~The Big 'O' ~
~TASTE:
In my experience, one of the main reasons that
partners avoid female oral sex is due to a percieved
or even experienced poor taste. While it is true that
women run the range from pleasant (tasty!) to sour or
uric tasting, there are easy steps to ensure that your
partner will be tasting her sweetest.
First and most obviously, a good vigorous shower will
do much to neutralize the taste of your partner. In
fact, oral sex in the shower, while not a favorite
method of mine, has a completely neutral taste if you
stick to the upper regions of your partner's sex. If
your partner has not showered recently, or has
physically exerted herself recently, her taste will be
much stronger. This, however, can be a good thing!
Secondly, foreplay will improve upon both the taste
and the experience in general if your can get her
juices flowing. I have never found an extremely
aroused, wet woman to taste unpleasant. Quite the
contrary!
~FOREPLAY:
Do it! Take your time! Have fun! Experiment! A common
male misunderstanding is that females are aroused most
through physical contact. Not true. I have aroused
women greatly simply by acting sexy. Tension is a
wonderful tool, use it. If you can build tension to
the point where the barest touch sends electric
shivers through both of you, you can't lose!
Similarly, even the best love techniques will not turn
on a woman who isn't in the mood. (If you can get her
in the mood, well then you're talking.)
Take your time, explore your partner (there's a lot
more there than nipples and a clitoris!), build
tension, have fun.
~POSITIONS:
There are two basic positions that I have found very
versitile and succesful. For a very comfortable
session, have her lie on her back with legs spread and
knees bent slightly. Lie on your stomach between her
legs, put your right arm under her left leg and your
left arm under her right - somewhat of an intimate
hug. Now you should find your head situated
conveniently and comfortably near the center of your
attention.
Less comfortable, but a bit wilder is the following.
Lie on your back, prop a couple of pillows (or fold
one over) under your head. Have your partner kneel
facing you with one knee on each side of your head,
above your shoulders. The sexy part of this position
(IMHO) is that your partner can look down at you and
watch you eating her out. (Yum) Versatility and
comfort are reduced for the giver, so I only
occasionally partake in this position.
These are by no means the only positions. Again,
experiment, have fun. If you can find a bed where your
partner can lie down with her legs dangling off the
bed and resting flat on the floor, you're in luck. Now
you can have her sit just at the edge of the bed, lie
back, and give you plenty of access while you
kneel/sit in front of her sex.
~GEOGRAPHY:
Woman are very different in some respects of their
genitalia, but the major parts are the same. A woman's
sex from the oral sex point of view consists of two
sets of lips (outer and inner) that meet just below
the vaginal opening and some variable distance above
the clitoris; the vaginal opening (immediately above
the nether meeting of above-mentioned lips), a smooth
section of skin between the vaginal opening and the
clitoris (I have no clue as to its technical name,
hereafter it will be refered to as the "scav") and the
clitoris and its surrounding folds.
If you get the chance, explore your partner in a
location with decent lighting. Use your hand to spread
her sex and explore her, find out what's where and
what's what. Like I said earlier, women are different.
Especially the location and shape of the clitoris. It
can be buried, protruding, surrounded by many folds of
flesh, or hanging out it the open. The best method I
have found for finding your partner's clitoris (If all
else fails, ask!), is to place a finger at the very
base of her sex and gently run it up her scav until
you feel a slight bump. That's it.
~OK, ENOUGH OF THE DETAILS, NOW THE NITTY-GRITTY:
So your partner is showered, excited and feeling sexy.
It's the big moment, what to do? Don't simply dive in.
Take your time, excite her. In my opinion, I can
usually tell how good my partner is at oral sex by how
she "goes down" on me. By "going down" I mean the
process by which she goes from kising my lips to
sucking oh-so-wonderfully on my sex.
Depending on your partner, different methods of going
down will work more effectively. If you've gotten to
this point with your partner, you should have a fair
idea of what she likes. Take advantage of that
knowledge. One thing that I highly recommend however,
is a sexy look. Sexy looks can make all the
difference, and the best place to throw one in is as
you're licking, sucking and kissing your way down her
stomach stop, look up and smile devilishly.
Unbutton your partners jean's, pull the tabs back and
kiss her newly exposed flesh. Unzip her pants, pull
the tabs back as far as they can go and place light,
tender kisses on her abdomen and around the top of her
panties. Watch it, some women are very ticklish here!
