Ok, folks, our subject today will be.....FEAR. I've been thinking a lot on this subject this evening...fear and phobias.
The dictionary defines phobias thusly:
1. A persistent, abnormal, and irrational fear
of a specific thing or situation
that compels one to avoid it,
despite the awareness and reassurance
that it is not dangerous.
2. A strong fear, dislike, or aversion.
Everyone fears SOMETHING...the dark, the monster in the closet, creepy crawly things, ice(yes it's a real phobia...pagophobia), clowns, heights...hell, I even saw a woman on TV that's afraid of goldfish. Her reasoning behind this? They are the only animal she has ever seen that doesn't blink. Apparently, because they don't blink she thinks they're staring at her...studying her...perhaps plotting her grisly demise. HAHA imagine that...murdered bare finned. What will they think of next?...
The most common fear that i see in people...and when I say people I mostly mean MEN...is commitmentphobia. Again, it's a real phobia. But when i say commitment I'm not just talking about relationships. I'm talking about the fact that so many of them seem afraid to commit to ANYTHING...a career, a deodorant brand...hell, you can barely get them to commit to showering daily. But when it comes to relationships, this is when this phobia truly rears it's ugly head. I'm not only talking about romantic relationships . For example, I have two children whom I have raised and loved throughout their lives. I've made a commitment to them. But when was the last time my daughter saw her father? When was the last time my son had a male figure to toss a ball around with? It's not because I've kept them apart. Someone else made the choice to not make the commitment.
And in the romantic relationship department men run scared daily...it's as if they think that giving a shit about someone is some form of castration...an emasculation of sorts...but this isn't how it has to be. I'm not even talking about the all consuming commitment where you're gonna get married and shit. I'm talking about committing yourself to the day by day process of getting to know someone, growing to feel close to someone, sharing yourself with someone. You can't hide behind a wall forever. You're not growing...you're not living. Life is a series of events influenced by those around you and your perception of them and yourself. It is full of interaction and reaction. It's not something to run from. It doesn't last forever...and sometimes you have to hold onto it before it gets away...
Yeah people are afraid of a lot of silly things. Fear often motivates us to make complete and total asses of ourselves. The thing you have to remember is how irrational that fear often is and how idiotic it appears to others. I know I laughed when that woman screamed in terror and curled up into the fetal position at the sight of a koi fish swimming in a lake. And don't lie...you would have too...
