BRONX59's blog: "Butt-Ugly Older Fat Men B.U.O.F.M."

From the mind of a B.U.O.F.M............ Okay, we'll file this under "I'm feeling a little bitter". Not "better".....BITTER! So I am gonna rant a little. Just did my taxes for 2006. Yes, kinda last minute, but I have an explanation......my ex got her W-2 the first week of February, and finally mailed it to me March 30. It arrived today. As my divorce did not get finalized until 3/16/07, my options were to file married/separate, or married/joint. I asked my ex how she wanted to file. She said to do it up both ways, and she would decide based upon what was in her best interest. Understandable. Last year, after much debate, we agreed to split the Federal return based upon percentage of what was withheld from each of our incomes, and we would each get our individual State refund. I wanted to do that again this year. So, I did the returns. Filing jointly, and splitting based upon percentage of withheld from each, she would end up getting about $500 less than if we filed married/separate. However, if I filed married/separate, I end up getting about $2,400 less than I would if we filed jointly and did the percentage split. I sent her an email with the figures for both, and left it up to her. She called, and said we should file jointly and split it 50/50. My youngest son was with her, and I heard him tell her that we should file jointly, and she should get what she would if we filed separately, and I should get the rest. Pretty smart for a 20-yr-old. Of course, that would only benefit me. She would have to give up about $500 if we did it that way. Needless to say, she again said 50/50. So, my choice was to file jointly and split 50/50 (meaning she gets back roughly 50% of what was withheld from her pay and I get back roughly 16% of what was withheld from mine), or file separately (meaning she gets back roughly 36.5% of what was withheld from her pay and I get back roughly 5% of what was withheld from mine). Believe it or not, I actually took a couple of hours to make my decision. Of course, logic overcame emotion, and I agreed to do the 50/50. Still, I can't help but feel that she won again. At least she owes Kansas $137, and I get $498 from Colorado! WooWoo! SCOREBOARD She got: (bear in mind, she makes about $40k a year) 1. The house (including all the equity in it), and I get to continue paying the mortgage until March 2009, at which time she MUST refinance in her name only. 2. All the items in the house. 3. The truck (2000 F150 Lariet 4x4 Off-Road), and I get to continue to pay for it until it's payed off in August 2007. 4. $500-a-month "spousal non-modifiable rehabilitative maintenance" from September 2007 to March 2009. 5. 1/3 my 401k. 6. All of her 401k. 7. Her debt...about $6,000 in credit cards. I got: 1. The car (2000 Mitsubishi Mirage...at least it's paid for LOL). 2. 2/3 my 401k. 3. My debt...about $5,000 in credit cards and $20,000 in school loans. 4. Most my clothes. 5. My sanity....or what's left of it. 6. My freedom. I should have had HER lawyer LOL. *HUGS* Phil

From the mind of a B.U.O.F.M............ This one falls under "Serious". I've been a CT member for about seven weeks now. Amazing! Get to visit other folk's pages, rate their profile, rate their photos, stashes....become their Fan, Friend, Family! Have nice, friendly chats...and for some, develope deeper relationships. Wow. Technology is wonderful! Me, I'm a 47-yr-old straight male, father of four adult children, who JUST got his divorce finalized on March 16, 2007. I'm not what some of you may consider a "typical" recently divorced 47-yr-old male. I did not enjoy the process, and wish I never had to go through it. That in mind, I am in no hurry to "get back in the saddle". I'm in no hurry to even "touch the saddle", if you catch my drift. I even have a "Disclaimer" at the very top of my profile stating such. Why am I saying this? Well, some folks in the CT community take this cyber existance waaaaay too seriously. I'm sure you have all run across it, whether it being comments you have seen on your page or other's, or in Bulletins or Blogs. I brush them off and secretly feel a little sorry for the folks involved, but that's their business, not mine. In the past week or so, I have had two females visit my page and post open comments, for all to see, about "Party A" and "Party B" and "Party C" blah blah blah, and somehow coming to the rationale that I am involved, or even give a hoot about the matter, simply because I am on one of the individual's (Party A to Z) Friend/Family list! These "Adult by age only" folks also sent me private messages stating the same thing they felt the need to openly leave a comment on. I log on, read both the PM and the comment, delete the comment, and try to send a PM back to nicely advise the sender that I am not involved, and wish to remain that way, and please don't leave open comments like that on my page. But I can't! I've been BLOCKED!!! Someone who has never visited my page before, and apparently never bothered to read my profile, felt they knew enough about me to basically accuse me of being involved in some three to twenty-seven way tangled internet or RL love affair, did not even offer me the common courtesy to reply in private. I'm sorry. I consider that childish and irresponsible. So, to all parties involved (since I have no other proper way to relay this...I'm not going to look at your Friend list and get some other poor innocent soul involved): The person you are trying to hurt, who is on my Family/Friend list, is a wonderful person as far as I am concerned. They have been nothing but very nice to me, as a FRIEND should be. There is nothing SEXUAL in our relationship. I have no intention of changing the relationship I enjoy with that person based upon YOUR relationship with that person. Had you taken the time to even read my profile, you may have thought twice before commenting AND PMing me on the matter. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but you closed the door on me to respond in a more civilized manner by blocking me. Sad thing about that is, you closed the door on a possible friendship with me based upon an inaccurate assumption. Your loss. I have been told that I am a very good CT friend. To the rest of you, scratching your heads..... thanks for reading my little Drama Blog. I am sure you are as thrilled about reading it as I was about having to write it. I hate typing LOL. *HUGS* Phil

Hiya Friends/Family/Fans! Welcome to my Butt-Ugly Older Fat Men (B.U.O.F.M.) Blog. I will be using this Blog to spew out whatever pops into my mind on a non-general matter, some serious, some goofy, from time to time. What is B.U.O.F.M.? Well, it's a term I am stealing from a Real Life friend, who I managed to get to start a CT page....Viperbaron. It describes us, if only in our own minds, and I get a kick out of it. It's a term of endearment to us, so don't take it wrong. It's just FUN! That said, I hope my "From the mind of a B.U.O.F.M" period Blogs will entertain, inform, etc. you! *HUGS* Phil (Proud to be a B.U.O.F.M.)