I spoke with a woman this week. She had broken up with her man. He told her that he did not see a future but He wanted to continue to see her. Wow what a flash back to my past. Though some of the details were different the impact was the same. She loved him but he did not want anything but his own fulfillment. He could not cut her lose. I was very thankful for the experience I had gone though. I helped this person understand what took me a year to learn. Selfishness is the ugliest of behaviors humans display. Misplaced hope is the ultimate destroyer. He was more than willing to destroy her by staying in her life for his own needs all the while she was holding onto hope that he would one day her love her. He stood there guilt free because he was open while emotionally she was being destroyed. He said it was her choice to allow her life to fall into decay. Hope doesn’t give us options. We believe. A prisoner must hold onto hope or he will be forever lost. The same is true in love. Nothing stings worst than loss of faith. When the selfishness is seen for what it is hope is free to see a different horizon.