UpDated: Het guys I finally updated my blog, leaving the original just adding to it.
Ok, I recieved alot of agreements with it, and like three sugestions, one was open communication, and i did already have it in there. So I will just elaberate on it. Communication is great, open communication is the key. If you can not talk to your partner about something then hoe can you love them. Lets just say this; you can have sex with then, look at them in their most valnerable, weak state, but not be able to talk to them. You can say the three most endoring presious world on earth to the, but can not tell them what is on your mind. Now ladies, this does not mean yell or talk down to them, i know men are hard headed, but it is possable to sit down and talk, most of the time. No not all men, but i think if done right and before it is too late, it can be done.
Now, lets continue to add. This is the first and most important thing to say, although i knew it, i forgot to include it. I look back and guess it is something i just thought everyone already knew. You must love yourself, before you can truely love someone else. you might know what love is, i am sure everyone of us does. I mean we love our parents, brothers, sisters, kids, and friends. But one can not love someone else unconditionally if they can not love themselves first. Saying and thinking you love someone else is easy, truely loving someone without limits is very hard. Not loving ones self will just eventually be blamed on your partner and cause more problems. I know being with someone is nice and makes you feel special, but it will not last, and will just give you someone else to blane for your own unhappyness. I will offer you all this little advise, fix what you do not like about you first, no matter what it is, make the life you want and will make you happiest first. If you do find someone, take it slow, and set boundries and stick to them until you are truely ready to share your life with them, if they love you and want you in thier life, they will wait for you to be ready. If they do not wait, then it was not meant to be.
Now those are the two things i missed, and was asked to add, i feel there is something more, i just can not remember.
Last thing for today is just words from my head. Devorce is not a bad thing, but not the answer to all problems either. If you wake up everyday hating where you are and the person you are with, then you need to leave. Kids are not a reason to stay! You are hurting them more with your fighting, anger, unhappines, and hate then you would by seperating. An affair is not an answer either, if you want to be with someone else over the one you are with, then you need not to be with the one you are with. You are only hurting yourself and them more by doing it. OK, you do not want to leave, but you are not getting from them what you want. Then you need to talk to them, and maybe move on. Cheating will not solve your probles, they will anly add to them. Everyone has weak moments, more give into them then should. Weakness is a part of life, and we all make mistakes. If you have made this mistake and regret it, or even your partner has and they regret it, then it is possable to forgive. But the first step is to talk about it and understand why it happened, and working through it together. But if you wake up today and say I am going to do it again, or your partner has done it more then once, it will continue to happen, it is time to move on.
Original:
OK, guys, I was talking to a friend the other day, and we decided that they should teach love in schools, sex education; ok, but there is a need to teach love too. Too any people but it all off on the churches, and schools; and they put it all off on the parents, and in the end our kids are learning nothing, until years later when they start to really learn about it the hard way. So I thought I would just send out a few pointers for everyone to read, or not you choice. Let’s start in the beginning, we all make stupid mistakes, but that is how we learn. These mistakes will happen and not all are the mistake others will see. Too often parents do not agree with ones decision of partners, and too often mess up what could have been a great relationship, just because. My words to everyone are to not try and destroy what you do not understand, remember yourself and what you had and lost because of someone else. Next, love is not changing someone to be what you want them to be, but more, excepting them for who they already are, not who you want them to become. Changing a person to be what we think we want is not love it is control. If you do not like something about someone, you should not be with them; nothing is worth the pain and misery. You must decide if that something is something you can live with the rest of your life. Next, Honesty is always the best policy, remember that, live by that and you can and will be happy. Secrets will come out one day, and they can destroy you and your relationship completely. If it happened before you knew them, then you have already accepted it as part of them. Last for now, I will say this. Communication is the key to being happy, if you can not talk to your partner, how can you fix the problems you are having. You must decide to talk if you want your relationship to survive the troubles ahead. Fighting never fixes anything, just makes things worst. If you want something talk to your partner, I am sure you will be happy with the outcome. TTYL, John
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