If there is one lesson that was the hardest for me to learn , it was "CHANGE". We as humans can not really stand change.
For every relationship a "change" occurs. You have to accept the other for who they are or who they present themself to be. And as each of you get comfortable with each other, you begin to see things that you may or may not like. And the first things out of our mouth is "you have changed". Actually that is not true. We never really change, we just kinda hide our self. And as we get comfortable we let them out. So we are the same as we were when you met them. This is a hard concept to grasp because out of pure habit we say, we "he did or she did, he said or she said", when the reality of things is it is not about them!!!! Now you are probably saying to your self "she is nuts" but hear me out. It truely is not about them it is about you!!! You see these things and for what ever reason decided you like it or don't like it, there fore it is YOU that wants to change!!!! The fact of the matter the other person has not changed and is the same person you met in the beginning.
If you are sitting there saying well, "how come every time I am in a relationship the SAME thing happens". "They are all alike". LOL Well that is a simple answer too that we all choose not to see. Once again it is about us not them!!!! When a lesson is not learned it will constantly repeat itself over and over until you LEARN the lesson or see what it is you need to see!!!! Simple huh? Well not really, cause it is easier for us to blame the other then to step back and see that is may be something we experienced that we have not healed from. LOL
I know this is alot, but the truth of the matter is, WE CREATE OUR OWN REALITY. You can love life and learn and move forward to constantly be in the process of becoming, or you can remain with your crippling beliefs of that it is everyone else;s fault and not mine. How ever you choose to see, it is YOUR CHOICE. So take it for what it is worth.
Have a most blessed day.
