My Dating terms for 2008 Dec 28, '07 9:43 PM
for everyone
With the way 2007 is ending... and everyone else setting their resolutions-- I thought-- sure.. why the hell not do one myself.... I usually don't do resolutions because I believe they, for the most part, set you up to fail...
For example: we all claim were going to lose weight in the new year... for Valentines day to fall a few weeks later with the romantic dinner and chocolets... and then it is easter-- more chocolet.... and by then there is no chance of fitting into that bikini you swore you'd get into this year....
So, I am considering this as a guideline and not so much a resolution.... Setting some dating ground rules so hopefully the heartbreak and disception I expereinced of late won't happen again...
I am officially putting myself back on the dating market... one week to deal with the emotions of Daren is all I am going to allow.... he's not worth any more of my time or tears.... I have grieved the loss of this relationship long enough....
If you ask me out for a date, then be man enough to show up for it... don't leave me standing outside a resturant waiting for you, or in a park where you never show.... ONE TIME of standing me up is all you get... you then lost any chance of taking me out again....
Don't think that just because I am a BBW (Big Beautiful Woman) that I am desperate... I am not... I have plenty of things in my life to keep me busy and occupied... I am not desperate and having a man come across as desperate is a major major turn off...
Dating means you pick me up or we meet at a generalized location... It means a meal, maybe a drink, possibly movies; concerts; museums; bowling; car races; shooting pool; riding a motorcycle, quads, or 4-wheelin; or going honky tonkin.... maybe some hand holding, cuddling, kissing.... it doesn't mean the night ends in my bed or a hotel....
A second date isn't a given... if you want to go on another date then you must show interest and ask me out for a second date.... which will look much like the list above... so will the third, fourth, fifth, sixth, etc... etc...
No sexual relationships will occur until we've been dating regularly for a long period... That should be occuring about the same time we start meeting each other's children and parents....
I am NOT looking for "adult fun"... I am not looking to be someone's friend with benefits, I am not available to be someones convience while they wait for someone better to come along...
I AM looking for a potential Long Term Relationship (LTR)... and I am the someone better that came along... I want someone who will share their world with me as I share mine with him... I want someone whose not afraid to be seen in public with me and even less afraid to show some level of public affection....
Now... with all of that being said and done, and with the option that this can change at any time (after all-- I am a female)... I say Let 2008 begin!!!!
