I remember back in my high school days when drama abounded and kids were cruel. Back in the day when we were all still trying to figure out who we were and where we wanted to go, or where we were going to go. Back in the day when I wanted nothing more than for everyone to be popular, and for everyone to get along.
High school girls were so mean. They picked at each other in an attempt to mask their own insecurities, they took sides against each other, friends against friends in an attempt to one-up each other. It was terrible watching it. It was difficult to see one of my friends be mean and cruel to another of my friends.
It was even harder not to be put in the middle. Two girls fighting to be number one, both pulling me in opposite directions trying to make me choose one over the other. It was stressful enough without having to try to explain to each girl that I loved them both as friends and couldn't choose one over the other. Trying to explain my feelings to both girls simply turned each of the fighting girls onto me, as if I had started the problem myself.
It's then that I learned that if there was drama between friends, family, or anyone else I knew, it was best left to those involved to solve. Anything I said would be taken and used. Anything I said would be taken to hurt someone else. There was nothing anyone could say, including myself, that would fix the problem between the fighting parties.
I've noticed a ton of drama here on CT. Drama between friends, and drama being perpetuated by friends of friends. Each person who posts a bulletin saying my friend said you did this, or my friend said you did that, or my friend was upset because you did that/this/the other thing is doing nothing but making the problem worse for both parties.
It's sad to see, folks. It's sad to see adults behaving the same as teenagers. It's sad to see one friend of mine hurting another friend of mine, simply because they said someone's real name online. In truth, who really cares? I use my real name on here all the time, and I tell you; it would be very easy to find me. Are people so afraid of being hunted down and killed that they lose great friendships over the usage of a name?
People, you could be hunted down and killed by your next door neighbor. By the homeless guy you always give money to. By that freaky guy down the hall where you work. You know the one; the guy who doesn't talk much. The one that doesn't hang out with anyone, but somehow always seems to know what's been going on.
The guy that fits the very definition of the serial killer profile.
Did you know that 9 out of 10 rapes and murders today are done by people we know in every day life. People we see day in and day out, and yet here you are worried that your name on the internet is going to cause you harm?!
I say let's leave the drama to the kids and start by accepting each other for who we are, faults and all. And if you can't handle someone for who they are, block them. And if you can't block them, delete everything they send you, thereby ignoring them. And if you can't handle ignoring them, then maybe you need to take a look inside yourself and decide if you should really be on a site like this. This is an adult site, folks.
This isn't a site for kids.
If you can't handle yourself as an adult, maybe you shouldn't be here.
After all, this is *just* the internet.
~*~*~ Edited ~*~*~
This is NOT saying in any way, shape or form that Wocka Wocka Wocka is the person in the wrong here. I feel that those people making bulletins against him are doing nothing but causing more problems.
This entire post is to encourage all the 'friends of' either party to let both people alone. This matter is between Wocka Wocka Wocka and the other person - NOT their friends. If, for some reason, you feel you can no longer be friends of one of the two parties than it's decision time.
Surly as adults you can make that decision for yourselves, without trying to sway other people and without posting childish bulletins about how you feel a person is wrong/stupid/whathaveyou. ... After all, isn't that what the 'haters' are for?!
And you guys aren't childish 'haters', are you... you're adults.
