction to all of my concepts, and it's the perfect primer to get you ready for my Advanced Dating Techniques program. Details and free samples are here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/eBook/?cid=ABZZZ3&lid=3 And I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David D.

Meeting Women Online... And Other Great Places NOTE: Meeting women online is one of the best "practice grounds" there is... but most men just don't know how to pull it off. If you want to learn how to quickly meet and attract women right from your home computer, take a second and go check this out now: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/MeetingWomenOnline/?cid=ZZ3AKZ&lid=1 ***SUCCESS STORY*** Ive been a Wussy all my life, hooked up with a seemingly great gal, married, etc. and she started being unhappy. She wanted to separate and the more I tried to "give her what she wanted" the worse it got. So here I was, starting all over again. got your e-book and I was insulted at first about the things I read, but I tried not to judge it yet. I went on to test your theories and found a lot of it really works and is true, especially about not giving a woman what she wants (not directly or immediately anyway). I went onto get your Advanced DVD series and I am very impressed at how much more useful information is there, especially the stuff about re-programming the way we think about our selves and goals in situations. Ive started approaching more and more 10's (not that women should be "rated") being myself and most importantly: as if I could care less about talking to them, as if they owe me something already, poking fun at something they say, do, have, or are (short, amazon tall, etc) and bust their balls for it... but ALWAYS in a playful friendly way with a big cocky smile. They eat it up and cant get enough, so I try to pull back (thats where my problem is). Since im still a newbie I want to keep going but I realize thats exactly when I need to hit the breaks and give her the gift of missing me, and making her confused about what just happened so shell be thinking about me till we meet again ;) .. this wont be my last posting to you David!! >>>MY COMMENTS: Well, my hat is off to you. I don't actually wear a hat, but you get the idea. You have done something that I have A LOT of respect for... You've opened your mind to a new way of looking at something. You mentioned that when you first read my book you initially felt "insulted". But you also say that you tried not to judge what you were reading, and instead you went out and TESTED THE MATERIALS yourself to see if they actually worked for you. Look, this is a big deal. The reason I have so much admiration for you is because most men are too stuck in one way of thinking to even TRY something new. Every once in awhile I get an email from a guy who says "your techniques would NEVER work"... or "I'll bet you're making up all of the emails in your newsletters"... etc. I have to laugh to myself when I see this kind of thing. First of all, all you have to do is walk out your door, and TRY some of the things you're learning. Just TRY THEM. Test them out (like you did). Take a week of your life and try new things to see if they work. It so simple. But then again, I guess it isn't. Well, congratulations again for actually putting yourself out there, controlling your emotions, and putting it to the test. You're going to see DRAMATIC improvements in the near future with women. Again, you have my respect for doing something that most guys don't have the guts to do. ***SUCCESS STORY*** Dave, I've always been big into motivational materials. I've read every one of Napleon Hill's books at least 10 times each plus dozens of others from several authors. I bought your DVD series obviously to increase my success with women but the material applies to all areas of life. I've watched it over and over and over again during the past 2 months and the changes are amazing. A lot of potential I had locked up inside me seems to have been unleashed. Going out and having success with women definitely adds confidence to all areas of life but the self-image and self-confidence exercises you go through have had a lot to do with it as well. For quite some time I'd been working on finishing up a sales training book and audio program based on the huge success I've had in my selling career using unconventional methods. Finally, about a month ago while watching your program again something just snapped in my head and I sat down, got the website up, got the marketing started, finished up the product, and I'm already making more money from that than from my job and already have booked my first speaking engagement. Seriously, your program and the self-improvement messages and exercises had a lot to do with it. (Interestingly, I've also had the concept of perceived "fame" with women proven to me. My site has an "about the author" page with a photo and several women have already emailed me with pictures practically begging to meet me in person). The conversion rate from my homemade site has been high enough to justify the expense of having a custom professional site done which is in the works now. Dave, thanks not only for more success with women but in my life in general! Things are definitely going to the next level for me and this bit of business success has also changed my perspective and my "reality" with women in a big way too, and when I go out it's obvious that they know it without me having to say a word. FR Phoenix AZ >>>MY COMMENTS: Yes, as you can probably tell, I've read quite a few "self help" books myself, and spent a lot of time reading "motivational materials". I found something VERY SIMILAR to what you found in my journey over the last few years... Guys who go from unsuccessful to successful with women also tend to find success in other areas of their lives as well. There's something about being CONFIDENT in the fact that you can leave your house anytime, any day, anywhere and meet women that kind of puts your mind "at ease". I can remember five years ago or so in my own life... when I was single, I was insecure. That was that. If I didn't have a girlfriend, I felt this STRONG insecurity and weakness. It was a kind of "shadow" that covered all of the other areas of my life. Now things are very different. By the way, let's face reality for a minute... most guys are trying to be successful in life to attract women. Why do guys try to earn a lot of money? Why do guys strive for fame? Why do guys compete with each other? Of course, it's not ALL for women. But it is MOSTLY for women in the long run. Back to what I was saying... Now that I can meet women anytime I want, it has freed up a part of my mind that used to be devoted to trying to figure out how to get a girlfriend... and worrying because I didn't have one. And, of course, my own personal success has improved as well. I think you're right on track here... thanks for the email. ***QUESTION*** Dave, Finally a chance came to really test your book and I was overwhelmed by the results. I had gotten your online book about 6 months ago and now that I'm out of Student Teaching I have time to put it to work. I was the DD for a trip to a really hot club in NC. I overcame my fear of dancing and got out there. I was rejected by some girls but that didn't matter: I ended up spending some good time with the most INCREDIBLE looking woman I have ever seen. She is as if God had put her together out of all my favorite things in a woman. I played by the rules. Left her and danced with several others just when things were looking great. Just before closing time I've got her by the hand leading her to the bar. A couple of cocky/funny minutes and I have her email and phone number. What a confidence booster! Only thing is, she is spanish and doesn't speak english very well. Thank God I speak a little spanish myself. I just emailed her back (she wanted to know when I was moving to NC). But how to do C & F when English isn't the main language? Thanks, Boosted but needing help still. >>>MY COMMENTS: lol... say what? Now you know how to meet beautiful women, and you're emailing me to ask how to be Cocky & Funny by email with a woman who speaks a different language? lol... you're killing me. (lol=laugh out loud) Don't worry about being Cocky & Funny. This girl obviously likes you... Cocky & Funny is a PIECE of the formula. Not the entire thing. In this case, open up your "Bridges" report that you got with Double Your Dating, and READ IT AGAIN. You need to get in FRONT of this girl again, and DO SOMETHING! The hottest girl in the world is waiting for you, man. Don't dilly-dally. Now get to it, and quit wasting time writing her love letters! ***QUESTION*** David, I am a 51 year old widower who had dated pretty attractive women in high school and in college. But after being married twice and falling into the "yes dear" routine, I had definitely become a "wussy" boy over the past twenty years. I had been dating a few women recently, but not getting to first base with the beautiful ones I really wanted to go out with. I thought it was because I was older, had a few gray hairs in my beard, and could stand to take about twenty pounds of the old "spare tire". Not so.... I started receiving your e-newsletter about six weeks ago and decided "what the hell have I got to loose?", let's try some of his suggestions, I'm not getting what I want anyway.... Well, I am now dating five different women between the ages of 35 and 47, three of them are drop-dead gorgeous. One I have been going out with for a while knows that I am seeing other women, but is OK with it as long as I still go out with her. A 39 year old I met online a month ago just wants to meet regularly for a "no strings attached" sexual relationship and we've gotten together three times. I met her in person two days after I first wrote to her using your "Funny & Cocky" approach. She's the least attractive of the lot but one of the best lovers I've ever been with and even has me talking her to climax over the phone when we can't be together in person! Dave, thanks for your help. I once again feel like the man I was in my twenties! Later, MojoMan >>>MY COMMENTS: Wow, I'll bet your friends hate your guts right about now. Then again, doesn't sound to me like you've had any time to call them... so what the hell. Isn't it interesting how different things can be when you know how to communicate with women in a way that triggers their ATTRACTION? Women love the play, the challenge, the mystery, and the EMOTIONS that they feel when you use this stuff. Great job, and thanks for the email. Oh, and I personally believe that any man who utters the words "Yes, dear" as a serious response to a woman should be taken out back, beaten until crying (which probably wouldn't take long), and forced to wear an uncomfortable, tight-fitting dress to the chalkboard. at which time he should be made to write "I will stop acting like a Wuss Bag" four million times. Nothing personal, mind you... ***SUCCESS STORY*** My shy demeanor while standing back and hoping my looks will attract has provided little success with the hot women I wanted to meet. I am 44 years old and have been doing this shy respectful what does she think of me frame forever and real results where just not happening. I bought your advanced series and was hooked. Reframing and not caring about the outcome is so powerful! On the first night out after listening to your series was fantastic. I went to a concert with a friend of mine and I immediately interacted with a very attractive 25 year old at the refreshment counter. At intermission we were back for more with her but just not really getting in. At that moment I stopped 2 very hot women walking by and proceeded with cocky and funny and a who cares about the outcome frame and within two minutes one of them was asking for MY number and actually initiated a kiss!! Women are Competitive, I turned around and this attractive server was wide eyed smiling and also proceeded to also ask for my number. I am getting together with both of them after they initiated the first call to me the very next day! I felt that power in almost every situation I encountered that night and ended up with 8 phone numbers in total! This was only my first step with so much more to come. Your series was clearly the best investment I have made in this women and dating area! IT WORKS!!! Thanks David N Z Milwaukee, WI >>>MY COMMENTS: 8 Phone numbers in one night out. For a "shy and respectful" 44 year old guy. Not bad, I'd say. BUT THAT'S not the BEST part! The BEST part is that you "GOT" an important lesson. You realized that women are VERY, ULTRA, MIND-BOGGLINGLY COMPETITIVE. (Don't you love it when you say a word, but you don't know if you made it up, but you don't care either because it was perfect?) Yes, women are VERY competitive with each other. And one of the STRANGEST aspects of this competitive nature