Ok, so you looked at the title and ask why? Why ask Why, as they say back in the 1990's. It has been asked like the red plague striking human flesh. It's has been asked before like your mother kept nagging to clean your room. This is the question I've been asked by some of the visitors who come ask for a hookup from some weird sites I've never heard of. Also from family, church members, city workers, bus passengers, even some folks in my hometown around asking the same preverbial question: "Why don't want to get married?" or "How come you don't have a girlfriend?" and many other interrigating questions from mostly women. It's becoming a bad rash of attacking my freedoms. My freedom to be and remain single. Let's see. I'm 31 years old, Single, Black, no kids, no plans for marriage, and nor plans to be married in a city where Beer, Harleys, and most African Americans Single Women continue to roam to find Mr. Right. I'm talking about Milwaukee, if you must know. Why the whole blocking thing? It's my right to say and express this as possible. Haters need not apply. I don't want to hear the phrases "Oh, the sky is falling", "The buildings are trembling?", "The world is shaking at a wits ends", or "Those who arent in a relationship are going to be gay." - WHAT?! Yeah right. That's just hype.
As I indicated, yes I'm 31 years old, single, black, no kids, and not involved. Some of you are probably saying that "are you a player?" or here's a good one "I can't believe you're single at your age!" Believe it. Yeah that's right. No I'm not a player, nor a pimp because I don't fit that description. Nor I don't fit the mold of being "your catch", ladies! I've heard this question back in High School asking "Do you like girls?" What kind of question is that I don't understand? Scratching heads. Look, I do like women, only on a respectful level. As in being not viewed as sexual objects. Just everyday people, that's all. Just because I look at women, doesn't mean I'll go over and just ask for their number or email address to hookup. Not my style. I'm too much of a Christian to go for that. Maybe some are already hooked up, I don't know. Or some don't want to. Don't try to sweet talk me and try to change my mind that, I'll pray for you and someone will come and find you to get the hookup.
Warning: Be careful what you pray for, because you might not get it!
This interrigation thing is not important like finding a good career out of college. Or worshiping at your local church every Sunday. Or better yet, educating our children about the real reasons for the Birds and the Bees instead of Playboys and other Porno Magazines and Videos. And I know some of the women wouldn't do the same thing like me. I have cousins, aunts, uncles, and friends that got married and gave birth to children. But I also have cousins and aunts, uncles and friends that got divorced, and saying don't get married! Or at least some. My older sibling who is 6 and half years older than me, is not married and also proposed to be married in 1999. But the guy who wanted to propose, never got himself off the ground sort of speak. That taught me a lesson to stay single. What's worse that the women or girls, I've almost encountered were just asking too much from a guy. Like the car, house, money, not living with your mother/father, and many other their turn-offs. What's my turn off in women? Although I have respect for them, but I have to say "trying to trap men" and "tagging men". You know what I'm talking about.
So the asking marriage/relationship crap continued years later, and today. And some women are continuing to ask and I continue to answer by the preverbial answer of "no". Why? It's my right and preogative. I choose not to do this relationship thing. In life, we all make choices, right? Even things like this. Just remember, like or not, I live in a country where freedoms are allowed to be expressed at times, known as the United States of America. I know I said it. And I'm expressing my freedom to remain single every day! And I have right to live my life as a Single Man as I see fit as long it dosen't hurt anyone.-like my parents. If I lived in another country where I have to get married because of a traditional thing, then I wouldn't have a choice right? Like Apu marrying Manjula from The Simpsons.
I'm just doing my thing, while I'm still living and breathing in the troublesome world just like everyone else. So try to understand that I'm not interested. I don't need a woman to make me feel good. I get that when I get paid on the job, or in family work. End of story! You can put the offers on the tables all you want. You can put the mind games all you want. I play Mind Games too. - mostly on Defense.
But remember this. It's a choice thing. Not an age, or a "supposed to do" thing. That's total BS! If you make a decision that suits you, then go with it. It's not your mother's decision. Nor father's demanding choice. I don't care what your sisters or brothers thinks. I'll go even furher what your friends, relatives, neighbors, workers, supervisors, or the church congregation thinks. It's only your choice. I choose to pick my battles and so far, I'm winning. Just because I do things alone like go to the movies, the mall, a candidate rally, or a car show, doesn't mean I'm lonely. I'm just fine without a relationship. No need to hit the panic button here!
