DemonicMaster's blog: "simple d/s suggestions"

I found out that some or many of you does not really know about the so called subspace and even more the Domspace. You don’t know what is it about, if it really exists (that’s a big discussion) and how to get there. Today I decided to talk about these two that actually it is the same, it is a status, a mental status probably that a sub or a Dom my enter during a scene. The subspace you might also find it as flying or floating and is more psychological state of the submissive (same goes for the Dom and most of the things I will write apply to a Master as well therefore I will only mention the subspace). Before I give any scientific explanation or personal anticipation, I would like to explain it in simple words. It is a state the sub enters and she is actually in a dream world where all that happens in reality are anticipated in a different way depending on her own desires. 

It is like a natural drug and you can see that by the scientific explanation of that state. As you will find in Wiki (and it is correct scientifically as far as I know) “During the scene, the intense experiences of both pain and pleasure trigger a sympathetic nervous system response, which causes a release of epinephrine from the suprarenal glands, as well as a dump of endorphins and enkephalins. These natural chemicals, part of the fight or flight response, produce the same effect as a morphine-like drug, increasing the pain tolerance of the submissive as the scene becomes more intense.Since the increase of hormones and chemicals produces a sort of trance-like state, the submissive starts to feel out-of-body, detached from reality, and as the high comes down, and the parasympathetic nervous system kicks in, a deep exhaustion, as well as incoherence. Many submissives, upon reaching a height of subspace, will lose all sensation of pain, as any stimulus causes the period to prolong.”  Many times, like the way we see on Wiki, it is believed that it may be experienced only by playing really hard. The the truth is you can reach subspace even without playing hard and might have already experienced it but you just don’t know what it was called.

Ever felt light-headed and almost floaty feeling in the presence of your Dominant even if it is just orders given to you by far? During play have you ever reached a place that feels like pure happiness and submission, where you know you’d do anything? Was that a situation you would never imagine under any other circumstance that you would dare to be there?  This is likely subspace. A euphoria within submission. Everyone has their own definition of what subspace is, and how to get there. Since there is such a huge variety of what it is and ways to get there, you can be sure that you can find your way. Even scientifically, what will be the reason that will trigger the sympathetic nervous system it may vary to all and each one of you.

Here are some words from a submissive I found some time ago. It is her own explanation of entering the subspace even without playing: “You can also experience sub space outside of play. It’s commonly  felt like a sense of complete devotion and service, or slave happiness. When you focus on service and your submission you can reach a sense of pure and primal connection to your Dominant. This connection, this intense focus is sub space. You may appear to have tunnel vision; your Dominant is the only think you are centering your attention on and time seems to fade away. I’ve lost many hours this way. In complete service bliss.”.

I will give you another example of subspace though some may not recognize it as one, I reassure you it is. The Dom walks down the road with his sub beside him. As they walk he whispers to her and order, one simple word. The word cum. Within a few moments from that point, even if they are in the middle of the road, even if they are just walking like every vanilla couple does, she cums like if there was a sexual play. That is something caused by subspace.

In simple words, it is a personal connection to your Dominant. It can be very intense or it can leave you feeling like you are glowing with happiness. How you experience subspace is completely individual. Just like most of the things within the lifestyle. There is no must, no wrong nor right. It is something that comes through the development of your relationship.

One last thing and very important to any Dom reading this article. Do realise the additional risks of playing on in an altered state of mind – and certainly as a Dom you need to be able to recognise subspace, and be aware that you are no longer getting rational responses – so the onus and responsibility for safety and judgement falls much more upon YOU at that point. It’s also true that many people find it impossible to safeword in subspace therefore you need to know well enough the limits of your sub, respect them even more, in order to be able to decide where to stop. Playing into subspace isn’t always advisable with a casual or new partner