What your sex dreams say about your real sex life.
So I was reading this interesting article and decided to share some of it with my friends…as well as find out a few answers…so read on…
There's no more denying it: Women are just as horny as men -- if their dreams are any indication.
A new study out of the University of Montreal found that about 8 percent of both men's and women's dreams contain sexual activity. That doesn’t explain why every night I wake up with...you know, morning wood (maybe it’s the lack of sex here).
Women's dreams tend to be about real-life sexual partners, past or present and women are more likely than men to dream about celebrities, rock stars, movie stars, and politicians (Brad Pitt, Bono and George Clooney were among the study subjects' faves). Who invades your dreams?
Men's dreams are more likely than women to dream about imaginary, unknown people, and the encounters take place in public or in unknown settings. Also, in our dreams, we men are more likely to have multiple partners ;)
So, do these dreams mean anything? They might…one theory is that it reflects the dreamers waking state and concerns. The difference between men’s and women’s dreams may be indicative of different needs, experiences, desire and attitudes with respect to sexuality.
The sexual revolution and changing cultural norms allow women to feel more comfortable and free to express their sexuality, some experts say.
"I think that women are having more sex dreams because since the birth control pill gave us more sexual freedom, social mores have shifted, and sex is seen as something that adds pleasure and gusto to life, not as a marital chore as it once was," says Cynthia Richmond, author of Dream Power and a columnist for the Arizona Republic.
Whether women are actually dreaming more about sex or are just more willing to report their fantasies, when women dream about sex, they often wake up aroused, just as men do…for you married folks, and for those that are living together…this is a good thing…so take advantage of it ;)
"If I wake up feeling sexy, I feel sexy all day, and I want to get laid, so I call my guy," says Susan Crain Bakos, author of The Sex Bible. "Pay attention to your body and listen. Your erotic brain is working, which means you want to have sex, so have more sex." *Listen to this woman…she is an expert*
So why do women dream about current or past partners and public figures? Good question huh?
Well, Bakos (remember our expert) says women tend to focus more on their partner's qualities, whereas men focus on the act. "Women have a stronger need than men to attach a personality to their fantasies," she says. "Men are more comfortable focusing on body parts and sexual acts.” What do you think?
It seems most of my fantasies or dreams are attached to locations.
How good were you in her dream? Both men and women reported having an orgasm in less than 5 percent of their sex dreams. And although women's partners had an orgasm in 4 percent of their dreams, here's how many of the male dream reports described their partners as having an orgasm: zero. This baffles me as in some of my dreams…my partner definitely had an orgasm…perhaps those men don’t know what a real one looks like ;)
Some say that the stereotypical man only thinks of himself in bed…his loss!!!
One area where men and women agree? They tend to dream of the other person taking charge. Women initiated the sexual contact in one out of every four of their dreams, but men were the initiators in only one in every 10 of their dreams.
What Our Dreams Mean for Reality
Just because you have an erotic dream doesn't mean you should act upon it. But it could help you broach the topic.
These dreams can spruce up your sex life. Maybe you are trying something new or letting go of some inhibitions…I have mentioned this in a previous blog, telling your partner about them is a way of introducing something you may want to try…without really requesting it…just in case you are a little shy.
So to all my friends, have sweet and sexy dreams tonight!
