J Wade's blog: "Day by Day"

Ooook. Here we go. I've never seen a post like this, so here goes. This will be something that some guys think about, but most guys don't. It's almost like a secret, but the secret can hurt others. It's an interesting one.

There are times when a particular song comes on that hits the right tunes. It has a good beat, the tempo is perfect and the lyrics are fire. In a certain moment within the melody, memories of regret come flooding in of all the relationships or mistakes that were made within a certain amount of time. That in particular can happen to any guy. However, it only affects some of them. 

Now, it's not the kind of regret that affects someone else in a negative way. It's in a manner that reminds the guy just how lucky he is with what he has in the current moment. With the ones who stay in that very moment, kudos. It doesn't happen very much very often. Some girls often take it to offense, not realizing how much anxiety the guy may have carried until that very moment. We deal with anxiety our whole lives, but sometimes there is a silver lining.

I will say, I'm a single guy. I have my lonely moments, but I'm content with the life I live. It's not perfect, and I have days that are harder than others. I sometimes have panic attacks that I wasn't even aware of. But I'm still happy. If that special girl comes around, I couldn't be happier. Until then, I have certain songs that remind me that I CAN keep going, because I can make myself better than I ever have been. If the girl does come along and sweeps me off my feet, there's a brand new love story. Fairy tales don't always have to end with a happy princess. But it certainly makes things better. 

Guys, if this happens to you, grab your lady and remind her that she really is that special. You may not realize it dude, but she saved your life. She really did. Even if you're afraid to tell her you love her, it still exists because she accepted you. Treat her as such.