is that the MORE ATTRACTIVE a woman is, the more COMPETITIVE she usually is with other women. I can't figure this one out for the life of me, but hey... I don't ask why electricity works. I just flip the light switch on. Married guys often get more than their fair share of attention from women. If you're out on a date with a super-hot woman, other women will look at you (and her) more. If women see you talking to other women, they will be more likely to talk to you. If you walk into a bar and talk to every woman in the place, other women will see it and be more receptive to you. Are these universals? No. But they do TEND to be true in most cases. And the situation you mentioned... talking to one or more women, then stopping to talk to DIFFERENT women, then turning BACK to the first one or ones you were talking is is VERY POWERFUL. It "says all the right things" without you even having to "say" anything. It's like strong eye contact, or slow and deliberate movements. It's something that INSTANTLY communicates everything that you need to say without words. By the way, thanks for calling my program the best investment you've ever made "in the women and dating area". I put a lot of time and energy to make it the best, and it's great to hear that it's working for you. ***COMMNENT*** Hi David, I'm B and I'm eighty one years old. I've been on your mailing list for some time and think that what you are doing is truly marvelous. Just being on your list has changed my outlook on relationships and self respect. Habits of deference to females is pretty ingrained in old guys like me, but I'm trying to adjust to your inspiration. I've been "dating" a couple of younger (60-70s) for bike rides and such and thank you for new insight. You are a national treasure. B (old high school teacher) >>>MY COMMENTS: Now THAT'S what I call cool... You have to write me a story about one of your "younger gals"... this is going to be VERY interesting. I love my job. ***QUESTION*** Hi David, I have your Advanced Dating Techniques DVD set and it was well worth the money spent many times over. It has been amazing to see how many mistakes I have made over the years with women due to a weak inner game and understanding of women. Thank you for taking the time and energy to put this series together. I am finally "getting it." I am now putting your techniques into practice with a new confidence and will report back soon I'm sure with success stories. My question is when using online dating services such as match.com, what is an effective way to describe yourself in your profile, what you're looking for in a mate, and also what are effective methods for an initial email to a woman of interest? Regards, whm Irvine, California >>>MY COMMENTS: It sounds to me like you haven't listened to the ENTIRE program yet. Later in the program you'll find that I have actually provided you with examples of profiles that I've personally used to meet women online, several examples of instant message conversations, and insights into the psychology of meeting women using the internet. I met my last girlfriend on the internet, actually. She's 5'10" tall, and the hottest woman you've ever seen in your life. Not to mention intelligent, funny, emotionally stable, and a joy to be around. And she contacted ME first. ALSO, I interview one of my good friends who taught ME how to meet women online... and he shares some of his secret strategies as well. A hint about most of these personals sites that most guys don't know: If you update your profile, it brings your ad back "to the top of the pile" and more women see it. So update your profile DAILY. Even a small change will do. That one little tip will EXPONENTIALLY increase your results... Now LISTEN TO THE PROGRAM! It's all in there. ...and speaking of "It's all in there", if you're reading this right now and you haven't invested in my "Advanced Dating Techniques" program, then TIME IS A WASTIN'. Remember a year or so back when I wrote a KILLER newsletter about how to use personal ads to meet women? Remember the exact word-for-word example response that I included in that newsletter? If you do, then you remember all the guys who wrote in over the following month or so talking about using that "cut and paste" to get tons of responses from women. That particular newsletter is reprinted word-for- work in my Advanced Dating Techniques Program. Guess what else is in there? Oh, a few things like all of my PERSONAL approaches that I use with women... the exact words I use myself that I don't share ANYWHERE except in that program and in my LIVE SEMINARS. Things like the specific exercises that I have used PERSONALLY for YEARS to improve my own self image and overcome my own fears of women. Things like live interviews with five of my friends who are AMAZING WITH WOMEN... so you can SEE and HEAR them... and understand how they communicate... and listen to the exact things they do to meet women... Things like exactly how to smoothly take things to a "physical level" with a MINIMUM RISK of "rejection". These techniques are so powerful that I personally guarantee to you that women will comment on them and even THANK YOU for using them. I know, sounds a little hard-to-believe, but I'm not kidding. The point is that this program is the best thing available... and it will teach you more great ideas than anything you'll find anywhere at any price. ANOTHER MARKETING TEST... I'm trying something else that is even MORE crazy than offering my eBook for a free trial. Here's the deal. I want you to have this program. I am convinced that it will change your life, and help you meet more women. I 've set up my ordering system so that you can order my program, and NOT PAY ANYTHING up front for it. In other words, you don't have to decide now. You can order it, watch or listen to it all the way through, THEN decide if you want to keep it. If you don't want it, send it back. No questions and no hassles. If you want to keep it (and I'm betting that you will), you'll make three easy monthly payments (so it's easy on your budget). The time is now, and the deal is unbeatable. Free samples, and all the details are here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/?cid=ZZ3AKZ&lid=2 If you'd like to download my online eBook Double Your Dating for a free 7 day trial, click here... you'll be reading it in just a few minutes from right now: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/eBook/?cid=ZZ3AKZ&lid=3 I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David D.

How To Make A Woman FASCINATED By You NOTE: If you haven't taken a few minutes to check out all of the different programs I've put together to help you learn how to meet and date the kinds of women you've always wanted, then maybe now is a good time. Go here for the goods: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/Catalog/?cid=TZZZ3Z&lid=1 I've learned a secret to impressing women that I'm going to share with you in this newsletter. It's a secret that probably not 1 in 1,000 men knows or will ever figure out on his own. The REASON that most men will never figure out this particular secret is that it's TOO OBVIOUS. Let me explain... I personally think that most men feel a very powerful desire to IMPRESS women. If you watch the way a man behaves when he's talking to a woman he's just met or a woman that he's on a first date with, you can SEE IT. Maybe you've been there yourself. I know I have. Many, many times, in fact. The feeling that you need to impress a woman usually comes along with another feeling: DON'T SCREW THIS UP. Here are some of the signs that a guy is feeling the need to "impress" the woman that he's talking to: 1) He tries to only say "cool" things, or things that will "impress" the woman. 2) He acts nervous and stilted during the conversation... sometimes coming across as "formal". 3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear. 4) If he says something that the woman doesn't like, he "back-pedals" and tries to change what he said to suit the woman. 5) He doesn't say anything "risky", doesn't tease the woman, and doesn't do anything to upset her. ...in other words, when a guy is talking to a woman that he "likes", he's usually on his "best behavior", and he's trying to "put his best foot forward". To say it again, MEN FEEL A POWERFUL DRIVE TO IMPRESS THE WOMAN THAT THEY "LIKE". And this drive to impress often makes them act UNNATURAL. There's your first hint, in fact... THE SECRET Remember at the beginning when I told you that I was going to share a secret with you about how to impress women that not 1 in 1,000 men will figure out on their own? Well, here it is: STOP TRYING. If you will just STOP TRYING to impress women, and do the things I'm teaching you instead, women will NATURALLY be "impressed" by you. TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN'T IMPRESS HER. So let's break this down... WHY IMPRESSING WOMEN IS THE WRONG ROAD What's wrong with trying to "impress" women, anyway? To start with, EVERYTHING. When you intentionally try to impress a woman, you send the following messages on a "subtle" level: 1) I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I will try to "impress" you instead. 2) I'm not comfortable enough around women to just act normal. 3) I don't have a lot of experience with attractive women. 4) I'm insecure. 5) I don't know how to make women feel comfortable with me. Ouch. But it's the truth. Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you're "trying". The conversation doesn't feel "normal", your body language is strange, and you can't seem to have a regular conversation. Now of course, I've just described the way that about 99.9999% of men act when they're first talking to a woman that they "like". Are you ready for a profound insight? Here goes... MOST MEN DO THIS WITH MOST ATTRACTIVE WOMEN MOST OF THE TIME. IN OTHER WORDS, IT'S OLD NEWS. IT'S BORING. IT'S PREDICTABLE. AND IT DOES NOT IMPRESS AT ALL. The bottom line is that trying to impress a woman usually has the OPPOSITE effect. It not only makes you look like a nervous guy who can't make normal conversation... it also bores the hell out of women. WHAT TO DO INSTEAD OK, so you're out having a cup of tea with a beautiful woman you just met a few days before... She asks you what you do for a living. Should you answer with: 1) "Well, I'm an engineer for a software company that makes sophisticated vector widget plotting algorithms. I've been with them for three years, and I'm about to be promoted to ALGORITHM MANAGER." 2) "I do stunt work. Have you ever seen it in a movie when a hot actor has to reveal his naked ass? That's my job." ...? Well, it all depends on what your outcome is. If you want to try and IMPRESS the girl with your cool high-tech job, then #1 will work just fine. Unfortunately, it won't impress her at all, and it will make you sound like a jackass who is trying to sound cool. If you want to ACTUALLY impress her, try #2. Most men don't have the BALLS to say something like this when a woman asks a "serious" question like "What do you do?". If you REALLY want to make a long-lasting impression, KEEP THE HUMOR GOING. She'll say "No, really... what do you do?". Answer with: "No, really. Haven't you ever seen it when an actor needs a stunt ass? I mean hey... someone's got to do it". Now, I can't possibly go into all the reasons why it's a HUGE MISTAKE to try to impress a woman, or to feel like everything you say should be "impressive". There are MANY reasons for this. MORE IMPORTANTLY, there are a few things you can do that will INSTANTLY impress a woman... and I mean REALLY impress her. But these things aren't OBVIOUS. The most IMPORTANT thing you can do to IMPRESS a woman is make her feel a powerful emotional ATTRACTION for you. This feeling will stay with her long after you have left and gone home. And it's the one thing that will make women pursue YOU... and try to impress YOU. What's the best way to do this? 1) Stop trying to IMPRESS women. Stop now. 2) Go download a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating", and read it. It contains literally DOZENS and dozens of great techniques for you to use that will make women feel ATTRACTION for you. And if you've already read my eBook, and you're ready to take your success to an entirely new level, then you must get yourself a copy of my "Advanced Dating Techniques" CD/DVD Program. This is the most complete, detailed, step-by- step system available for becoming the kind of man that women want to be with. This program is GUARANTEED 100% by me to take you to the next level and beyond with women. Check out the free samples of both my eBook and my Advanced Dating Techniques Program... The eBook is here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/eBook/?cid=TZZZ3Z&lid=2 The Advanced Series is here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/?cid=TZZZ3Z&lid=3 I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David D.

