Trust is difficult to define
because it means different things to different people. Some say that trust
can only be given over a long period of time, during which the one requesting
the trust must earn it. Some say that everyone gives at least a small
amount of trust to others in order for a relationship to begin. I personally,
agree with the second school of thought. Trust, is an integral part of
a BDSM relationship. Without it, there can not be a relationship.
A submissive must trust the dominant with their very
life. Once a submissive is bound and gagged, nothing can stop the dominant
from killing them if the dominant chose to. So it is imperative that
the submissive plays only with a person they trust with their life.
A submissive must also trust the dominant to have thier best interests
in mind, and to care for them, not abuse them. A submissive must trust
that the dominant has considered all options before ordering them to
do something.
Trust, however, is not one sided. A dominant must trust
the submissive as well. In many instances the submissive is in charge
of many important things, like paying bills on time. The dominant must
be able to trust that the submissive can handle these tasks in a responsible
manner. A dominant must be able to trust that the submissive will tell
them the truth and uphold the rules set for them.
Both participants must be able to trust the other with
their thoughts and feelings. WIth their vulnerabilities and strengths.
Open and honest communication is a way of building trust, and is required
in a BDSM relationship. This level of trust takes time to grow, it does
not happen overnight. Trust will grow with consistent actions from both
people and a good working level of communication. In this way, the people
show that they will do what they say they will do. Unfortunately, in
a relationship