Shallow Gal's blog: "Bad things"

Today Stella told the boss I said we must do it this way when I actually said we can and should do it this way because it's my job I've trained for and have performed for years and you have never done and you are making it harder than it needs to be.

She doubled down and said no you said we had to.

And I doubled down and said...I have never uttered that sentence.

And it's true that I haven't because it is false statement.

Then it hit me....Stella is my ex husband. It doesn't matter what you actually say it only matters how they interpret what you say and they never listen to the words only their interpretation of the words. And they will then tell you it's what you said and never admit it's not what you said then convince themselves you are lying to them about what you said. It's a grueling circle of bullshit. I know this because I lived it for 10 years.

That's it in a nutshell.  She is he. 

As a stay at home mother I had a saying on the laundry wall...I do what I've got to do in the order in which it needs to be done.

My husband at the time had banned me from all social media (or leaving the house without him). I realized I was an adult and created a Facebook. He came storming out of the bedroom screaming at me for being selfish. I asked how am I selfish...

And he said....it's written on the laundry wall...I do what I want to do....

I just looked at him like wtf.

And that was the moment I knew it would never get better and starting planning my escape.

But I can't escape Stella. Ugh.

This morning Stella informed me that if someone can't reach the equipment I must pull the equipment and the cables out for them but be careful because the cables become unplugged easily.

My brain said....well that's stupid.

But my mouth said...ok.

Then my brain said....I no longer care. 

My fucks have left the building. 

Now I'm sitting here not reminding my boss she needs approve something by yesterday for the 10th time because I no longer give a fuck. She's an adult. She can do it or not do it but I'm not reminding her of something she knows she has to do every week by a certain time. I did set up a calendar reminder years ago but she has ignored that just as long.

As insane as old boss lady was....at least things got done. She didn't procrastinate she just pushed it off on others. 

For my mental health I'm checking out. 

This means more free time for Fu. Lucky yous!

We must follow ADA regulations. Stella refuses to acknowledge people use wheelchairs. She has put essential equipment out of reach because "how many people in wheelchairs have been in this office this year". Thad be 2 Stella...2. 

So, I'm letting her do her crazy thing and have put my objections in writing so when it blows up I can say...whoa...twasnt me. Also planning on directing anyone complaining about it to Stella directly.

Also...anyone under 5' won't be able to do the job they've been hired for. At the moment we do not have anyone that height but have in the past.

Stella refuses to believe short people are real.

I should point out that boss lady is 6'1" and she doesn't realize just how high the equipment has been placed. I'm 5'6" and it's a bit too high for me.  Stella is 5'4" but will stand on her toes before admitting it's too high.

But Stella is on one of her irrational kicks and I'm just not up for dealing with it. 

I'm giving it 4 years. If she is still there in 4 years I'll try for a departmental transfer. It's hard because you only get a transfer if your department doesn't care if you leave or wants you gone.  I've tried. I get blocked then I get a raise. Ugh.

It's been 6 years of Stella. The first 4 were annoying. The past 2 have been hell. Not just for me. I'm not alone in this. I'm just the one trapped in a building alone with her for 1 hours everyday. I am very jealous of those that were able to quit. There was a Stella and Karen exodus. I call it the great escape.