Being `Too Nice' To Women NOTE: If you haven't taken a few minutes to check out all of the different programs I've put together to help you learn how to meet and date the kinds of women you've always wanted, then maybe now is a good time. Go here for the goods: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/Catalog/?cid=Z3ZSZZ&lid=1 This time I'm going to "mix it up" a little... I get a lot of questions like the three that you're about to read. A LOT of them. In fact, I get so many HUNDREDS AND HUNDREDS of them emailed to me that I'm beginning to realize that I need to write another newsletter about this particular topic... even though I've written about ten billion of them now. Read these emails... and nod your head if you've found yourself in a similar situation: ***QUESTION #1*** Dave- I've been receiving your newsletters and although I'm a little skeptical, I thought I'd ask you a question. I live in Las Vegas where I attend UNLV (I'm in a fraternity), play in a kick-ass rock band, AND work as a bouncer in a nightclub on the Strip. Now, given my situation, one would think that I'm just ROLLING in women, yet the only game I get is from older chicks and gay dudes. And when I do go out with hotties, I can't get them to call me back; girls my age just aren't attracted to me like they used to be. I'm smart, funny, I make decent cash, drive a nice car and all my "friend-girls" constantly tell me how hot I am. What the hell am I doing wrong? Sincerely, A.P. ***QUESTION #2*** I recently had surgery and during that time a female "surgical consultant" gave me guidelines of what the surgery would be like and how to prepare for it. In a nutshell, she was really hot. The problem is we have talked on the phone about the surgery and the results and finances with insurance. The problem is that it's only been on a professional level. She is fairly friendly, she doesn't avoid my calls, and she doesn't try to get off the phone quickly. So I had her business card and I recently wrote her an email , to her WORK email address, on Friday and said thanks for all the help and asked her out for coffee and she emailed me back right away and said that "I am too nice" and totally avoided answering the "coffee" date. So I emailed her back that same Friday and said that "you totally avoided the coffee question." Today's Monday and she since hasn't replied to my email about going out for coffee. I feel like writing her back instead of waiting for her reply. Is this a sign that she is not interested in me? What do I do? How do I get her to at least go out for coffee with me. If she does go out for coffee with me, how do I keep her interested in me? You are my last resort for advice. If your advice works, then I am definitely going to buy your programs. Please help! A.S. Los Angeles ***QUESTION #3*** I am recently divorced and am 32 years old. Haven't dated since I was 21. So I have just kind of thrown myself back out there. A friend of mine told me about you and this newsletter so I started reading it and am fascinated by your advice. I have always been the nice guy- ready with an honest compliment and holding the door etc. Its not an act - its just how I am. But I seem to be sensing a problem with this... With my friends and gal pals I get the "you're too nice" comment all the time. I am still trying to figure out how you can be too nice. How can you be too much of a gentleman? Is this truly something that can kind of trip you up dating these days, if you are like me? Thanks DK - Denver, Colorado >>>MY COMMENTS: It's interesting for me to read questions like these. The FIRST thing that pops into my mind when I see a question like this one is: "He doesn't get it." That's it. He doesn't get it. Now, I guess it's probably obvious that a guy who writes me "doesn't get" SOMETHING. If he did, he wouldn't write in for help. I know, I know. I'm a logical genius. Shut up. But stay with me here... The three guys who wrote in above all have VERY different situations. But I really believe that they all have the same basic PROBLEM. They're running up against totally different challenges, but I believe that if they all understood a few keys about women and ATTRACTION, everything would change for EACH of them. So let's talk about those key things. Here are a few of my key ideas: 1) ATTRACTION Isn't A Choice. 2) Women don't feel ATTRACTION for "nice" guys who kiss up to them. 3) If you don't GET how ATTRACTION works, then it almost doesn't matter WHAT you do. Nothing will work. 4) If you DO get how ATTRACTION works, then you can do almost ANYTHING, and it will work for you. Let's take 'em one at a time... ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE Women don't "choose" to feel ATTRACTION. BANG! It just happens. And let me ask you something. Do you think that the mechanism that causes women to feel ATTRACTION... the one that has evolved over millions of years... before language, before MTV, before you learned how to kiss women's asses... is LOGICAL? Here's a hint: No. The bottom line is that if you interact with a woman long enough that she forms an "impression" of you, and she doesn't "feel it" for you, then you're done. It's over. And no amount of chasing her around, buying her things, and being "nice" is going to do the trick. It's NOT a CHOICE, man! WOMEN DON'T FEEL ATTRACTION FOR "NICE" GUYS WHO KISS UP TO THEM Remember the guy above who asked the question "How can you be too nice?". Answer: You already know... DUH. Now I'm going to ask YOU a question... WHY are you BEING nice in the FIRST place? Right, right. It's because you WANT something. "Oh, no", you argue... "It's because I'm a NICE GUY." Or maybe you think that you were born this way... to be "nice". Or maybe you've even convinced yourself that it's the "right" thing to do. Well, it's really pretty funny that the answer is staring you right in the face. You keep proving to yourself over and over and OVER again that NICE DOESN'T WORK. By the way, I love it when guys write in to me and say "I don't want to use the things you teach because I don't like the idea of MANIPULATING women". Then I ask "Do you buy women dinner, or take them out?". Of course, the answer is always "Yes". I ask "Why?". But I already know the answer... IT'S TO MANIPULATE WOMEN. Yep. And then the same guy says "Yea, but THAT'S DIFFERENT". OK, before I get too far off track here, let's just summarize and say that it is EASY to be "too nice". And it REALLY screws up your chances with women when you are. Women are NEVER attracted to WUSSIES. "Overly nice" equals "Wussy". Remember that. IF YOU DON'T "GET" HOW ATTRACTION WORKS, THEN IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU DO. NOTHING WILL WORK. Think about the concept of ATTRACTION for a moment. What is it? Is it important? Is it the same for men and women? Do you KNOW how it works for women? Have you ever taken the time to LEARN how it works for women? Have you ever CARED how it works for women? Are you guilty of spending more time thinking about what you're going to leave on your outgoing voicemail message than thinking about this topic? Well, let's get something straight... MOST men, and I'm talking about 95% of them, have NO IDEA how or why women feel that amazing emotion called ATTRACTION for some men. And if they DO have an idea, it's usually DEAD WRONG. All most guys know is that women don't feel ATTRACTION for THEM. It's obvious that our three poster children above haven't a clue about how and why women feel ATTRACTION. Read their emails again right now. You'll get what I'm talking about. Notice something about these emails. Notice that they all seem to be focusing on what they're DOING, rather than what they KNOW. "I'm in a rock band and I'm a bouncer at a hot club... but that doesn't work..." "I sent her an email, but that didn't work..." "I'm a nice guy, but that doesn't work..." Can you see it? THEY DON'T GET IT. If they did, their emails would be totally different. IF YOU DO GET HOW ATTRACTION WORKS THEN ALMOST ANYTHING WILL WORK... Here's the interesting part of all of this. If you will take the time to LEARN how and why women feel that interesting and magical emotional response called ATTRACTION for some rare men, and not for ALL THE OTHER men running around, then EVERYTHING changes. Here are a few interesting points... There are a few physical cues, or specific types of "body language" that instantly tell a woman whether or not you're a guy that is even worth a SECOND GLANCE... If you don't know what these things are, and how to use them, then the game will be over before it has even started. Scary. Women test men CONSTANTLY. And ATTRACTIVE women test men MUCH MORE INTENSELY than "regular" women. If you don't know how to spot these tests (and most of them are very subtle), and then deal with them, you're going to lose your chance to create ATTRACTION before you even GET it. Being "nice" isn't the way. If you want to chase a woman around for six months, buy her tons of gifts, take her on a bunch of expensive dates, and HOPE for a chance to have her as your girlfriend, then keep doing what you've always done. This is the PRIMARY way that men approach the topic of "women and dating". I'd say that, on average, if you're REALLY REALLY NICE, and you buy her lots of extra-nice stuff, and take a woman on at least 20 dates over a 3-month time period, that you'll have about a 10% chance of her "falling for you". That's just a guess. But it's probably pretty accurate. On the OTHER hand, if you want to be the kind of guy that has women FLIRTING with you within MINUTES of talking to them, then you're going to need to do something else ENTIRELY. And if you want to be the kind of guy that actually has so many options, so many dates, and so many women interested in him that you just can't take all their calls, then you're going to need a COMPLETE OVERHALL in your thinking, behavior, and perspective. Yes, it can be done, but "nice" isn't the way to do it. Here's the irony: Women DON'T WANT WUSSIES! No no no! Women are looking for MEN. You know, a MAN? I have a theory... I think so many women are turning into lesbians because even WOMEN have more balls these days than most men. You probably think I'm joking... OK, so what should us guys do to: 1) Stop being "too nice"... 2) Learn how ATTRACTION works for women... 3) Meet and date more women successfully... NOW THOSE are some GREAT questions! Step 1 is to OPEN YOUR MIND to a new way of seeing things. I watched guys who were REALLY successful with women for a LONG TIME... with my OWN TWO EYES... before I started to actually SEE what was going on. And at first it just plain didn't make sense AT ALL. But once I began to understand it, everything came together in a "blinding flash of the obvious". Next, you need to realize that "nice" and ATTRACTION are two different things. And they're NOT related. Finally, you need to GET AN EDUCATION about this topic. It amazes me that a man will go to college, spend a hundred grand OR MORE, and feel satisfied walking out of that educational experience STILL not having learned how to be successful with women. Amazing. It amazes me EVEN MORE that guys don't make the decision to actually LEARN this stuff. Blows my mind. Now, I've spent OVER five years working on this particular topic. It took me a good 2+ years just to BEGIN to get a handle on what was going on. It took me another year or so, AFTER I started to understand, to actually get GOOD. After all that, I spent quite a bit of time writing notes to myself, discussing the techniques that I've learned and created, and putting it all together. What's the result? Well, now I have several great programs that I've designed to help teach guys how to meet and date women successfully. And my stuff doesn't just focus on "what" to do. It ALSO focuses on THE WHY, and the WHEN, and the HOW. In my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program, I spend several HOURS on this topic of ATTRACTION... how it developed, how it works, and how to understand it. I get TONS of email from guys who say "Wow, this really opened my eyes and gave me a totally new perspective... and THAT is the thing that has made the difference". Of course, I also teach HUNDREDS of amazing techniques for everything from approaching women to getting numbers to taking things to a "physical" level. The program is a complete education. Check it out here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/?cid=Z3ZSZZ&lid=2 I also have an online eBook that you can download right now, and be reading within a few minutes. It's here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/eBook/?cid=Z3ZSZZ&lid=3 I recommend that you take advantage of these resources. I've put a lot of time, effort, and energy into them, and this is the first time in HISTORY that something quite like this has been available. Go check them out. I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David D.

