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created on 12/11/2012  |  http://fubar.com/simple-d-s-suggestions/b351760  |  3 followers

subspace dom space

 

I found out that some or many of you does not really know about the so called subspace and even more the Domspace. You don’t know what is it about, if it really exists (that’s a big discussion) and how to get there. Today I decided to talk about these two that actually it is the same, it is a status, a mental status probably that a sub or a Dom my enter during a scene. The subspace you might also find it as flying or floating and is more psychological state of the submissive (same goes for the Dom and most of the things I will write apply to a Master as well therefore I will only mention the subspace). Before I give any scientific explanation or personal anticipation, I would like to explain it in simple words. It is a state the sub enters and she is actually in a dream world where all that happens in reality are anticipated in a different way depending on her own desires. 

It is like a natural drug and you can see that by the scientific explanation of that state. As you will find in Wiki (and it is correct scientifically as far as I know) “During the scene, the intense experiences of both pain and pleasure trigger a sympathetic nervous system response, which causes a release of epinephrine from the suprarenal glands, as well as a dump of endorphins and enkephalins. These natural chemicals, part of the fight or flight response, produce the same effect as a morphine-like drug, increasing the pain tolerance of the submissive as the scene becomes more intense.Since the increase of hormones and chemicals produces a sort of trance-like state, the submissive starts to feel out-of-body, detached from reality, and as the high comes down, and the parasympathetic nervous system kicks in, a deep exhaustion, as well as incoherence. Many submissives, upon reaching a height of subspace, will lose all sensation of pain, as any stimulus causes the period to prolong.”  Many times, like the way we see on Wiki, it is believed that it may be experienced only by playing really hard. The the truth is you can reach subspace even without playing hard and might have already experienced it but you just don’t know what it was called.

Ever felt light-headed and almost floaty feeling in the presence of your Dominant even if it is just orders given to you by far? During play have you ever reached a place that feels like pure happiness and submission, where you know you’d do anything? Was that a situation you would never imagine under any other circumstance that you would dare to be there?  This is likely subspace. A euphoria within submission. Everyone has their own definition of what subspace is, and how to get there. Since there is such a huge variety of what it is and ways to get there, you can be sure that you can find your way. Even scientifically, what will be the reason that will trigger the sympathetic nervous system it may vary to all and each one of you.

Here are some words from a submissive I found some time ago. It is her own explanation of entering the subspace even without playing: “You can also experience sub space outside of play. It’s commonly  felt like a sense of complete devotion and service, or slave happiness. When you focus on service and your submission you can reach a sense of pure and primal connection to your Dominant. This connection, this intense focus is sub space. You may appear to have tunnel vision; your Dominant is the only think you are centering your attention on and time seems to fade away. I’ve lost many hours this way. In complete service bliss.”.

I will give you another example of subspace though some may not recognize it as one, I reassure you it is. The Dom walks down the road with his sub beside him. As they walk he whispers to her and order, one simple word. The word cum. Within a few moments from that point, even if they are in the middle of the road, even if they are just walking like every vanilla couple does, she cums like if there was a sexual play. That is something caused by subspace.

In simple words, it is a personal connection to your Dominant. It can be very intense or it can leave you feeling like you are glowing with happiness. How you experience subspace is completely individual. Just like most of the things within the lifestyle. There is no must, no wrong nor right. It is something that comes through the development of your relationship.

One last thing and very important to any Dom reading this article. Do realise the additional risks of playing on in an altered state of mind – and certainly as a Dom you need to be able to recognise subspace, and be aware that you are no longer getting rational responses – so the onus and responsibility for safety and judgement falls much more upon YOU at that point. It’s also true that many people find it impossible to safeword in subspace therefore you need to know well enough the limits of your sub, respect them even more, in order to be able to decide where to stop. Playing into subspace isn’t always advisable with a casual or new partner

submissive

 find pleasure, joy, and fulfillment from being submissive to another in a loving relationship.  I am not weak, or stupid. I am a strong woman, with firm views and a clear concept of what I want out of my life.  I do not serve out of shame or weakness, but out of pride and strength.  I look to my loving Master for guidance and protection, for never am I more complete than when he is with me.  I know that he will protect my body, my mind, and my soul with his strength and wisdom.

