ok, i seen a blog that was posted about me from a so-called friend.
so, I am being accused of tellin lies on a "certain someone"? well, let us get the facts straight here!!
HE is not going threw a nightmare first off. You have to care about something in order for that to happen. HE never cared about me in the least. The only thing HE cared about was HIMSELF!!! If he ever cared about me at all, in any way, he would never of done the things to me that he did. (which we will get into shortly)
First off, I have never accused him of being a "woman beater"!! HE attacked and hit me in front of our 2 small children, and I put a PFA on him. So, if I am wrong for that, sue me!! BUT I will NOT stand by and let any "man" hit me over lies his family told him!!!!!!!!! And I certainly will NOT wait around until it gets to the point that he does beat me and I am stuck gettin surgery to fix what he damaged!! I am not that stupid!!! And to make things clear, this is what happened. HE came to my house at 1 am starting on me. (now remember, he was suppose to be working to support all 4 of his kids!!) Not a major fight, but a minor one, and he tried not to yell, but was accusing me of cheating. well, I thought it was over, but he kept nit pickin all day about stuff. I told him I would delete ALL accounts out to prove there was no man on line that I was cheating on him with. Well, that wasnt good enough aparently.
Once my kids got home, the fight got worse. The screamin, name calling, insults, cursing and everything at me! So I proved to him (once again) that I never made plans with noone, to sleep with them!! I told him then to just get out since he said once I proved it he would leave. Well, he didnt. And flat out refused to go, said i couldnt fing make him. And while I was packin up what clothes he had there, I told him over and over to stop, he was stressing the kids out. Well he flipped out, knocked me onto the floor, put me in bear hug, i kicked and screamed for him to let me go, then he turned me around, I shoved him backwards out of my face, then he punced me in my bad shoulder, and said "your lucky it wasnt ur f&$#ing face"!!!!!! I went downstairs and my kids were on the phone tellin their gram to get their pap to come and get them cause daddy was hitting mommy!!!!!!!! I then called the police!!
That was the first time HE has ever hit me like that. Many years, since before I was preg, he has pushed me around, thrown things at me, and busted up my stuff, and pulled his fist back MANY times, and most, during a stupid fight HE caused!!! Which for all of you to know that dont, that is ABUSE!!!!!! It dont have to be punching and kicking to be considered abuse!! The threats, intimidation, etc, is also abuse!!!!!
And for being "treated great", all I got to say is LMFAO!!!!!!!!!! The only thing that could be considered that is, yes, he bought me things. well, wake up call, material things dont make up for the rest!!! And him going without, well, thats a joke in itself!!!!!!!! HE NEVER went without!! And if he said he did, hes a LIAR!!! me and the kids went without ALL THE TIME!!!!!! there are so many incidents I could list where me and the kids had no food at home, no money for bills, no money for clothes, no money for car insurance, or even a car!!! I have lost home after home due to his lack of income, and car after car cause of him. I have a Saturn at home right now that he blew out the transmission on from beating it!!!!!!!! My parents had to support my kids cause of the way he was. They bought the school pics every year, paid for all hair cuts, got us food, paid for most Christmas's, birthdays, and even some bills. If it was for them, I wouldnt of gotten my one car on the road!!!! Speaking of Christmas, the remark they made out so good, well think back, there was maby 2 years total that HE actually was the reason they had a good Christmas, or should I say I AM!! And for years after I heard him complain about how much I spent!!!!! There were years that I had to go to Toys for Tots and Salvation Army so my kids would have a Christmas!!! HIS one brother and his gf also bought gifts for my kids. The one year my parents couldnt help, was a very bad year, my kids barely got anything!!!!!!!!! And birthdays, let just say, my sons b-day was in March, and HE has yet to get my son anything!!!!!!!! I had to scrimp and save and borrow money just to make sure my son had a cake and a few presents!!!! Its kinda hard to support kids when he couldnt keep a job, went to jail 2 times, and had thousands of dollars worth of fines, and $100's of dollars spent on himself with cash advances and such!!
ANd speaking of work, I NEVER ASKED OR TOLD HIM TO GET A SECOND JOB!!! HE wanted to and I told HIM NO!!! I begged him to get a regular job so I could work the oposite shift, but HE REFUSED!! And to get the story straight, I have had quite a few jobs in the past 10 yrs, PLUS went to college for a year, while holding a job, and then coming home to clean and take care of kids!!!!!
Speaking of the house, I dont care what he tells anyone, he never came home and cleaned up after ME, or did his own laundry cause "I wouldnt"!! That there is a bold face LIE!!!!!!!!!!! I cleaned EVERYDAY!! And did laundry constantly!!! Yea he helped, cause I bitched for years for him to. Theres no reason y he should come to my house, trash it then let it for me to clean!!!! thats not how it works with me! you dirty it, YOU clean it!!! And since hes not been in my house, gee, hmmm, my house is spotlesss!!!! GO FIGURE!!!! And I got food in the cupboard!!! hmmm, wonder y that is?????
And yea, I was on the puter alot, but gee, again, I wonder y!!! Mayb cause I wasnt aloud a life???!!!! He would always say, go make friends, do things, but when it came down to it, he would fight and come up with lame excuses of y I couldnt do this or that, and he didnt like me talkin to ppl!!! He would accuse me of cheating from talkin online!! Well all i got to say to that is, damn, im good! to have an affair on a puter, hmm, and with men from different states and countries!!! LMFAO!!!!
and yea, my day has come, I am finally free!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! yay!! and if anyone is interested him HIM, go for it!! but let u be warned ahead of time, he is controlling, posessive, and has a major anger problem!!!!! especially when he is drinking!! And he also is sex crazed, when he is drunk and it is a female, he wants it!! Right in front of me, while he was drunk, he tried to reach down "a womans" shirt, and grabbed at her crotch!!! Then tried to deny it!!!!!! So, be careful, its all I got to say.
And for someone who does everything, then why is it he wanted his kids to move from their house, just so HE could have it? Why would he take the car that was bought for me to have a realiable vehicle to take care of the kids? Why would any parent want his kids to walk a mile across an unsafe road to the bus stop? Why would a parent want to take away the kids's home? Why would a parent say nasty things to the kids about the other parent? Why would any parent want their kids so scared of them they cant sleep and have to talk to a counsler?? Why? Cause that person is too selfish to think of anyone other than themselves!!!!!!!!!!! They only care about them selves and looking "innocent" to others. Well, the innocents is a lie, just like everything else, and the truth shall come out and everyone will know what HE forced me to keep secret for years!!
and the part about my kids, well, my kids are the ones who are terrified of him and wish not to see him until he gets help!!!!!!!!!!!!! He has put my kids threw too much, and its all HIS FAULT!!! he made his bed, now he can lie in it!!
And the bit of his other kids, well, I AM THE ONE who faught with him for almost 10 yrs to see them!! He never had time to see them, and when he did, guess who was the one who took care of the kids!!! thats right, ME!!!!! So before ppl start running their mouths about things they dont no, they should try to remember and find out the facts first!!!!!!
There is more to this story, but me and my kids have a day full of fun to address!! And they are more important than defending myself to BS and lies!!!
take care, and have a nice day!!