"Mind Games" To Help You Attract Women >If you'd like to see all of the different programs I've created to help you learn how to attract, approach, meet, and date women... and you'd like to watch video clips of each of them... then go check this out: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/Catalog/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=1 In this newsletter we're going to deal with possibly the BIGGEST problem guys run into with women. I'd like to talk a bit about how we program ourselves and become programmed when it comes to dealing with women... as well as how to overcome the negative programming that we often don't even recognize within ourselves. Let me ask you a few questions. Take a moment to think about the answers... maybe even write them down. 1) When it comes to women, do you have an overall "positive" outlook towards your success? Do you believe that there is "abundance" when it comes to women, and that you can go out at any time and get a date if you want to? Why or why not? 2) Do you have any negative beliefs or programming when it comes to the idea of APPROACHING women you'd like to meet or asking women out on dates? Do you believe that you're going to be intruding or annoying a woman if you approach her? Do you believe that a woman will most likely accept or reject a date request from you? 3) Have you CHOSEN the beliefs and attitudes that you have towards women, or have they been "chosen for you" by others, situations, programming, TV, the media, etc.? 4) Would you like to change some of the attitudes and beliefs that you hold in your mind? If so, which ones and what would you like to change them to? If you're like most guys I know who would like to improve their success with women, then you probably have one or two "negative programs" in your subconscious mind (if you're like I used to be before I learned the things I know now, then you might have A LOT of them). I can remember when I used to believe that women would be VERY offended or alarmed if I tried to strike up an unexpected conversation with them... I can remember feeling that if a woman rejected me in front of other people that I WOULD DIE of embarrassment. I can remember thinking, "Why would a woman find ME attractive?" And believing that the truly desirable, beautiful women out there just wouldn't find a guy like me interesting or attractive because I wasn't rich, tall, famous, buff, or of royal descent. And as a matter of fact, even though I've spent literally YEARS reprogramming myself and learning as much as I could about women and attraction, I still know that somewhere deep in my subconscious mind this old programming exists. Of course, it doesn't affect my behavior the way it used to, but my point is that once you program yourself or open yourself to programming from others and from our modern culture, it's sometimes a challenge to overcome that programming and go on to be successful. Let me give you a little Tough Love: NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU FIGURE THIS STUFF OUT WITH WOMEN. AND NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU'RE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN... OTHER THAN YOU. Really. If you learn how to meet and date the kinds of women that you've always wanted, it won't matter to anyone. Your friends won't think you're any cooler (well, maybe a little), your mom won't stop nagging you, your boss won't pay you more money, and you won't lose that extra 10 pounds that you've needed to lose for the past 10 years. It just doesn't matter. No one cares. THE ONLY PERSON THAT CARES IS YOU. And the only one that's going to be able to do anything about this programming that we're talking about IS YOU. Your buddies aren't going to come over tomorrow night and say, "Hey, you know, I've been thinking about it. You really need to do something about your subconscious programming in the area of women and dating, and I'd like to help you." Your mom isn't going to call you up and say, "You know, dear, I've been thinking about it, and I really put some bad ideas in your mind about how to treat women... I'd like to address those things in this call and help you become the mac daddy you've always wanted to be." Nope. You're not going to get a call from the guys that run the ads that say, "Show her that you love her by spending five grand on a pair of diamond earrings" to tell you that the ads really aren't true and that no amount of diamonds will help you meet women if you're programmed to act like a WUSSY. It just ain't gonna happen that way. If you want to do something about your programming and your success, you're going to have to DO IT ALL YOURSELF. Here, let me say that again... just in case you didn't get it... YOU HAVE TO DO IT ALL YOURSELF. And what's the best way to do it yourself? This is a fantastic question... There are a lot of ways to get it going, but I have a few favorites... and since we only have a little time together in this newsletter, I'll get right to the point... 1) Look around and pay careful attention to what's REALLY going on. Just like a comedian looks at the fine details and tells stories about things that we never see... but are right there in front of us, you need to look closer. Here's a little story. I was in Vegas awhile back for a visit. I hadn't been to Vegas in about 4 years, so everything seemed new to me... there were about 5 huge new hotels that had just opened, and I spent the day walking around and just seeing the sights. As I walked around, I looked at the people... and especially at the couples. I'm not sure if it was because I was looking at all of the new sights or what, but for some reason I was really noticing a lot of little details... and I was paying special attention to the couples that were strolling around on the strip. It's always amazing to me how attractive women will be with guys of all shapes, sizes, and ages... When you really look around and pay attention to what's actually going on, you'll be amazed. And you don't have to be in Vegas to see this phenomenon yourself. Just go out on a Friday night and look around. Now, before you say, "Yeah, but if you're rich or handsome or tall you'll get more chicks", I will acknowledge that these things can provide certain advantages, but they're not NEAR the level of advantage that WOMEN get from being physically attractive... not even close, actually. The more I pay attention, learn and try things, the more I realize that women respond to PERSONALITY far more than they respond to LOOKS. I've even made it a point to ask guys who are tall, handsome, etc., if they believe that their success with women comes from those things. Almost universally they tell me that their ATTITUDES and SKILLS are far more important than their looks. I've also met a lot of tall, good-looking guys at my seminars who have INCREDIBLE problems meeting women. The more experience I have with this, the more I realize just how little LOOKS has to do with the equation. You've probably read some of these newsletters where good looking guys write in and say, "I'm buff, good looking, and I have women talking to me all the time, but I can't get any dates... they only like me as a friend." So, part of this step is for you to take a day or so and go out in public... to a place that is PACKED with people, and look around at the couples. Look with your own two eyes and see all of the attractive women that are with guys who are NOT what you would consider to be "physically attractive." You need to see with your own eyes what's going on in the REAL world. This is a big step in changing some of your programming. 2) Watch some guys who are successful with women. One of the best things I've ever done is make friends with some REALLY SUCCESSFUL guys (I'm talking about success with women here). As a matter of fact, most of the techniques that I've learned, developed, and write about originally started out as something I got from friends by watching them interact with women. When you watch guys who know how to make women feel that magical emotion called "ATTRACTION", you'll start to see the patterns in their behavior, and the patterns in the responses from women. Nothing can replace watching a guy walk up to a woman, start talking to her, and walk away 5 minutes later with her number. So make some new friends if you have to. Just do what it takes to watch some guys interact with women. It's a big one. If you're at a point in your life where you're too busy with work, etc. to get out and meet guys who are successful with women, then do yourself a favor and subscribe to my monthly CD interview series... that will help a LOT. It's here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/InterviewSeries/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=2 3) Stop looking for a "magic pill". Realize that you're going to have to CONSTANTLY learn and improve. I know, I know. You'd like to take a pill and have this whole part of your life handled. You'd like a computer chip implanted in your brain that will change you into a chick-magnet. Well, until these things exist, you're going to have to do it the old fashioned way... you're going to have to actually DO SOMETHING. At first, it might seem a little uncomfortable. You might feel weird going out to a bar alone just to look at the people. But don't worry, no one will care (remember what I said earlier... nobody cares whether or not you're successful, only you do). The more you improve, the more you'll WANT to improve, and the easier it will become. Read books, try things, experiment. Keep a journal, write down what works and what doesn't, think about the things you'd like to change and write them down. JUST KEEP IMPROVING A LITTLE BIT AT A TIME. If you do these things, you'll begin to REPROGRAM YOURSELF and change your negative programming into POSITIVE programming and success. Of course, the best place to start is with some of the materials that I've put together... It took me years of trial and error to really figure out what works with women. Repeat: It took me YEARS. Years of trial and error. I'm talking about trying out everything you can imagine...and having MOST of it NOT work. Every time I found something that DID work, I took the idea, refined it, and wrote it down... then worked on it some more. As you already know, I've taken all the stuff I've learned for myself and put it into the programs that I've created to help YOU learn this stuff much quicker and easier than I ever did. One of the things I discovered while I was learning how to attract women, was that most men walk around with a DEEP INSECURITY inside. It took me a few years to figure out something even MORE important: That insecurity can't be fixed with "pick up lines". And the reality is that it's MORE than just an insecurity issue... It's actually that most men have never gone through the process of BECOMING a man who NATURALLY attracts women. One of the programs I've created is actually called "On Being A Man Who Naturally Attracts Women". This program has very few "tricks and techniques", because once you learn how to get this powerful INNER stuff handled, success with women often just takes care of itself. I honestly believe that this particular program is my most PROFOUND... and possibly my most ORIGINAL program. And I'll tell you this: It has PROFOUND effects on the guys who learn and INTERNALIZE the materials inside. I would love to rant and rave some more about it, but trust me: If you need to get your "masculine development" handled, go read all the details and watch the video preview clips for yourself. You can check them out here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/OnBeingAMan/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=3 Now, if you REALLY want to take your success with women to the next level FAST, you need to ALSO get my CD/DVD Advanced Dating Techniques program. This takes the concepts you're learning about in these newsletters of mine, and goes MUCH deeper with them. I spend several hours teaching the theories and concepts BEHIND the techniques, so you can work to change on MANY levels. I'll even teach you some great techniques for this very IMPORTANT area that we've just discussed in this newsletter: YOUR BELIEFS. All the details, plus video samples, are here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=4 By the way, the best part about these programs and all of my other ones is: - I'll send them to you to try at MY risk. You don't have to pay until AFTER you've checked them out and ACTUALLY USED them for a month. - I'll send them to you in a plain package, (so your mom won't know what's in it). - I'll guarantee that it will help you get more dates starting IMMEDIATELY. And I put my money where my mouth is. Again, the "On Being A Man" program is here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/OnBeingAMan/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=5 The Advanced Dating Techniques Program is here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=6 Oh, one more thing... if you haven't downloaded a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then what the hell are you waiting for? You can download it RIGHT NOW and be reading it within a few minutes. Go download it here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/eBook/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=7 And by the way, make sure and forward this email to a friend and encourage them to sign up for my free newsletter. They'll appreciate it, and I'll appreciate it. I'll talk to you again in a couple of days. Your Friend, David D.

Have you heard of that popular women's book called, "The Rules"? Just in case you haven't, it's a book written in the 90's by 2 women that contains 10 controversial "rules" women should follow if they want to capture the heart of the man they want. While I don't agree with all of the rules the authors suggest women follow, it makes for an interesting read, that's for sure. Let me get to the point: Since the release of that book, many have tried to ride the wave of fame by creating similar books of rules for MEN to follow. Several of these books were released around the time I was first trying to learn how to be successful with women and dating... and as you can guess, I read them ALL. As you can also guess... most of the "rules" just plain SUCKED. These books contained rules like... - "Never bring a woman roses until the 3rd date" - "Open all doors for a woman, and order for her when you're on a date" - "Be sure to talk about your mother in a positive way" Now... I'm not saying you should talk bad about your mama... and I am a big believer in being chivalrous and treating a woman like a lady... but here's my problem with these so-called "rules": None of them have ANYTHING to do with actually CREATING ATTRACTION. If you don't spark ATTRACTION in a woman *very* soon upon meeting her, she'll be falling asleep when you are saying those nice things about your mom, you'll only get to open doors for her ONCE... and you sure as hell won't make it to the "rose date"... Get it? So... is there a set of "rules" you can follow that guarantee you will create ATTRACTION in the women that you meet? Fortunately now, the answer is YES. Several months ago I released what might be my final program on how to meet and attract women, and it's called, "77 Laws Of Success With Women And Dating": http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/77Laws/?cid=Z3ZQZZ&lid=1 This program is a compilation of the biggest and most important lessons I've learned over the last 10 years of learning how to attract women for myself, and over the last 5+ years of teaching other men to do the same. If you're new to my materials, this program will give you an eye-opening JUMPSTART into the world of what REALLY works with women in a VERY short amount of time. It's the best of my 10 years of research in this area, put together in a condensed, rapid fire manner that is designed to teach you ONLY what you need to succeed with the women you want. No B.S. and no filler. If you're familiar with my materials, use this program as a refresher to pound to the most important lessons in your head... and keep your game on track. I'm very proud of this program, and I am confident you'll get INSTANT RESULTS by going through it, no matter what stage of the game you are in with the ladies. Get it here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/77Laws/?cid=Z3ZQZZ&lid=2 Like all of my programs, it comes with my "try before you buy" 100% money back guarantee. Click that link and grab it now. You'll be glad you did. Talk soon, David D.

