Okay, my mind got the best of me when this subject was discussed, so I have taken some time to search this practice out and read up on it.
It is interesting, as every article, stresses the issue of a trusting relationship. Giving, having complete and total trust in another human being in order to participate in this sexually erotic act.
I think having all the information somehow allows for the opportunity to make a better, more informed decision about things. So I thought I would just share what I found..........
Bondage involves people being tied up or otherwise restrained for pleasure. Bondage is usually, but not always, a sexual practice. Studies in the U.S. have shown that about three quarters of all men find the idea of bondage to be erotic; many women do as well.
Why Bondage?
People who find it erotic to be tied up find it so for a variety of reasons:
The most frequently cited reason is a mental freedom from inhibitions and responsibility since they have, in a way, given up control of the sexual situation to follow. This is sometimes referred to as a "power exchange."
Some like the tactile feeling of restraint, that is, the feeling of pressure or pulling.
Some enjoy the feeling of helplessness for its own sake. Some like to struggle aggressively against their bonds, particularly when being sexually or otherwise stimulated. There are some in this category who play bondage games that do not include a significant sexual component.
To intensify the experience of orgasm control or of orgasm denial.
People who enjoy tying other people up are motivated by a variety of reasons, including:
Taking pleasure in the erotic submission of their partner
The feeling of trust which comes from another person placing their physical freedom in their hands
Wishing to please their partner, and the stimulation engendered by their partner's pleasure in it
Enjoyment of the power and control one has over a restrained partner; people for whom this is a principal motivation may have trouble making it much fun for the other person.
The mechanics of bondage are trivial compared to the relationship issues.
Start with a committed relationship with a lot of trust and plenty of sexual activity together.
Talk things through first.
Start slow and easy.
Take turns being the one being tied up.
Take the simple safety precautions listed above.
Many people regard bondage as safe when conducted between sober, trusted partners who are fully aware of the risks involved and the precautions necessary to ensure safety. Partners who are in committed relationships may have a greater basis for trusting each other.
SAFETY
The use of a "safeword", or some clear way for the subject to indicate genuine distress and a wish to abort.
Never leaving a bound person alone.
Making sure that the subject changes positions at least once an hour (to avoid circulation problems).
Making sure that the subject can be released quickly in an emergency.
Avoiding restraints which impair breathing. (Gags or hoods which block the mouth can become asphyxial hazards if the subject vomits or the nose becomes otherwise blocked.)
Remaining sober; alcohol and drugs should be avoided.
One very simple safety measure is to ask the subject every so often if he or she is all right.
