I have a friend. Let's call her "HOPE" this friend is 22 and has 2 wonderful children. She is married but separated.
I went visit her a few days ago and she was depressed so I talked to her and tried cheering her up some. We were up all night talking so I stayed the night, Left in the morning to go visit other people. I guess her husband came over and they talk about things. B/c she called me and told me that they going to try and work things out.
With that being said the reason she left him was b/c she said he treated her like shit, never let her have friends, she was in his world not her own. Also always fight with him about the kids.
So she says they talked about everything and going to try and work things out. Well today she was asking for help to find out what she should do about her situation. She wants her kids to be happy that's why she is trying to work things out. But she hates being with him. She is so depressed. Her question is what she should do.
Be with her husband for her kids sake and hate life b/c of him? Or be happy with out him?
I am good when it comes to advice mostly but she stumped me here. I know many people in similar situations. And I don't understand why they stay with the person that makes them unhappy. HOPE is a very sweet girl and a great mother. She is the type that feels lonely with out anyone. She doesn't know what makes her happy. She is trying to figure things out but is confused doing it.
I gave her my advice and the only things she said was that She didn't Want to hurt him again. She said I am right about everything but she doesn't want to hurt him. I don't understand that. She knows what it takes to become happy but is worried about the person that caused her to be unhappy. Females are confusing and I am determined to figure them out.
Give me some kind of advice to help her. I told her that I am there for her to make her happy. I will own up to what I said. Help HOPE out.
THANK YOU
LOTS
JUSTIN GARCIA