A "Secret" Body Language Women Find Irresistible >If you'd like to take a look at all of the different programs I've created to help you learn how to meet women... plus watch video clips of each of them, just go here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/Catalog/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=1 ***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER*** Hello Dave, I want to say thank you for the Advanced CD Series. The more I listen to it, the more I get out of it. Its like when you watch a movie about 53 times, you'll always find something new that you didn't notice the previous times you watched it. When I first invested on your book, I thought that it was fantastic chic bible, now that I've invested in the CD Series, I understand more of what you talk about in the book. The DVD Series is next...as soon as I get the ins...lol. Anyway, to my question. You talk about how body language will affect the moment, if you will, while conversing with a woman. Perhaps I still do not understand how the process works, or maybe its just one of those things that men aren't supposed to understand, but if you're talking with a woman, oh lets say at a baseball game, somewhere where friends may spot you, and you wonder off to your friends without her as if "you don't care," you say it is creating tension between the two of you, because she's wondering "where the hell did he go?" but is that not creating some sort of negative body language in a way at the same time? A little help understanding this will greatly be appreciated, Dave. I'm sure I'm not the only one who doesn't capture this concept. Thanks again. D. Yuma, Arizona >>>MY COMMENTS: Thanks for your email, this is a great question. I think that the reason you don't "get" this particular concept is because you're trying to fit what I'm teaching you into your way of seeing the world, instead of the other way around. You're looking for how I'm WRONG instead of how I'm RIGHT. And I'll bet you dimes to dollars that you have not spent much time TESTING what you've learned in the real world. I can sit here all day long and explain to you what it's like to drive a car. I can tell you how it's different steering a car when you're driving 5 miles per hour than it is when you're driving 55 miles per hour... and how it's different to back up because you have to think in reverse... ...and you could ask me questions like "Well, how do you mean it's "backwards" when you back up? Wouldn't it just feel the same?" and "Wouldn't it be distracting to turn your windshield wipers on while it's raining and you're trying to drive?"... ...and I could answer all of your questions... ...OR... ...you could just get in a damn car and go see what it's like to drive! If you want to "capture this concept" you need to get out in the real world and DO IT. In your example above, you asked if you're also creating "some sort of negative body language" at the same time by walking away from a woman. What do you mean by "negative"? And if it WORKS, WHO CARES? Do you mean that if you walk away from a girl that you're talking to, are you going to make her think you don't like her? GOOD, if she thinks that. Who cares? If you walk away from a woman because you want to go talk to your friends, it's HER DEAL if she doesn't like it. Not yours. If, on the other hand, you see your friends, but DON'T go talk to them because you don't want to offend the girl you're talking to, you're going to probably also give her several clues that you're a WUSSBAG, and that you don't have any spine or life of your own... and that you like to live in a way that pleases other people. And guess what? That is NOT an attractive quality. Look... Everything is a trade-off in one way or another. Everything involves risk. Everything you do can backfire. Most guys are painfully aware of these issues. But, the problem is that most guys take this knowledge and use it the WRONG WAY. Instead of doing what WORKS, and not caring if it "backfires" or "fails" in that particular situation, they do the "safe" thing. Of course, anytime you "play it safe" around an attractive woman by being a "nice guy" and trying to "follow her lead" you are almost ABSOLUTELY going to do something that's going to backfire on you MOST of the time. In other words, by playing it safe and being a "nice" guy, you won't get any "negative" responses or "rejection" in the moment. But, she's NEVER going to feel ATTRACTION for you, either (unless you look like Brad Pitt, or you're in Cold Play). The answer? Before I tell you, I want to suggest that you don't understand one other KEY element of creating ATTRACTION with a woman. And you can learn about that key element by going HERE: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/OnBeingAMan/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=2 Stop worrying about "failing" or doing something that doesn't work. It doesn't MATTER if you "fail" in a particular situation. You didn't have anything ANYWAY. If you want to succeed with attractive women, you're going to have to realize that things don't work the way they SHOULD work. Attraction doesn't happen when you're a "nice, appropriate boy". Here's an example of "being nice" vs. being a guy who lives in his own reality and does what he wants to do: You're talking to a girl, and you decide that you like her. You want to get her phone number and call her sometime. Nice guy says, "Um, maybe you could give me your number, and I could call you sometime and take you out". Guy who lives in his own reality says, "Give me your number" with a tone of voice and body language that is EXPECTING her to comply. But, you might say, "Hey, wait a minute here... if you just try and tell her what to do and ASSUME that she's going to go along and give you her number, she might be offended". Guess what? You're right. But, if she's offended, then she wasn't going to go out with you anyway. On the other hand, if she WAS going to go out with you, the direct "Give me your number" will make her FAR MORE attracted to you. Make sense? In other words, the things that work BEST will get you MUCH BETTER and MUCH WORSE reactions from women. Women who have boyfriends, are married, are lesbians, or whatever will RUN away... (that is, if they can overcome their emotional attraction to your communication style). And women who are available and interested will only feel MORE attracted to you because you are just naturally assuming that you're going to get what you want. If you really take the time to think about it, and think through the different scenarios, you'll realize that being direct and assumptive will work better in the long run. Now, let's talk a bit about the specifics of what it "says" to a woman when you "walk away" from her in a situation like the one you've described... You're talking to her for five minutes. She's laughing and you're being Cocky & Funny... you're teasing her, she's responding by hitting you and opening her mouth with the "Oh-no-you-didn't-just- say-that" look. You see your friends. You say, "Hey, good talking to you... I'm going to go talk to my friends" and you walk away. What happens? Does she think, "That jackass! I'm so offended that he didn't ask for my number!"? Does she say to her friend, "That guy is stupid because he could have gotten my number and he didn't even ask for it"? Does she immediately walk away and leave? No, probably not. In fact, what she will MOST LIKELY do, if you were being interesting and attractive, is think to herself "What just happened? Why did he leave? Should I go with him and keep talking to him? Should I just leave because he probably doesn't like me? Did I say something wrong?". In other words, she's going to stand there thinking about YOU and what she can do to start the conversation again. Really. Is this creating some kind of "negative tension"? Yes, it is. But, it's not the kind of negative tension that makes situations with women go BAD. It's the OTHER KIND. It's the kind that leads to SEXUAL TENSION and CHEMISTRY. Now, the BEST thing you can do in a situation like this one is to say "Hey, I'm going to get back to my friends over there... good talking to you..." and then turn to walk away. Right after you've "broken the connection" and she's starting to go into the "what just happened and why is he leaving" mode, you turn BACK around and say "Hey, do you have email?"... then go into the 3 minute email/number technique that I talk about in my ebook and Advanced Series. Get it? Another important thought... When you have to "say" something about who you are as a man, how interesting you are, or how much she should feel attracted to you with WORDS, it automatically creates doubt... because if it was true, then you wouldn't need to SAY it. It would be OBVIOUS. In other words, the best way to communicate all of the most IMPORTANT things is through your BODY LANGUAGE. What most guys try to do is CONVINCE a woman to feel ATTRACTION by telling her all kinds of things about themselves and trying to subtly drop little hints about making money, driving a cool car, etc. BORING. And worse, it usually BACKFIRES. Women can smell the "I'm actually insecure, so I am trying to cover up for it by bragging" rap a mile away. It makes them RUN (unless they're out to use you for free food and entertainment). If you want to say all the right things in the shortest possible time, then you need to learn how to communicate with body language and voice tone ALONE. WHAT you say isn't very important at all. It really isn't. HOW you say it is EVERYTHING. Go back through your copy of my Advanced Series and notice all of the subtle body language points that I make, and think about what you've just read... it will pull everything together for you. As you probably know, I also have a complete program that's dedicated to teaching you how to use Body Language to create ATTRACTION. I highly recommend that you go and get yourself a copy of that program. It will help you out TREMENDOUSLY. You can check out some video clips of it here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/BodyLanguage/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=3 Oh, and if you're reading this right now and you would like to learn how to make women feel ATTRACTION for you, then you need to check out my Advanced Dating Techniques DVD/CD program. I spend a lot of time going over the specifics of how to communicate beliefs, status, and self- image in a way that really triggers the "attraction mechanism" inside of women. I'll give you a great introduction the how to use Body Language as well. This material isn't available anywhere else, in any program, at any price... This is part of what makes my program unique... and when you see the body language of some of my special guests, you'll immediately "get it", and begin to understand how you need to modify your own body language to trigger ATTRACTION with women... rather than triggering FRIENDSHIP. All the details, plus some great audio and video samples are here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=4 ...and if you haven't downloaded your copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating" yet, then you need to do that immediately. You can download it right now and be reading it within just a few minutes. It's here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/eBook/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=5 I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David D.

After 5 long years of learning how to be successful with women... and now over 5 years of helping other guys to do the same... I have discovered that there is ONE thing that is absolutely GUARANTEED to Improve your game FASTER and more DRAMATICALLY than *anything* else you could possibly do, period. What is this thing I speak of? I'll give you a hint: It's the one thing that took me from a being a dating book and seminar "junkie" who knew a ton of "tricks" to use to get women... but still had relatively NO success with women... to a guy who began getting more than his fair share of hot ladies WITHOUT using any kind of "lines" or gimmicks whatsoever. Basically, doing just this one thing turned me from "wannabe" to the REAL DEAL... in a very short amount of time. Figure it out yet? In case you haven't... I'm talking about watching, studying, and learning from the guys who are ACTUALLY OUT THERE DOING IT. That's it. It's a simple, proven fact - There is no better or quicker way to improve your success with women than learning from guys who ARE "naturals" with women, as well as regular guys who were once in your shoes then, fortunately, figured it all out. Learning and studying the best has been responsible for nearly EVERY ONE of my "big breakthroughs" with women and dating... and I'm willing to bet that the same will be true for YOU. And I want to prove it to you. I'd like to invite you to subscribe to my "Interviews With Dating Gurus" Monthly CD Audio Program. http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/InterviewSeries/?cid=3ZYZZZ&lid=1 Every month I track down a guy who is INCREDIBLY successful with women... and pick his brain live on CD to figure out exactly what it is that gets him so many girls. Oh... and EVERY DAY I get emails from guys who have subscribed to this program... and are using what they have learned from my amazing guests to improve their own success VERY QUICKLY. I want YOU to experience this for yourself. Click on this link, and go read about the program now: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/InterviewSeries/?cid=3ZYZZZ&lid=2 I've put some KILLER samples right there on that page for you... and you'll learn some great techniques just by listening to those "freebies". Go check 'em out right now, you'll be glad you did. Again, they are here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/InterviewSeries/?cid=3ZYZZZ&lid=3 Talk soon. Your Friend, David D.

