"Know your enemy and know yourself and you can fight a hundred battles without disaster". Sun Tzu
Here we go again! The hits on me being not getting married, or interest in marriage or having a relationship for some is like a bad rash. Now, I'm not saying this to every women, but to a "select few". Yeah. The select few who just won't quit or flat out and die! If you read my last blog, the one about stop praying for me to get married, I think I have sent a message to some thick skulls who might be in your family, on the job, at church or just some in general. Do I have to explain myself here?! Ok here's the story: It all began when yours truly was younger in my teen days. The days that you thought you were cool in all. And I've had everyone from my late grandparents to my living parents, older sibling, several church members, sister church members, neighbors and even a female Election Committee Chief Inspector asking me the same boring questions: "Why you don't want to get married?" or "How come you don't have a girlfriend?" "I'm going to hook you up." Or here's one "I'm just waiting for Stephen to get married" - in a teasable fashion. Or one time another church member said that she knew someone that was single for a long time and then came marriage. Really!
You want to know, for real? I'll tell you. I have no interest in marriage at all. Sorry, but not for me. Look at the divorce rates! I made my own choice not to do it because, I have that right. It's my choice. To quote Marge Simpson: "Like it or lump it". Yeah, I said it! I'm not one of those so-called lonely types that keeps wishing day in and day out just to see if someone out there wants to get a hook up and vice versa. You see, I play "smart" by not buying into the perverbial BS of getting sucked in. Or being tagged.
One of my favorite novels I like to read is called "The Art of War" by Sun-Tzu, and it does summarizes of how to "play smart" in battle by using your brain instead of weapons. For issues like this, I don't need to lower myself to make others feel great on this issue. Would this be degrading, a tease, or just playing mind games? I'm focused on finding a good career, good pay, having good health, playing my Saxophone upon occasion, but I don't need a female just to make me feel like I'm on top of the world. Oh, no I don't! When I do great things, that's my reward of gratitude.
So, there are about 70% of black women in America (including Milwaukee) are still single. Boo hoo! I'm not the superhero. Bill Maher once said: "O like that was the cause." But I'll bet you that half or a third of them don't want to get married. I'm not making this up. Go and google it. And I'm sure they have been asked by their parents by "when are you going to settle down and give me some grandkids?" Remember that quote that my father once said "If you don't want to get married, you don't have too?" Remember that from my last blog? If you read it, I hope so! That should mean something. I'm sorry that I feel this way for some, but hey, I'm expressing my own thought about this. Yeah, I feel the interrigation pressure sometimes, but I don't have to give in. I think that's the problem coming from some women, (no matter the age, race, creed or class) of making the pressure game difficult for single men just to give it up. I don't have time for that. I'm on much more important stuff that is bigger and better. And it matters to me. Period.
Everytime I'm confronted with this so-called issue, I feel like one of my favorite WWE Superstars, The Undertaker. We all know The Undertaker, right? The event is like Wrestlemania, and here I am putting my streak on the line against an upcoming opponent. They take their shots, but I also pull some tricks, and ended the opponent(s) with a Tombstone Piledriver, or that new Gogoplata MMA submission move. And my streak lives, and I'm still undefeated! That's how I feel against certain types of women asking about my business of me not getting married. Are there better things to worry about, like finding a career or getting your health checked or something? If you want to walk the aisle to get married, or get the digits, that's your choice. GodSpeed. If you are already married, same thing. You make a move that feels you, and you only. Period. However, if you want to remain single until the day you won't exist no more, then that is your right! Remember, this is America, land of the free, home of the brave, right? A country where a person like me can express my freedoms and independence to say, "I don't want to get married nor have a relationship because I'm not interested!" Sorry. I don't have to be a "perverbial linkage" just for some hook up. Why follow in everyone's path where you can blaze your own trail? That's what I'm doing. I'm blazing my own trail.
Don't even try to come to my domain and profess about you jabbing at me about this issue. Or saying that it's just a fad. If I wasn't in a deciding mood like I am now, I would be in a relationship. Yes, I'm 31 years old, Single, living in beer capital of Milwaukee, no kids, and not thinking nor interested in marriage. Why? because I said it! I am just fine without a need for marriage and a relationship. And plus, I'm focused on me and what matters to me the most importantly! No need to hit the panic button here.
"Wars come and go, but my soldiers stay eternal" - Tupac Shakur (1971-1996)
