Sofa King Cool Aprils Daddy Satyr's blog: "Random Thoughts From A Rambling Mind"

Well, this lying, manipulating person that I thought I knew turned me on to this online game and I'm enjoying it. I just took my first trip to a "special place" that people who know the game view as a "graduation" of sorts. My level 58 Warlock just made it to Hellfire Penninsula which is in the Outlands!

I'm going to be fairly busy, this weekend so the Friday post to "Her Dark Secret" will be extended and VERY enlightening (Bring your coffee and cigarettes LOL!)

I have three songs going through my mind, these days. Two are sort of known and the last is one I recently wrote. Don't worry; I won't be posting the lyrics, here. It's a shame that there are some people in our lives that can be reduced to chords and riffs LOL!

So, now, she's trying to get people I haven't wanted to talk to in months to bring me into voice conferences! LOL! Pathetic! She could have avoided all of this but, instead of owning her part, she tried to make it seem like me, catching her in lies, was something I did wrong! Liars HATE getting caught! LOL! Her: "I don't like the way Leslie talks to you. She's VERY disrespectful." LOL! Birds of a feather screw over peoples' lives, together. The real problem, here, though is she gets to "play the victim" instead of talking about the person that REALLY victimized her (But, I'll get to that in my other blog: "Her Dark Secret" where ALL the dirty little secrets will be revealed! LOL!)

Okay, people. We need to have a serious discussion, here. Many people ask me why I’m so anal-retentive about typos, misspellings, etc. They think it’s because of some arrogance or pedantic sadism that I am such a stickler but, that is not it. Especially on a site like Fubar, the written word is all we have and communicating properly is essential (especially for all of us that are looking to find “the one”, here). We don’t have the sound of the other person’s voice (initially) to judge whether the thought being communicated is meant as a joke or not (and “lol” and “roflmao” have been so over-used that I doubt if anyone is really laughing, when they type those things). So, as I frequently do, allow me to be of help … 1. If you are comparing two items, one of them can be bigger than the other. Conversely, if you’re giving a chronological list of things or events, you like movies then, television. 2. If you wish to compare your age to someone else’s, then (ha!), “They are older than I” is correct and “They are younger than me” is incorrect (When in doubt with these two words, add the word “am” after the word and see which sounds right) 3. “Their” means something belongs to someone. 4. “There” means “not here”. 5. “They’re” means “they are”. 6. While we’re on apostrophes … “we’re” means “we are” and “were” indicates something that happened in the past. 7. The correct punctuation for how Southerners say “You all” is: “Y’all” because it’s the “o” and the “u” that are missing; NOT anything between the “a” and the double “l” 8. “Where” signifies location (see Item 6). 9. If I say “Thank you” to you and you want to be courteous in return, the response is “You’re welcome”. Which means “You are welcome”. If you tell me: “Your welcome” it tells me that one of my welcomes is running around out there, loose. If your instinct tells you to type “ur welcome” please don’t even approach me! 10. While I understand that we’re communicating in text, if you are in the habit of using “text speak”, please pass me by, also. Look, I know that I make mistakes and the occasional mistake is absolutely acceptable but, when people exhibit laziness or apathy, you have to wonder if their heart is really in what they’re doing (how’s that for setting an example?).

Instructions...... Once you have been tagged, you have to write a blog with 10 weird or random things, facts, or habits about yourself. At the end, you choose at least 5 people to be tagged, listing their names . Don't forget to leave a comment that says, "You're it!" on their profile and ask them to read your blog. You can't tag the person who tagged you. 1) I was born at the very end of the "Baby Boomer" generation and identify more with people of that generation than the "Gen X-ers". 2) I lost two fingertips, seven years ago (Middle and Ring finger, on the right hand) 3) I was raised a Traditional Catholic and still adhere to some of the rites of that faith although I am faaaaaaaaaaar from Catholic in my beliefs, anymore. 4) I shave more than just my head and my face 5) I have a touch of O.C.D. regarding odd numbers 6) I speak three foreign languages with a more than passible degree of fluency. 7) I'm anal-retentive (pedantic) about spelling and grammar. 8) I'm a nudist 9) I was a father before I was 15 10) I haven't spoken a word to my mother in over 7 years (and I DON'T hate ladies; just her). I tag ... Abby, Cherry Bomb, Kiki, Sha,and Smitten Kitten

This was NOT written by me. It was written by a lady named Kendra who is an amazingly insightful person.

I owe her a lot and we've never even met!

About Daddy Doms

I mentioned the term "Daddy Dom" in a chat room the other day and was greeted by a resounding Yuk! It got me thinking about the misconceptions surrounding this aspect of D/s.

I realize most think that it involves a father/daughter relationship. That isn't quite true, Daddy/little girl is a much different level. I do not know if I can explain what I mean so I will simply talk about what a Daddy Dom is to me.

First, I should say that in my relationship my Dom is not my father, he is nothing like my father, and I have no need for him to replace my father.

He is, however, my Daddy. We do not engage in age play specifically ( beyond the occasional school girl fantasy *s*) and our relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children.

I am always all woman, and always a very independent woman. He does have the ability to make me feel like a little girl, however, a very cherished and sometimes needy little girl. It is a feeling that I revel in, it is the safest place I have ever been, and it allows me the freedom to be all that I am without fear of reprisals.

So... what makes a Daddy Dom?

First and foremost he loves his little girl. She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him. Seeing her hurt however is not something a Daddy Dom wants.

He sees it as his job to protect her, both from the outside world and herself. He may love to cause her great pain in a scene, but he hates to be the one to hurt her emotionally. It hurts him to have to punish her , but he knows it is sometimes necessary. This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.

A Daddy Dom knows the value of discipline, though at times his soft heart gets the best of him. He knows that in order for his little girl to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises. He knows this hurts her, and that tears at his heart, but he also knows it is for her own good. A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive ... acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her.

When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn't matter. To him she is beautiful.

Many of you may be asking what separates a Daddy Dom from any other Dom. In most cases very little. Hopefully they all provide love, strength, protection, discipline, and acceptance.

I have heard Daddy Doms described as a kinder, gentler, Dom. I like that definition though I know it won't apply to all. I guess when it really comes down to it I can't explain it. There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.