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As some of you may have come to learn,... or know?
I write here to vent, from time to time.
I know Ive not been around a lot lately.
My life picked up quit a bit.
I had a wack job from this site,.. convince me he was a genuine person.
When in reality, he was nothing but a load of shit. *shrugs*
That being the least of things in events.
Prior to all this,.. I did hospice for my brother in law from my 1st marriage here at my home, till his last breath. & His brother,... the father of my 20 year old, disappeared completely.
Not that I mind,... but these guys were two very important people to my child.
They were all very close.
*SIGH*
One of my daughters friends moves in with us.
Whom later is the father of her baby.
I had a stroke.
My kid announced after professing for entirely too long that she was a virgin,.. that she is having a baby.
*I had another stroke*
& I have but less then 90 days to get ready in all avenues in regards to the new baby.
She being 20 & all I expected her to maintain the responsible ways she seemed to have prior.
Nope.
The father is just 17.
His family being very young as well,... on a few fronts.
These kids pushed,.. manipulated,... got the famileys to fued.
I out of no choice or option was forced to put them out of my house.
Their gone,.. I begin to recover from the disrespect, intrusions & "Jerry Springer scenes.
I get a frantic call early this morning.
Its the mother of the 17 year old boy thats is the father of my Grandson whom just turned 3 months yesturday.
Today is the 9th folks.
In the middle of all this, is my youngest, just 13 years old, she is upset, & in the middle, & there isnt enough of me for everyone, she is lost for a minute er two,... *I'm sorry baby*.
My Grandson's leg is broken, at the hands of his father.
No less of a way to put it.
Im making no judgement at this point.
Though between the exrays, bruising & the way the mother of my Grandson's father is acting.
This is not going well.
The police are involved.
My daughter is frantic. I have to tell her to be calm & Breath,.. just breath baby.
Think! Stay calm & Just think!
She wasn't in the room when it happened.
The father of the baby has been scolded by both my self & his mother for how he spoke/yelled & even too ruff in play with our Grandson, on several occasions prior. The exrays are clear. His femur bone is not only out of the hip socket but its cracked in half the way a piece of wood, would be if twisted.
Its really that simplistic.
This doesnt look good.
My Grandson, god what a trooper.
He is a wonderful little guy.
He is strong! & Handling all this well.
My Daughter & I agree,.. she & my Grandson are coming back home. For now,... at this point.
I sit in worry & wait,... to hear from my child. The mother of my Grandson.
They are interrogating my "son in law".
My Grandson has to spend the night.
His leg is in a cast.
My Daughter is spending the night.
At childrens hospital.
I sit & Wait.
10:37pm
The mother of my Grandson's father calls.
I can hardly recognise who it is.
I had to ask her.
She says "Her son isn't allowed around our Grandson & To call my lawyer. & My Grandson is in over night. &
My daughter is in the back seat of the car withdrawn & distraught.
I said:
Bring my child here.
That's my daughter bring her to her mother.
10:57pm,.. I call, .. where is my daughter,.. she is here, she gets on the phone.
She is crying,... Mom I didn't even do anything, they wouldn't even let me in the room to kiss him. They wont let me see him. I said,... just come home now. She is on her way here now.
My heart is breaking.
My Parents are involved now.
& The Family Lawyer is too.
I feel so helpless.
I don't know what to do or what to say when she is here. I will just take it as it comes.
She is here.
My daughter pretty much went straight to bed.
Ive contacted my parents & their lawyer & so on.
Between all of this.
The mother of my son in law,... is simply selfishly in the way of whats good for my Grandson.
He is now in Children s hospital with an armed guard at his door.
Ive no idea why.
This women,(the father of my grandsons mother).. can't seem to stop diverting everything towards herself.
& while standing between my daughter & I,
is saying,... "I am not influencing anything!".
Yet when my child speaks,... its this women that comes from her. Not my child.
I feel like either walking away from this & washing my hands of it?
Or,...
Sue for custody of my Grandson.
Simply to get whats right before wrong for him.
I know if I do this,... it will put a rift in my daughter & I's relationship. But not for too terribly long, as I know in my heart, she is still as close to me as she had ever been,.. her emotions is whats kept her from thinking clearly.
Which is normal,... but what isn't right or normal is this other women,... influencing,... even though she says she isn't. She very much is.
Her & her family have records involving cps that go back way too far & too current all in one.
We have none in our family.
None of which any children were taken.
Mine were done in divorce only.
Not something violent like this.
Or seemingly anyway.
There isn't even a way to candy coat this.
In anyway.
Fuck!!!
I just have no idea on what to do?
Wash my hands of this?
Thats what I really want to do.
I really want to just walk!
I want nothing to do with this and was prepared to allow my child to go on with her none sense.
But now that my grandson is hurt & now being held for his protection.