(Note the above doesn't work so well if she doesn't
have jeans on but you're all smart enough to figure it
out...) Once you've removed everything but her
panties, stop. You have a unique opportunity for
further arousal. Kiss her legs and inner thighs with
gentle kisses. Work your way up each leg and make a
point of stopping at the line of her underwear. Kiss
again along the top of her underwear, and along the
other two borders.
Now move to her cotton (silk? lace? latex?) covered
sex. Plant firm, dry kisses through her underwear on
her sex, low and right around the vaginal entrance
works best for me. If your partner is really excited,
often her underwear will be damp and will smell
(pleasantly) of her sex.
Removing the underwear is again a matter of choice.
You know your partner best, I prefer either gently
sliding it all the way off with my fingers, or pulling
it part way down with my teeth first.
~DIRECT KISSING:
It is not unusual for your partner's lips to be closed
together. A very excited woman's lips may be slightly
spread allready ("pouting"). Again, building tension
can be accomplished by light kisses on either side of
her sex as well as light blowing. (Do not inflate your
partner! This can be very dangerous!!) Spreading her
lips can be accomplished by placing your tongue first
at the base of her sex, and then firmly running your
tongue all the way up. Continue with a few long licks
from the base of her sex all the way to the top past
her clitoris. Vary the firmness of your tongue from
hard and pointed to broad and soft.
~THE BIG "O":
The best and most proven method of making your partner
cum through oral sex is by repeated, rythmic stroking
of her clitoris with your tongue. The tongue is
uniquely suited for this purpose because of it's
texture, versatility, and pliability. It is difficult
(and tiring) to apply too much pressure to your
partner's clitoris. Some women are much more sensitive
than others however. Be receptive to any sharp gasps,
you could be being too affectionate. If this is the
case, move away from direct contact or adopt a gentler
technique.
Repeated, rythmic stroking can be accomplished in a
variety of ways. I prefer either rapid, repeated
verticle licks with a firm, pointed tongue, or
planting your tongue firmly against your partner's
clitoris and vigorously shaking your head back and
forth. (Tiring, maybe. But it's worth it!) If you are
having trouble finding the correct angle or method for
rhythmically lingually carresing her clitoris, or if
you want to try something fun and new:
Toungue the abc's. No seriously! This is a great oral
excercise on any part of the body. Toungue the abc's
starting with lower case, and moving though upper
case. (Heck, you could do the whole ANSI ASCII set if
you'd like!) Be especially perceptive while you do
this, vary your speed and watch for sharp intakes of
breath - chances are you've hit the right angle. The
abc's give a large variety of different strokes, so
come back to this excersize as often as you'd like.
A general rule of thumb (tongue?) is to start slow and
pick up the pace as you go along. This is definately a
general rule though, feel free to break it by varying
your rhythm, both slowly and predictably as well as
quickly and startlingly.
~OTHER FUN THINGS TO DO:
Lick between the inner and outer lips; penetrate the
vagina deeply (a much stronger, iron-like taste here);
"tease" the entrance to her vagina with rapid pokes of
your toungue at varying depths; don't forget your
hands, often a woman will feel a need or ache for
something inside of her while very aroused, oblige her
with a finger or two. Both kissing and manually
manipulating your partner is tough, anyone with
succesful methods is welcome to pipe in.
Talk to your partner, ask her what she likes.
Experiment (if you can) with many different partners.
What excites one woman a lot may not excite another as
much, but may still be well worth trying. On the other
hand, you may not notice a subtle pleasurable
technique on one woman that can be easily learned on
another. The better you know your parnter, the more
effectively you can please her. Have fun!! Claim
her...Take her...make her the most important event in
your life. Always. Allow her to always express herself
freely without judgement or assuption by you. Damn
this wicked Oral Fixation that is my weakness exposed
and my addiction.....now I'm hungry.
Peace
** This was so graciously added by my adored Danielle...Thank you, and well written...I'll pass it on.
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The part of a woman's clitoris that a partner (I would say man, but I'm respecting the lesbians out there) would stimulate is but the tip of the iceberg.
The woman's clitoris is actually shaped like a giant wishbone, the tip of which is the visual piece. The two "legs" of the wishbone shaped clitoris extend internally, between 4 to 8 inches deep, running along either side of the vaginal canal.
Like the man's penis, the clitoris becomes hard/erect when stimulated. The inner part of the clitoris also becomes engorged and hardened. This assists in the woman's ability to feel friction from penetration, and also increases her "tightness" for her partner.
This increased friction due to an engorged clitoris results in an easier access to the "G spot" and also more easily enables a woman to have a vaginal orgasm.