Making Yourself More Attractive To Women >If you'd like to look at all of the different programs I've created to help you learn how to meet and attract women... plus watch video clips of every one of them... then check this out: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/Catalog/?cid=ZZZ3Z1&lid=1 ***SUCCESS STORY*** Hey Dave, I just had to tell you how great your stuff is. I got your first email (ten things most guys do) and before I finished reading the list went to the site and ordered the book. I figured what can I lose, I don't have success now and I spent more then $40 on my last date and they offer a 100% money back deal. I read it as soon as I downloaded it then read it again the next day, of course went and bought comedy writing secrets the 3rd day and read that the same afternoon. I have to tell you I was clueless before I read your book. I would naturally get a few women attracted to me when I wasn't trying because I didn't have interest in them and would bust on them for my own amusement. Of course when ever I got a date I would turn into major WUSS boy and due all the things I shouldn't. I now understand and it all makes perfect sense. The best part about your system is that it's not trying to manipulate women it's teaching you how to make yourself more attractive to them. I still have a lot to learn but it's only been a week since I ordered the book so I'm well on my way. WUSS boy no more. On to the success, remember it's just the first week so it's still minor success right now. I'm naturally introverted so coming up with spur of the moment funny is somewhat of a problem (I'm working on it everyday). With that said I decided to get some practice with online personals. I had already posted a profile before so I went back made some modifications and started sending emails. I did ok with my own cocky/funny responses but it was taking a little to much time to write the emails... I started taking some of your examples and modifying them to my own needs. So far I'm at about a 90% response rate, and I'm only sending emails to the best looking girls on there who have obviously gotten a lot of emails. One of the responses I just got today (she looks like about a 9.5 from her pics) was: "Hey...as far as I know I am fairly normal....I think!!! I'm kinda in a hurry so I can't really write much right now...sorry but I will definitely get back to you Mr. Cuteness! (God this stuff is great, I'm gonna have some fun with this one!)" Also one of the dates I went on only a day or two after reading your stuff went great. I had her laughing the entire time and even had her telling me about her sex toys. (Most women I know like to talk about sex just as much as guys so if you can bring it up in a cocky/funny way you can have some great conversation.) Anyway, on to the end. I new I wasn't really interested in her so I cut it short and didn't take things to the next step, but it was great practice and I got an email the next day saying how much she enjoyed herself and that I am naturally charismatic and that if I didn't vibe her the same way she still wants to hang out. Oh I don't want to forget, I used the you want me thing and had her blushing. Needless to say I'm about to start having a lot of fun. Thanks for giving me that great big He-Bitch-Slap and smacking the wuss out of me. Forever Grateful (I know wussie closing), D at the UofA P.S. For those of you who haven't done it: READ THE BOOK!!! >>>MY COMMENTS: You're welcome for the He-Bitch-Man-Slap. We all need one at some point in life. Glad I could help. I appreciate your comment about my materials not being about manipulating women... but instead being about becoming ATTRACTIVE to women. Most men don't get this distinction, but once you DO get it, an entirely different world opens up... and all kinds of things become available that weren't before. Another side note: I was just like you when I got started. The Cocky & Funny comments didn't come quickly and naturally to me. I practiced a lot online, chatted with a lot of women, etc. to polish up my skills. It didn't help that I had to also FIGURE OUT what Cocky & Funny even WAS to begin with... but I feel where you're coming from. Stay with it. You're on the right track. ***QUESTION*** David, Your material is awesome! It has completely changed my dating and it's results! I lost a really hot girlfriend late last year, and it wasn't until I started reading your newsletters that I finally understood what went wrong. I wussed out, completely. "I just need some room to find myself. It's not you, it's me." Man you were literally quoting my gf! But now I get it. In the last few months I have been able to get phone numbers every time I go out, if I want to. I get chicks to buy ME drinks now, and had one girl force her number on me! Gotta love that. Even some of the girls with boyfriends I hang out with every now and then are saying I'm cocky, and pull the o'l hit me on the shoulder and give me the "I can't believe you just said that" look, with a big smile of course. Man everything you have said makes perfect sense, and really works! I got my first date from an online dating service by replying to this chick with a very cocky and slightly funny statement that I mostly intended to drive her away. She wrote back saying I was way too cocky, but you know what? She went out with me! MUAHAHAHAAA. I haven't found the right girl yet, but your techniques have helped me weed out more wrong ones in the last few months than in the last few years before! And I can't describe how cool it feels to have a stack of numbers that I will never call, but know I could if I wanted too. I'm about to get your e-book, so I'll keep you updated on how well that works. One question though, what's your deal with tea? Thanks, CL - Dallas, TX >>>MY COMMENTS: lol.... what's my deal with tea? It's classy, cheap, and quick. And you can escape if she winds up being crazy. Try it, you'll like it. Iced tea is acceptable as well, by the way... lol. Now, you said a lot of great stuff in your email. You're not the only guy who's heard those painful words "I need to find myself" and "It's not you, it's me". Yeah, right. Well, now that you understand ATTRACTION better, you'll definitely be preventing that in the future. I enjoyed your story about the online personal date... and how she said that you were too cocky, then WENT OUT WITH YOU. Now you're getting it... And I like the way you think... you haven't found the right girl YET, but by beginning to understand ATTRACTION you've been able to weed out the ones who aren't right for you FASTER. When you read my book, make sure and pay close attention to the bonus report that comes with it called "The 8 Personality Types Of Men Who Are Naturally Attractive To Women". That guide will help you understand how to keep the girl you want... when you do find her. Thanks for the email. ***SUCCESS STORY*** Davo, A nod to the 33rd degree Mason of Women! I wasn't sure I'd be convinced, but you have done it. Kudos, my man! I'm 30 and I always felt that I was GOOD with women, and many of my mates have come to me for advice, but I really wanted to be (and KNEW) that I was capable of so much more. I bought the book, read it front to back, TWICE in one weekend, and went out ASAP to practice. Long story short, it works. I've always been C+F, but when confronted by a stunner (a 9 or a 10) I often felt as though the Force had left me. Not so any more. I got emails left and right, had a few dates, but usually by date 3 I had shelved the C+F. Needless to say, there was no date 4. And then I met this AMAZING hottie, a beautiful 20 year old with a body that EVERY guy dreams of touching (believe it!). * *We were walking down the street coming back home from the beach (only 3 blocks) and 4 different times along the way, guys were literally turning their heads to look at her, and 1 guy actually looked at her, then looked at me, back at her again and said "DAMN!" and gave me a nod. AWESOME! :D I felt like the man! Then, on the next block, two dudes were whistling and yelling down from their balcony at her "Yo baby, you're hot!" and so I broke out the C+F and yelled back "Thanks dude, but I'm taken!" She busted a gut! It was too funny! Your techniques really are worth more than gold. It made such an impression on her that out of the blue she began laughing a few days later and when I asked her what was so funny, she said "I was just thinking about what you said to those guys on the balcony. That was SO FUNNY!" Constant C+F= constant sex and admiration from her. It's the most basic math. We've only been together for 2 months, but she's already told me how she has never felt so much for someone in so short a period of time, and that it really surprises her how quickly she became hooked on me. You are the man! I'm now considering selling some of my stuff to buy your DVDs... Peace from Down Under, JB in Australia. >>>MY COMMENTS: Nice! I LOVE to get letters like yours. Love it. You mentioned one of the ULTIMATE ways to handle it when other guys "compete" with you for the girl you're with... HAVE FUN. The thing that really screws things up for most guys when this happens is letting it take them off balance... and screw up their composure. By laughing it off, or even making fun of the guys who are trying to make their move, you wind up coming off even MORE powerful. Congratulations on finding a great girl. I'm proud of ya, man! ***SUCCESS STORY*** Hey David, This is O from Chicago sending you a quick reminder to check out "The Maltese Falcon" with Humphrey Bogart. This movie is just loaded with quick comebacks for women's tests. Awesome. Thanks so much for coming out to Chicago. Your seminar was just incredible! All of your guest speakers had a tremendous wealth of knowledge that I'm sure will be benefiting from for years to come. Oh yeah, you kicked ass too! LOL! Ok here is a success story for ya: My roommate and I went to a bar to visit a friend that worked there. When we found out she didn't work there any longer we decided to stick around for a couple of drinks (it was our first time there). Well, we just hated this place. The music sucked and the people there were just kids from a nearby college...The total frat mentality going on here. Not my scene. So there's this cute Latin girl at the bar with her friend who was so-so. Anyway, I asked her if she actually came here often because this place sucks! She was just like "Oh my god, this place does not suck! My friend works here!". Then I said "Yeah, well my friend USED TO work here and I don't blame her for quitting". We chatted for a bit and I made fun of her big ass and called her a J-Lo wanna-be (thanks Dave, for that one). Here is where it got really good: When my roommate and I decided it was time to get the hell out of there I asked her for her email. When she said she didn't have one, I asked if she ever used electricity and BAM! I get a huge laugh! So I told her to give me her number and as she wrote it down I drilled her by asking if this is a number that she will actually answer. She writes 'MAYBE' under the number. As soon as I saw that I was like "Uhm, you know what? You can have this back, I don't need it. It was nice meeting you, bye." My roommate and I leave. The story doesn't end there! Two weeks later, I get a call at work and it's her! The piece of paper that she wrote her phone number down was the back of my business card! NICE! We've gone out a few times since then and things are going great! I don't even have to call her, she's calling me! Thank you, Dave!! You deserve every bit of success that comes your way!! OS Chicago >>>MY COMMENTS: This is a great story. You've described a mysterious process that happens once you begin to approach Jedi level with this material. There's something about walking away from a woman, not calling her, etc. that triggers some sort of mechanism that causes women to call at the most unlikely times. My experience is that there's some kind of 2-4 week timer in a woman's head that goes off if she doesn't hear from you... Again, I have no explanation for this particular bizarre pattern, but it has happened to me so many times that I can't believe it. Women who have guys calling them day and night will be walking through their house one evening and all of a sudden think "Where is that one guy? I have to call him... why isn't he calling me?". Of course, as this begins to happen, you can take this as a strong signal that you're beginning to REALLY get it. Thanks for the email, and thanks for coming to my program in Chicago... and helping make it great. ***QUESTION*** Dear Dave d My name is N, thank you for ur kind email. I have had, for the past six years problems talking to women. Often I approach one that takes my fancy in a bar a nd she just laughs in my face, perhaps it is my mullet and novelty beard but i dont want to change my image as im happy with the way i look. I also seem to find myself feeling sexually pent up and this makes me more desperate and hence starts a chain of cataclismic problems in which i just frighten off any women by suggesting she "come back to my place". I dont know how to leave this vicious circle of dating desperation i have found myself in. I was just wondering if you had any advice for such a lost cause. yours faithfully n (the potential loser) >>>MY COMMENTS: Mullet and "novelty beard"? The "potential loser"? Yep, that's a real question, from a real person. Sometimes I get emails from guys who say things like "Are all those stories and emails you print real? Or do you make them up?". Well, I'm here to tell ya... I don't make any of these stories and questions up... ever. Not even one. I mean, could I MAKE UP stuff like this? lol... ***SUCCESS STORY*** I would just like to say that your techniques seem to be flawless. Maybe there's an exception or two out there, but I haven't seen it. I used to be the wuss of all wusses, but then I found your materials. Great stuff. I learned it all, but it took me a while to actually employ your strategies because I was such a huge wuss before and lacked the confidence and security to really attempt it. Recently (within the past two months) I have taken that step to actually practice what you preach, and I've found it to be incredible. All I needed was an attitude change. It was a lot like one of the emails you included in a past mailbag, about keeping that attitude of "next" with women. I just decided that I absolutely did not care at all how they reacted to anything I had to say. This simple change gave me the power to say whatever I wanted with women, and the whole cocky&funny routine just naturally followed suit. It's great. Now I've got women who just can't seem to get enough of me. All you guys out there need to realize that David is right. He's said time and time again that it really doesn't matter what you say, but how you say it, along with all your body language, and when you realize that, you no longer worry about what you say to women and everything becomes more comfortable. And when you're comfortable, cocky&funny is easy. So go out there and bag some