I honestly don't think that walking is the right thing or the smart thing on any level.
FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK!!!!!!!
I simply haven't any idea how to handle this.
I so just want to walk!
I don't think I can take another moment of the utter stench in bullshit that's being spewed forth in the middle of all this. That has nothing to do with the real entirety of the situation, & that to me is simply insane.
Today my daughter had a meeting with child protection services.
Apparently my grandson had a previous break in the same leg just above his knee that was nearly healed.
& Due to the domestic violence of my second ex-husband,.. he to myself & my children, mentioned here in the past in either mumm or otherwise. ... I can not have legal guardianship of my grandson. Now all of that side of the family is on their way here to my house for us to decide as to whom will have custody over him.
He is not allowed now to be around his father with out supervision.
Im certain now that I will be having more time with my Grandson now then ever, regardless of said issues against me.
I was the victim in the cases in my background.
So,... that leaves me open to have more time with my Grandson.
As,... Im the only one that really has the time.
None the less,... my child is doing all that she can to jump the hoops set in front of her.
This is clearly going to be a very long process.
Ive never been threw anything like this before.
Though I knew my grandson was being handled to ruff,... I had no idea it was that ruff.
Im devastated.
I could of prevented this.
Though, how? Ive no idea?
I now wished I had never put my daughter out of the house. Im certain had I not done that?
My grandson wouldnt be in foster care now.
Much has come to light threw all this,... all of us "adults" in this situation have learned we had all been played,... we also learned bunches more,... needless to be said here.
Over all,... my Grandson is in a foster home,... my child had been standing by the side of the father of my grandson,... though I tried to help she refused my help. Im forced to take it upon myself with a lawyer,... & so shall it be.
My kid has been proven she is irrasponsible.
& The father of the baby is abusive. Period.
I have to do what I have too.
9/13/08
The delusions of my child & the mother of my grandsons father, persists.
My child is beyond realistic & further in delusion then I had ever imagined.
She is forcing the worst scenerio possible between us. Out of no choice of my own, Im forced to bring all that I have found in her room as evidence as well as other documents. She at this point has made her bed & will most certainly lay in it. The entire situation is beyond irresponsible in multiple fronts. The irony is the "adult" whom guides my daughter though does it while denying it. Is no closer to the reality then my daughter is. For this,.. its a sad state of affairs in the idea that my Grandson's fate will of course be a happy one for him. Though Im most certain, he wont have a relationship with either responsible party. They have proven just how terribly irresponsible they truly are.
9/14/08
There is nothing worse then to be denied your instinctual right to protect your child.
The harshest of the worst case scenerio.
Is your child not only rejecting & defying your right,... but going out of her way to disrespect & hemuliate me in the ut-most of defiance.
Her ignorance has now insisted on me to do all that I can for my Grandson, & let the world treat my child as well as she has treated me & the world.
9/17/08
I've had my statement taken by the police.
Its now clear to me why my child was bulling & bulldogging me from talking to the police or case workers.
Weeks before all of this.
We had a huge blow out over how irresponsible she was being with my Grandson.
Its clear from the questions I was asked by the detective & the case worker that my child didn't want me to speak a single word as pretty much she is damned.
All the questions aren't bad,... just that she is negligent & irresponsible.
Also the other grandmother was finally told by an authority though I had been saying it from the begining,... to stay out of me & my childs business.
She came to me & apologized while saying:...
"it was a slap in her face to be told by a complete stranger to get her nose out of where it didnt belong,...
I said to her: "Ive been asking you to stay out of it from the begining.
She said: she knows but she just didnt get it till someone else had to tell her.
That made me feel really good that she was a strong enough person to admit that she was wrong & to apologize.
Makes me look at her in an entire new light.
Today they will be taking a statement from my youngest.
They will be here after 4pm today.
It seems to me the detective is zeroing in on my Grandsons father.
Which isnt good, for him.
Ive learned that they got to see my Grandson yesterday & he looked good & was full of smiles, though they cut their visit short w/them cause he had fallen asleep.
I can't help but think that will be used against them in court by the prosecuting attorney.
Though they believe they were doing whats right for their son.
Its clear from reading many of the reports that much is taken out of context as well as distorted then used against my daughter & her boyfriend.
I know at best this entire situation is going to break my daughter down more mentally then all else.
I hope she can be strong enough to contend with this better then they expect or anticipate.
As I truly believe they want to break her down.
Ive no idea why?
But my Grandson is a healthy & very happy boy & such an easy baby.
That I'm sure if the state could have their way,... they would take this perfect child.
This county that I live in is the worst & most horrific in being dirty & Ive never witnessed so much let alone the amount of corupstion there is in this county.
Its truly disgusting.
My child still refuses to speak to me.
Which had she not been empowered to defy & disrespect me by the other grandmother I'm certain this would of never gone this far.