He is everything to me, as I am everything to him.  His touch awakens me and his thoughts free me. Only in serving him do I find complete freedom and joy.  His punishments are harsh, but I accept them thankfully, knowing that he has my best interests always foremost in his mind.  If he desires my body for pleasure, I shall joyfully give it to him, and take pleasure myself from knowing that I have brought him happiness.  However, the pleasure of the flesh is but one facet of any relationship.  The love, the trust and sharing, the words spoken and felt, those are all parts of this relationship.

My body is his, and if he says I am beautiful, then I am.  No matter what I look like to others, I am beautiful in his eyes, and because of that I hold my head high...for who can tell me that my Master is wrong in seeing the beauty in me? If he says I am his princess, then I am that...regal and graceful, and if I see laughter at me in the eyes of others, I do not recognize it, for who are they to call my Master wrong?  If he says I am his toy, his slut, his tramp, then I am that...as wanton and dirty as he wants me to be, and if others do not see this, then it is they who are blind, not my Master.

My mind is his, to expand, to explore, to know as only he can. I have no secrets from him...for secrets are a thing that would keep me from being more perfectly his. Secrets would put a wall up between my Master and myself...and I do not want walls. His lessons are not always ones I would seek on my own, but they are lessons he has decided I need, and so I learn from him. My soul is his, as bare to his touch as ever my skin could be when I kneel naked at his feet. Never a moment goes by when I do not feel his presence, be he miles away or standing over me.

If I were to ever displease him, his displeasure would be a blow to my soul, worse punishment than any physical pain could be. The anguish of my soul that I feel when I disappoint him is harder to bear than the physical anguish. I spend my days knowing that the energy and thought he puts into our relationship is as much for my benefit as for his, and look forward to each lovingly crafted scene that we do together.

His part is much harder than mine, and I know this and am grateful that he cares enough about me to spend his time and energy so freely on me. I have the easier job: to feel, to experience, to let myself go and abandon everything to him. I am his pleasure and his responsibility, and he takes both seriously.

I am a submissive woman. I am proud to call myself that. My submission is a gift that I do not give lightly, and can only be given to one who can appreciate that gift and return it tenfold. Only to he who has that strength will I give myself fully, because I am strong and proud. I am a submissive woman.

Essence Of Submission


To understand the power of submission, one must first understand where it comes from and how it is expressed. True submission comes from deep within a person and is an essential part of their nature. It is something expressed from the soul and as such, goes much deeper than the offering of oneself to a Master for mere sexual/physical pleasure.

A person can behave in a submissive manner but it does not mean they are a "submissive".

To offer oneself completely to another, to surrender all power and choice requires an exceptional inner strength. Embracing and expressing ones submissive nature can bring to one powerful opportunities to find the deepest levels of trust, power and the intimacy that can only arise from the bond between a Master and submissive. It is the ultimate expression of balance, the archetypal opposition of Yin (the relative principle) and Yang (the active principle). Both sides being perfectly equal yet together forming the perfect whole.

As a submissive, one should come before ones Master a empty chalice to be filled..or a empty canvas to be painted..formless clay to be molded. Thru this exchange, one will become more than what one was. The Master takes the raw material, the blank canvas, the unpolished gemstone and brings out the inner luster. Many may think the Master imposes His will upon His submissive but that is not true. The Master brings out the qualities of the submissive in a more pronounced way. Rather than being told to act submissive, it is the submissives role to remove veil after veil until who she becomes is the perfect reflection of her service and duty to her Master. She finds an inner joy and balance in knowing that with each veil removed, each boundary crossed, she is more of what she is already. When i feel, see and hear my Masters pride in me, i am elevated above all other women. i have truly given the gift of my soul to Him and He in return becomes as bound to me as i am to Him. That is the beauty of submission. There is a dynamic that exists where the more my Master asks of me, the more i am able to give and the deeper our bond grows. The perfect Yin/Yang where the Master is the active principle in taking and the submissive is the relative principle in the giving.

My submission is expressed in many ways, on a physical, emotional, spiritual and mental level. Without all of these levels it becomes only a physical act. There is a sacredness to submission for me. Like prayer or other acts of devotion, it is living my life with an intention and focus that always strives for the highest, purest expression. Putting the relationship first, always searching within for ways to offer myself and give more than i think i can. It is this going beyond and pushing limits that can become the most important reward...the place of empowerment, self reward, and the resulting inner strength/transformation. It is also dancing with the inner shadow self...the parts of me that are about fear and taking a journey with someone (my Master) who will be there to catch me so i never really fall.