ladies! That is, if I don't first. -SMac >>>MY COMMENTS: It doesn't matter what you say... it's HOW you say it... There, I said it again. Thanks for the email. I appreciate it. ***Comments*** you know im not dissin you, im sure you provide a good service, but i am a regular guy and i like to do for others, especially women i like, and im not gonna hide who i am , im a nice guy who does not play games, ill admit i get played, sometimes, but thats the price i have to pay for being such a great guy. good luck and i hope that not too many meaningless relationships come from your advice, leading to a higher divorce rate. >>>MY COMMENTS: IMPORTANT: I've included the above letter because I want to use it to demonstrate the attitude of a guy who is naturally UNSUCCESSFUL with women. This particular guy actually thinks that his approach of "getting played a few times" because "that's the price I have to pay for being such a nice guy", is not only the best thing for him, but also the best thing for everyone else. Notice the "I hope not too many meaningless relationships come from your advice" comment. The subtle implication is that what I teach is bad for relationships... and that "doing for others" and "being a nice guy" are the ultimate sacrifice and demonstration of your superiority. Well, I have some sobering news, Mr. Smarty... Your self image of a "great guy" who "does for others... especially women you like" and who "sometimes gets paid" but "that's the price you have to pay for being such a great guy" is, in my opinion, WAY OFF BASE. Let's talk, can we? When a guy "does especially nice things for women he likes", he is attempting to MANIPULATE HER. Guess why you "get played"? Right, because women can sense this manipulative behavior, and they take advantage of the perks without giving anything in return. The only way to "get played" is to walk into a relationship with a woman thinking that doing unhealthy, unbalanced things like taking her out, buying her things, and giving her gifts is the "such a nice guy" thing to do. Well, it isn't. It's the SUCH A WUSSY thing to do. It's the "I don't think a woman would just like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to BUY her attention, approval, and affection with gifts and favors" thing to do. And finally, your not-so-subtle suggestion that the things I teach guys contributes to "meaningless relationships" and "a higher divorce rate" did not go unnoticed. And guess what? It's misinformed. The reality is that YOU are the one who is doing things that are leading to more "meaningless relationships" and "a higher divorce rate". Stop the insanity, man. Women don't want Wussies! They don't want men who have to BUY their attention and approval. They don't want men who act like WOMEN. They want men who act like MEN. Do yourself a huge favor. Think this one over carefully. I can tell that you're not TRYING to manipulate women and do things that lead to a more "meaningless relationship" and contribute to "a higher divorce rate"... but you ARE. Don't you hate it when people twist your words around and use them against you? Well, it's my job, so I have a good excuse. ***QUESTION*** Dear David, You have been a god send the last few months since i discovered your mailing list. It's been a great daily reminder and motivator. But now i have a kinda odd question. You've always taught that attractive women are always approached and they all have seen and heard all the lines. yata yata. BUT what if i'm not normal and i don't chase after hot model figures, but rather a down to earth, pretty cute and nice, not to wild, doesn't even go to bars much. Would your advice still apply. This situation kinda reminds me of American Pie, where one of the characters, i forget his name, has to go after a not so hot, plain jane choir girl. I'm sure if she was real, she would not have been approached by as many guys as a hot girl would be approached by. Does the cocky/funny attitude come off as different for this type of girl, or just kinda rude and pushy. Please include this in your newsletter as i'm sure there's a bunch of guys out there that don't always go after the head cheerleader type. Do it for all of us nerds. PS, One of my favorite tips in your book was to watch James Bond movies and learn his posture and attitude, etc. Its killer, i swear its worked like gold for me. Lots of contact from females. woohoo MO from KS >>>MY COMMENTS: ANSWER: Yes, my advice will still apply. Now quit TALKING about it and THINKING about it and get out there and DO SOMETHING. Find out for yourself. The only one who can really validate this stuff for you is YOU. Go use the materials! ***QUESTION*** Hi David, My name is Jason. I'm one of your recent customers. I am reading your book on being successful with women. There's a girl that I am really falling for. She's a real sweet/nice one. She's one in a million. Now, I read your book but it only seems to be relevant if a guy wants to find a one night stand or a little fling. I don't mean to disrespect your writing. It's just that I'm looking for something other than that typical dating scene. I would just like to ask you to give me some tips on getting a nice, down to earth girl, and how to make it last. I know that you're a busy man but I would really appreciate this. I think she's the one. Thank you very much. -J Please also recommend some books for me to....be really funny. Thanks >>>MY COMMENTS: Yeah, DANGER WILL ROBINSON... DANGER! Look, you sound to me like you're about to make a HUGE mistake with this girl. My materials are NOT directed at guys who only want to get into "one night stands". My book is directed at guys who want to learn about how to make women feel ATTRACTION for them. Now, if this girl is extra sweet, nice, etc. and she's quiet, shy, and introverted, you'll probably have to "turn things down" a bit. But my guess is that YOU are the "extra sweet and nice" one here... not her. You're probably projecting all kinds of imaginary ideas onto her, and you're probably acting like a six-week-old puppy who lost his mom when you're around her. I'll tell you what... See how well that strategy works for you, and when she says "I like you so much as a friend that I don't want to do anything to take a chance of messing that up" (Translation: "I'm not feeling any ATTRACTION for you"), refer back to my book. My book teaches you to be INTERESTING... to be UNPREDICTABLE... to be fun and challenging. But it's your choice. You get to make all the calls in your life. If I were in your situation, I'd be doing the things to make her feel ATTRACTION... not the things that make her feel the "what a sweet guy" feelings. Save all that for after you're in a relationship. But again, it's your choice. It's your life. - You have to do what you think is best, because you are the one who gets to live with the results. If I were in your shoes right now, I would waste NO time getting your hands on my Advanced Dating Techniques DVD program. Just do it. I don't care if you order it, watch the whole thing 10 times, then send it back and ask not to be charged. Just get it. You need it. http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/?cid=ZZZ3Z1&lid=2 ***SUCCESS STORY*** Dearest Dave Well, you've done it. Your number one on my best pal list. What can i say? About 3 months ago i purchased your E-books. About am on a saturday morning. I didn't have much planed for the day, so i read, and read, then read some more, i could feel the change whilst reading. (realization) I could feel sparks in my head. Saturday night i was buzzing. I was new and improved and wanted to show it. I didn't over dress like i normally do for a night out. Just (ENGLAND) rugby shirt and jeans. I'm not sure what happened but 4 girls i had never met and did not know each other were hanging around me. Basically i had told each one earlier whilst being cocky and funny that "I know you like me i can tell from your body language, But i don't think you could handle me, How ever that girl over there can (Just pointed to any other girl in vicinity)" 4 Girls were discretely trying to shove bits of paper with numbers, e-mail's, etc. in my jeans. 3 months now and i'm still in contact with 3 of them. But i may go for one in particular. Its amazing. This is me. I've finally escaped from mr nice guy. I still have loads to learn and this girl may not be the one but thanks for the boost. M . England >>>MY COMMENTS: I love stories like this one. The reality is that we all have the potential to go out and make this happen... it just comes down to learning how to think, what to do, and how to do it. Your comment "This is me" was great. It's great to "escape from Mr. Nice Guy", isn't it? And it certainly doesn't hurt that women love it when you escape as well... ***QUESTION*** Hello Dave, Who made you an expert with women? You must be a complete idiot to think that you have something as complicated as the mind of a modern woman figured out. >>>MY COMMENTS: Yeah, you're right. I suck. I have no idea what I'm doing. In fact, I'll tell you what I'm going to do... I'm going to stop paying attention to the hundreds and thousands of emails I get with amazing success stories from all over the world... many of which you're reading in this newsletter. I'm going to just give up and stop even trying to figure women out. I'll tell you what... good luck with your future interactions with women. Sounds to me like you might need it. Hey, buy a lottery ticket while you're at it... ***QUESTION*** Hey Dave, thanks for all the fantastic advice. No God references today, but I can't begin to imagine where this stuff will actually take me. You rule! I was invited to a party a few weeks ago by my 21 yr. old brother. I'm 27, so I was a little apprehensive. You know how those parties go. Anyway, the party was on the same night that I had stumbled on to your material. I grazed over some of the other success stories, absorbed what I could and was off to the races. I used one particular tactic in that mailbag and I haven't been able to get rid of the girl. She asked me how old I was. I scowled at her and asked, "How much do you weigh?" The whole house erupted in laughter. And the girl... well, you know the rest. I figured if it worked on and average-joe kind of girl, why not try it on the sexy brainiacs I can never get. Right I/you were. Now on to a question, if I may. Very attractive waitress at a pool hall I frequent. Used the c/f tactic. Beautiful! Found out whether or not she was single. Bingo! Talked w/ her, teased the hell out of her. She even neglected her customers so she could talk to me. Perfect set up for ending it early. I told her she wasn't going to make enough money to take me out for drinks if she kept ignoring her tables. Anyway, I found out what kind of music she likes. Made her a cd, put some art work in the case, (I thought that by making a cd and inserting art she'd be more impressed that I spent the time making something for her rather than buying her some cheesy gift) put a note in it that read, "You're probably not used to getting attention from really, really, really good looking guys like me. I just thought I'd give you a shot, see if you could handle me. Drop me an email. Now!" Just wanted to know how you felt about the way I handled it. I'm a relatively confident person, just wanted some feedback from the master. Thanks again, J.B., Salt Lake City, Utah >>>MY COMMENTS: Ohhhhh noooooooo.... NOOOOOO.... You did WHAT? You made her a CD? And put ARTWORK ON THE CASE? Thinking that she'd be MORE IMPRESSED if you SPENT THE TIME MAKING SOMETHING for her? OK, go back to the end of the line. You get a D minus. The only reason I didn't give you an F was because your story at the beginning was so fantastic... and I admire the hell out of you for USING WHAT YOU LEARNED. OK, so let's talk, shall we? Next time, do this: Right after you've told her that she needs to get back to work and make some money to take you out, say "Here, write down your email and number... and your name". Then drop her an email the next day that says: "Hey, I was just checking back with you... I wanted to know how much you made last night. It didn't look like you were making much money by standing around talking to me, and if you wound up coming home with no tips, then you're not going to be able to take me out for a drink and keep me surrounded by the type of lifestyle that I've become accustomed to..." No CDs, no art, no girlie behavior, OK? OK. ***SUCCESS STORY*** Long before I ever knew about your book and techniques, I met a model at a large automobile and boat show. She was working one of the boating manufacturers booths. As I walked by, she told me I needed to get a Polaroid with her, only $5. This woman was so unbelievably hot--from face to feet, from front, side, rear, angle, you name it--- HOT!!! The most gorgeous human being I had ever seen in person, period. This threw me into funny/cocky/ I really don't care mode without even knowing it. I politely told her I thought it was "weird" to take a polaroid together, and what the heck would I do with it anyway. We ended up talking, as the show was a bit slow due to a snow storm. At the time, I worked as a sales rep for a cellular provider, and she was in the market for a cell phone. I gave her my card and that was that. Three months later, I get a phone call on my cell phone, and it's her. She introduces herself, asks if I remember her, and then she proceeds to talk my ear off, non-stop for about 20 minutes. At this point she says to me, "I'd like to take you out to some clubs and blow your mind". I started laughing, and she asked what I thought was so funny. Now bear in mind that if the two of us were to be seen in public together, it would look like a kidnapping to the casual observer. She was 21---super super hot. A genetic marvel. I was 33, tall (6'1") skinny (155lbs) bald (on top) with glasses. No tan, no muscles, no hair, not even a good dresser. So I told her what is so funny is that her business card scoring system has a flaw in it. That I certainly remember her, but she apparently had mis-filed my business card into the wrong pile. I actually said to her, "I'm an old, tall, skinny, bald guy with glasses". She laughed and said she remembered me perfectly--that I looked her in the eyes when I spoke to her, and that she thought I was cute. So we got together that week, and I hooked her up with a cell phone and plan, and we exchanged numbers-- -obviously, I've got her cell #. I never called her. What's the point I'm thinking---she got what she wanted, a cell phone and a deal--and I have mirrors in my house. 