That alone is a crime if ever there was one.
Though she is harming herself & this case with her child in doing this.
She hasnt even attained a Gaurdian ad litem for my grandson.
Which should of been done the day he was taken into custoday.
My daughter can't stand hearing anything about whats wrong over the right from me.
Much less anything.
Let alone will she take the time to learn how little she is doing isnt to the best interest of my grandson.
Including not getting her son an lawyer. aka Gaurdin ad litem.
Last night one of my best friends came by.
I refused to speak to him about any of this as anything Ive talked to him about involving all this,...he seemed to challenge me.
As he is biased due to speaking to my child though he wont admit it. Its clear he is biased. As anything I ever told him he runs to find out to have it verified by my child, whom cause of her position distorts everything & then conveys it to my best friend.
I simply told my friend, Im not talking about anything of this with you.
As anything I say to you,.. you discount it & then he runs to my child.
I find that more then biased & now though Ive questioned it before.
I feel more then a friendship has happened between he & my child as Ive only seen him get this way with girls he has been intimate with.
He wont admit any of this, but Im going by what Ive observed.
& the fact that he has gone behind my back several times.
I understand that he is friends with both me & my child,...(who does that?) ... but he was a friend of mine that I brought into my family.
That Im rather certain much more has happen between he & my child then the both of them will admit.
& cause of the delusions my child insists on & then portrays herself as an adult.
She at least has him convinced that she is more then capable as well as adult enough.
Though she is far from.
None the less,... if loosing a friend over my child is to happen?
Then so be it,... as a real friend would of never interfered let alone gone as far as he has between my relationship with my child, much less all that he has done out of respect alone for me.
He is too young to understand though he will find that statement insulting which again proves how young he is. & proving my point.
I will not allow anyone to disrespect me on any level again especially those whom don't have children whom think that they know more then you do about your own child or anyones child.
When I explained that point to this "friend" he was offended.
Again proving how inexperienced & immature he is. As its a given fact that those whom voice their opinions or ideas on child rearing whom don't or have not ever had children?
Are most often people whom havent a clue about what they are talking about due to lack of experience alone.
Then when they become offended,... it only proves the statement further. Rather ironic really.
If he was truely my friend he would of been in complete none biased support for both of us.
Its clear,... otherwise.
His interest isnt with me.
Which to me is very upsetting.
But it takes lifes incidents to bring out these things in many.
Though Ive known him since he was 19 & I was 30,... he is rude, he is an asshole but over this time frame, I've gotten to know him, very well & I think its his age group that is just this way anyway.
Though it influenced my children, which I had thought was a good thing to expose them.
But its clear many of the choices I've made in exposing my children apparently weren't right let alone good.
I'm told not to blame my self by the real people in my life.
But in it all,... I feel that had I not given guided freedom as I have.
My ignorant, disrespectful 20 year old wouldn't be shooting herself in the foot so terribly right now.
& Though its unfortunate to discover during a situation like this,... I'd of never found out the one person whom I thought to be one of my very best friend. Truly isnt.
He will be offended but its his lack of experience & maturity that is in the way, in understanding my point of view.
AKA his loss.
For now,... Im doing all that I can for my Grandson. & NO one or thing is going to stop that.
Ive done all that I can otherwise.
You can't help those whom aren't willing to help themselves.
But I am helping the helpless.
My Grandson.
CONCLUSION:
My Daughter continues to delude her self.
Though the end results isnt anything I hadnt informed my delusional child about on the way to taking my grandson to the hospital.
One twist to it though,.. that I wasnt expecting.
Her boyfriend is charged with neglect & abuse
&
is going to jail for 30 days,...
he will then be on probation for 2 years then of which he is to do anger management/parenting class's & counceling.
My daughter is to go through parenting classes & anger management as well as physcological counceling.
Which is something I pushed for.
My Grandson will reside with my twin sister. Which all these things,...I pushed for.
I told my daughter all this,... & she continues to delude herself as well as go out of her way to hurt me due to her delusions in her idea of protecting her boyfriend & his family over being honest enough to know better when her mother is only preparing & protecting her.
She will learn & get in the know the hard way.
& That is my pay back as well as the end result of my grandson shoving much into her pompous arrogant face, once he puts her through the pay back hell she so deserves for being such a disrespectful dummy to her own mother.
The vanity & self absorbtion Ive seen in my own child surely makes me question my parenting. Though Im reassured otherwise that my child has gone off the deep end as she has due to her own phsycosis.
Which Ive no choice but to believe.
She maintains as if she is in direct know of every aspect of all thats gone on, when in reality,.. she truly hasnt a clue.
& thats just on this subject.
It near scary to me just how much more she is so clearly ignorant about?
None the less,... there are pics of my grandson in his casts should you like to take a peek & see how he is doing?
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