The most special part of submission to me is the level of intimacy and soul connection to another. Each veil that is removed, each boundary crossed, each lash accepted and begged for, each time of being taken to the outer most regions of letting go of control,...all this is the glue that binds Master and submissive together. To become completely naked and vulnerable on every level, and then give more than i think i can, to see the pride, love and devotion in my Masters eyes..that is the greatest gift imaginable.

submissives creed

        The submissives Creed

 

I will communicate with complete honesty my needs, desires, limits, and experience. I realize that failing to do so will not only prevent my Master and I from having the best experience possible, but can also lead to physical and emotional harm. I will not try to manipulate my Master. I will not push to make a scene go the way I feel it should. I will keep an open mind about trying things that I am not accustomed to or comfortable with and expanding my limits. I will continue to grow as a submissive and as a human being. I will accept the responsibility of discovering what pleases my Master, and will do my best to fulfill His wishes and desires. I will not allow myself to be harmed or abused, I know that submissive does not equal doormat.

 

 

 

I will be courteous and helpful to my fellow submissive s, I will share my knowledge and experiences with others in the hope that they will learn from where I have been I will take the time to help those new to the scene start out on the correct path.

 

 

 

I will be responsive to my Master, I will not try to hide what my mind and body are feeling so that I may assist Him in His responsibilities as my Authority, I know that Dominants are not telepathists, and will not expect my Master to know thought or feelings which I do not share.

 

 

 

I will never think myself a submissive because I choose to submit on a different level than another. I will not be boastful of experiences I have had as a sub. I know that my actions reflect upon my Master, and will do my best to help others see him in a positive way, I will not intentionally embarrass or displease my Master.

 

 

 

Above all, I will wear my title of submissive with honor, I will never

 

cause others to think that being submissive means to be weak or

 

sub~human.  I will take pride in who and what I am, and will never show myself in a negative way.

doms creed

Above all else he cherishes his submissive, in the knowledge that the gift she gives him is the greatest of all.

 

He is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to him, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift.

 

He is in control of himself first and foremost, so that he may control others. As a stern and demanding Dominant, he can cause his sub to cry real tears. As the consummate lover, he will then kiss the tears away, without ever stepping out of character.

 

In times of trouble, a Dominant will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals. He is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. He would never ask a submissive to put him before her career, or family, just to satisfy his own pleasure.

 

To win his submissive's mind, body and soul, he knows he must first win her trust. He will show his submissive humor, kindness, and warmth. He must also show her that his guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of her attention, that this is a man she can learn from, and trust his direction.

 

He is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, he will fight for his ladies' honor. He proves to her that he is someone she can lean on, and depend on.

 

He is old-fashioned enough to be a bit of a chauvinist, yet modern enough to respect his woman. Quick to point out the differences between them, he also knows there is no inferiority in those differences.

 

When it comes time to teach his submissive her lessons of obedience, he is a strong and unyielding professor. He will accept no flaw, nothing less than perfection from his student. Never does he use discipline without good reason. When he does, it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.

 

He is a careful guide, with safety always his main concern. He knows how to use pain to extend the bounds of pleasure. He is a mentor who can bring her to the edges of her envelope, and gently show her the inner courage to reach new heights.

 

He is always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear her wants and needs. He is patient, taking the time to learn her limits, and knowing that as her trust of him grows, so will they.

 

He never has to demand ritual behavior by her. She responds to him out the want of pleasing him. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. He understands the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violates the trust given to him.

 

He is secure enough to laugh at himself and the absurdities of life. Courageous enough to accept assistance. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. His tools are mind, body, spirit and soul with a little help from rope, paddle and blindfold. He understands that each partner gains most from pleasuring the other. And both of them know that love is the only binding that truly holds.

 

 

  Above all else he cherishes his submissive, in the knowledge that the gift she gives him is the greatest of all.

 

He is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to him, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift.

 

He is in control of himself first and foremost, so that he may control others. As a stern and demanding Dominant, he can cause his sub to cry real tears. As the consummate lover, he will then kiss the tears away, without ever stepping out of character.