2 weeks later she calls and wants to know why I haven't called her. I was polite, but not concerned about it, told her It didn't make sense for us to go out, etc. We ended up getting together, having unreal sex, and so much fun. This has gone on for 3 years, and is still going on. I rarely call her, never act clingy. She tells me I'm one of the funniest guys she's ever met, and I'm unexplainably cocky around her. The point to this whole story, is that not until I got your online book, did I even realize that I did what I did. I did it without being cognitive of what I was doing--and it worked like a charm. I am ALWAYS the NICE guy, needy, clingy, sweet. Always call, call when I say I'll call, show up exactly when I said I'd show up, blah blah blah. And all these years I couldn't figure out why this totally hot, erotic, fantasy babe was calling me, pursuing me, liking me, enjoying me. I wish I had your book ten years ago. It took an extreme situation for me to relax, not try too hard, be myself, and act cocky and funny. Here I had been leaving her wanting more, needing more, wondering when I'd call, why I didn't call, but all the time we are together, I'm so nice, funny, attentive, but not clingy, needy. She actually believes that I don't care if I ever see her again after every time we're together. And I look at every time we're together as our last--and a bonus for me. Amazing stuff--I recommend EVERY MALE interested in women get your book, read it, believe in it, DO IT!!!! Thought you'd enjoy my story. M >>>MY COMMENTS: Yes, great story. And now you know! I'd comment, but your story was already waaaaay past the "too long" limits. You get it, and I get it... very nice work, and I'm glad the puzzle has finally all come together for you. ***SUCCESS STORY*** Hey, - Well Dave, you're gonna be proud of me. Today, for the first time, I implemented what I've read fully, and came out of it with two email addresses. (I would've gotten numbers, but they would be long distance, so I decided against it) I went to this fall party and there was this thing where we walked through the woods, so I was just trying to be cocky and funny, and this girl and her friend starting walking near me most of the time, so I focused my cocky-ness upon them. One of them said that I needed to be at the back of the group, so I made even more of an effort to get in front of them. I constantly pointed out that the one girl (the one who I was interested in) was running into branches and falling over logs. She then at one point said something to the effect of "I smell bad" and I quickly threw in that "I wasn't going to say anything about it". She laughed and said, "that was really nice." And then kept laughing. I took a couple other opportunities to bust her balls as well. Then I asked the guide or whoever to take us around again, and she was one of the people to immediately agree with me. We basically walked next to each other the whole time. Well everyone was getting ready to leave and all, so I started digging through my pockets. They asked what I was doing and I told them I was looking for a piece of paper, so that I could "expand my knowledge of people" and "get some more friends". The one girl pointed out that I had hands (good observation, huh?) and then went to taking my hand, holding it in one and writing her email address on it with the other. Then her friend wanted to give me hers as well, so she took my other hand and did the same. Then I left with the basic idea of her seeming like she'd be a "good friend". Man, I love your stuff, Dave! Thanks a lot dude, J D in Indiana >>>MY COMMENTS: Yeah, you're the man. You know, I love it when guys write to me and ask questions like: "If I'm talking to two women, and I don't know which one I like, what should I do? I don't want to screw it up and offend one of them... and if it doesn't work out with one of them it would be cool to be able to switch to the other... so which one should I get the email and number from?" BOTH, DUH. The ultimate way to handle two or three or more women that are all beautiful and interesting is to say "You know, you guys are EQUALLY DORKY, so instead of just rejecting all of you, I'll let you all give me your numbers, and maybe we can hang out sometime... and I can teach you how to be cool like me...". When you just relax, have fun, and approach the situation casually, you can walk away with ALL of the women's numbers. And guess what? Attractive women know OTHER attractive women. If it doesn't work out with one, she'll know ten more. Think big, act big, and you'll reap big rewards. Nice work... thanks for the great story. It's always great to hear about how these materials work in "real" situations. ***QUESTION*** Dave, Bullseye! Your e-book is exactly right! It reminds me of when I was flying for the Air Force (Trust me Dave, NOBODY is cockier than a pilot). My buddies and I would walk into a Dallas bar like we owned the p lace (shoulders back, chin up, slow walk). Guys would end up with some absolutely gorgeous women before too long. Sometimes it only took as much as catching a woman looking at you, curling your finger in a "come hither" fashion and you were off to the races. After reading your book, I realize the attraction was all about body language. We just DID it without thinking about it or having a method. I had no idea there WAS a method so I want to learn more (your DVDs are on the way). Now I realize just about all the times I've been wildly successful with women have to do with cocky+funny and other techniques you mention. "Oh! My hair is such a mess," she said. And I replied, "Yeah, it is! I don't think I can be seen with you!" I had to laugh when I read that one. I actually used that quite a while ago. She grinned, smacked me in the arm and said, "Shut up!" --still grinning. Also, every time I've failed miserably with a woman it is because of something you recognized as "failure tactics." Like you, I've been on both sides of the "dating capabilities" fence and the women and life in general are soooo much better on this side as an alpha male. You've done a great job of focusing your product on meeting women but readers should know that you are selling a whole lot more than just technique. You're selling a bit of freedom, self-respect, and relaxation. Think about it. what kind of lion would you rather be? The alpha male that owns hundreds of square miles, never goes hungry, and gets laid, or the juvenile male who gets his ass kicked and has to hump a tree for companionship? It's good to be the king! It's all in the mind set. I've got a question. My home town is pretty small and so has "small town women looks" if you know what I mean so I'm kind of stuck. Luckily, there is a great city about 75 miles away that I'm trying to move to. I go there pretty often especially since I have family there. Until I move, I probably won't be going to the city just for "a cup of tea and some stimulating conversation." But I figure on meeting my next girlfriend from the big city I can say, "I'm hanging out with my brother on Saturday. Maybe afterwards you could meet me at Juan Valdez's cafe for a cup of tea and stimulating conversation." Sound like a plan? What other suggestions do you have for a guy with high standards living in a small town? Thanks, SS Colorado >>>MY COMMENTS: You know, as I read your email I thought about that scene in Top Gun where they're in the bar, and the guys are all in uniform picking up the babes. The arrogance and cocky attitudes coming from Tom Cruise and Val Kilmer were the epitome of what you're talking about. It's interesting that you had that experience in real life. I've only known one guy that was a "Top Gun Pilot" type of guy. He was from San Diego, and he was actually one of the instructors at the Top Gun school. This guy was probably 5'4" tall... but he had this attitude about him that said "I AM THE MAN". He was always surrounded by women, of course. To answer your question, I think you're on the right track. I've had dates with women that lived 2,500 miles away... no problem. Instead of "maybe afterwards you could meet me" you could say "I'm going to be in the area on Sunday... so get me while the gettin is good... and don't screw this up!". The "maybe you could meet me" sounds weak. You're not looking for approval, remember? ***QUESTION*** Dave, Impressive material, damn impressive. I went out with someone yesterday and because she lives a couple of hours away, we met halfway (hey I enjoy the town we met in, it's a college town and I knew if things d idn't work out--well) The C&F worked like a charm, combined with the overly comfortable and I'm choosing you. Even though I took her to lunch, a movie and a bar, it was because I wanted to do all these things, no wussy behavior. (Still have a question though) At one point while we were having lunch she pretended to clam-up and not talk because I had teased her a little. So without a beat, I look out pretending to talk to an imaginary waitress and say, "Waitress, can I have a new date please, this one's sour." I hear a guy on a date a couple of tables away just lose it laughing. The whole time I was working on the C&F and the two-steps forward and one back. Then while we shot pool, she kept saying things that were sooooo easy to tie sexual innuendo to. We ended up having a decent make out session in the pool room. We'd be kissing and I'd just stop, push her away and say, "You're just trying to break my concentration," and then go shoot my turn. Even though I wanted to charge ahead faster than I did, I decided to work the skill set. Having the steps you listed for advancing in the e-book are the sequence I was working on and towards. Whew! Impressive material, damn impressive. My question is how do I not fall into the Provider/boyfriend role you talk about when I'm meeting women on-line from a distance and we meet someplace. Seems kind of weird just to meet for coffee if we're both traveling. Last question: Only two paragraphs? Some of these guys are writing War and Peace in the first paragraph to meet that rule. Last thing, just taking the time to smell her shoulders and neck before even attempting to kiss her is something I wish I had learned along time ago. She had to fight to keep herself calm after I had done that on and off for a few minutes in the bar. Very enjoyable for the woman, me too. The whole date was like playing a game of poker where I knew every card she had and I could deal any card I wanted whenever I wanted. Nice. J.T. AR >>>MY COMMENTS: Your email is golden. A fantastic example of how to behave with a woman who is getting physical with you early on. Kiss her, then push her away and accuse her of trying to break your concentration. Pure gold. You know, I'm trying to figure out what you're asking me with the "How do I not fall into the Provider/boyfriend role when meeting women online from a distance?" question. This sounds to me like a classic case of you bringing your own limiting beliefs and views to the situation... and making things difficult for yourself. If you're meeting a woman someplace that is far from where you and she live, then it's MORE LIKELY that you're NOT going to wind up as boyfriend and girlfriend, right? So just chill. Relax, and enjoy yourself. If you think that you HAVE to act like a boyfriend, then you're going to wind up becoming one... with a woman you're not that interested in. ***SUCCESS STORY*** David, I had the ultimate C&F "zen moment" at the end of my date last nite. When I first scheduled a date with this girl, I'd been making some comments about sandwiching her in between my 6 o'clock and 10 o'clock (quite literally, I am booked solid... hot dates for weeks in advance, thanks to you and C&F!), so she had better impress me in her allotted time slot since the competition was so fierce. Anyway, had a fun night of cocktails, busting on her the whole time, keeping her on the fine line between laughing her ass off and "omigod-did-he-really-SAY-that?!?". We were saying goodnight in the parking lot after, and the girl literally attacked me. After making out w/ her for a few minutes I pulled back and said, totally deadpan, "Not bad... you were almost as good as my 6 o'clock." At which point the girl practically screamed in (sexual) frustration, "You are SO DAMN COCKY!... and I LOVE IT!!!!!" Straight from the proverbial horse's mouth. :-) I'll let you guess what happened next. Your material has put me in the "driver's seat" in relationships for the first time in, like, ever. I've now been on dates with 4 different girls over the last 5 nights. Girls are fighting over me and my friends think I'm a god... all thanks to you and those three magic words, cocky and funny. Wow. I'm on the verge of nominating you as godfather for my dozens of imminent love children. E. in Seattle >>>MY COMMENTS: Dozens of imminent love children? You might want to consider preventative surgery. Sounds like you're on a rampage. Isn't it amazing how we've all had women we are interested in talk about other guys, but most of us wouldn't DREAM of mentioning other women... But, oh the effect it has... even when used in jest and fun. Great story... Oh, and if you're reading this right now and thinking to yourself "DUDE! I really need to be having four dates in five nights", then guess what? YOU'RE RIGHT. You do. And I'll tell you something. If you're walking around right now and you have no idea HOW to get four dates in five nights, then that's only the tip of the iceberg. I KNOW what it's like to not know how to meet women... it sucks. It's like a constant drag on your mind and emotions. Everywhere you go, and everywhere you look are more reminders of the fact that you don't know how to attract women. It really does suck. Well, I spent many years of my life in that same situation, and I finally got to the point where I just couldn't stand it anymore. It took me YEARS of trial and error, learning, testing, trying things that didn't work, and getting to know guys who were "naturals" with women... but in the end I figured it out. If you want to learn all of my very best ideas, techniques, and personal strategies, then I'd recommend that you check out my "Advanced Dating Techniques" CD/DVD Program (the one that the guy above with the 20 year old model mentioned in his email). It's taken me literally YEARS to put all of this great material together, and you can get it all in about 12 hours of listening. Just go to: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/?cid=ZZZ3Z1&lid=3 If you've gone through my Advanced Dating Techniques Program, and you'd like to learn more specifics... like how to use Body Language to attract women, or how to master the teasing communication skill that I call "Cocky & Funny", then go and check out my programs that are designed to help you with those areas... My program "Body Language For Success With Women And Dating" is designed to teach you how to create and build attraction with your body language and voice tone ALONE. It's one of the ultimate "weapons" in your ATTRACTION ARSENAL... If you'd like more details, you can go get them (plus watch some great video clips of the program) here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/BodyLanguage/?cid=ZZZ3Z1&lid=4 And if you haven't downloaded my eBook "Double Your Dating" and the three bonus booklets that come along with it, then go do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it and be reading it within a few minutes. It's here: http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/eBook/?cid=ZZZ3Z1&lid=5 And I'll talk to you soon. Your Friend, David D.