 

In times of trouble, a Dominant will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals. He is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. He would never ask a submissive to put him before her career, or family, just to satisfy his own pleasure.

 

To win his submissive's mind, body and soul, he knows he must first win her trust. He will show his submissive humor, kindness, and warmth. He must also show her that his guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of her attention, that this is a man she can learn from, and trust his direction.

 

He is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, he will fight for his ladies' honor. He proves to her that he is someone she can lean on, and depend on.

 

He is old-fashioned enough to be a bit of a chauvinist, yet modern enough to respect his woman. Quick to point out the differences between them, he also knows there is no inferiority in those differences.

 

When it comes time to teach his submissive her lessons of obedience, he is a strong and unyielding professor. He will accept no flaw, nothing less than perfection from his student. Never does he use discipline without good reason. When he does, it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.

 

He is a careful guide, with safety always his main concern. He knows how to use pain to extend the bounds of pleasure. He is a mentor who can bring her to the edges of her envelope, and gently show her the inner courage to reach new heights.

 

He is always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear her wants and needs. He is patient, taking the time to learn her limits, and knowing that as her trust of him grows, so will they.

 

He never has to demand ritual behavior by her. She responds to him out the want of pleasing him. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. He understands the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violates the trust given to him.

 

He is secure enough to laugh at himself and the absurdities of life. Courageous enough to accept assistance. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. His tools are mind, body, spirit and soul with a little help from rope, paddle and blindfold. He understands that each partner gains most from pleasuring the other. And both of them know that love is the only binding that truly holds.

submissives creed

A submissives’ Creed – Author Unknown

i am a submissive woman…

 

i find pleasure, joy and fulfillment from being submissive to another in a loving relationship

 

i am not weak, or stupid. i am a strong woman, with firm views and a clear concept of what i want out of my life.

 

i do not serve out of shame or weakness, but out of pride and strength.

 

i look to my loving Master for guidance and protection, for never am i more complete than when He is with me.

 

i know that He will protect my body, my mind and my soul with His strength and wisdom.

 

He is everything to me, as i am everything to Him.

 His touch awakens me and His thoughts free me.

 

Only in serving Him do i find complete freedom and joy.

 

 

 

His punishments are harsh, but i accept them thankfully, knowing that He has my best interests always foremost in His mind.

 

If He desires my body for pleasure, i shall joyfully give it to Him, and take pleasure myself from knowing that i have brought Him happiness.

 

However, the pleasure of the flesh is but one facet of any relationship.

 

The love, the trust and sharing, the words spoken and felt, those are all parts of this relationship.

 

 

 

my body is His, and if He says i am beautiful, then i am.

 

No matter what i look like to others, i am beautiful in His eyes, and because of that i hold my head high for who can tell me that my Master is wrong in seeing the beauty in me?

 

If He says i am His princess, then i am that…regal and graceful.

 

And if i see laughter at me in the eyes of others, i do not recognize it, for who are they to call my Master wrong?

 

If He says i am His toy, His slut, His tramp, then i am that…as wanton and dirty as He wants me to be, and if others do not see this, then it is they who are blind, not my Master.

 

 

 

my mind is His, to expand, to explore, to know as only He can.

 i have no secrets from Him…for secrets are a thing that would keep me from being perfectly His.

 

Secrets would put a wall up between my Master and myself…and i do not want walls.

 

His lessons are not always ones i would seek on my own, but they are lessons He has decided i need, and so i learn from Him.

 

my soul is His, as bare to His touch as ever my skin could be when i kneel naked at His feet.

 

Never a moment goes by when i do not feel his presence, be He miles away or standing over me.

 

If i were to ever displease Him, His displeasure would be a blow to my soul, worse punishment than any lashes could be.

 

The anguish of my soul that i feel when i disappoint Him is harder to bear than the physical anguish i feel when His belt caresses me with fire.

 

 

 

i spend my days knowing that the energy and thought He puts into our relationship is as much for my benefit as for His, and look forward to each lovingly crafted scene that we do together.

 

i am His pleasure and His responsibility, and He takes both seriously.

 

 

i am a submissive woman. i am proud to call myself that.

 

my submission is a gift that i do not give lightly, and can only be given to One who can appreciate that gift and return it tenfold.

 

Only to He who has that strength will i give myself fully, because i am strong and proud.

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