Why is it that everyone needs to label everything?
I mean cant 2 consenting adults have a relationship in which they see each other on a regular basis, talk regularly, and well consumate and not be labeled? Are we to stop seeing everyone else when we are still in the healing stages of our past & the getting to know you stages of what could possibly be our future? A future not neccessarily with each other, who knows maybe just stepping stones in the right direction. Would it be so wrong for us to date others and to not feel guilty about it? What is it that we need to share and what things are we allowed to keep private? Does that neccessarily mean that we dont care about each other? Possibly it will make our life choices easier? I am to old to be in a commited relationship that isnt going to go anywhere without leaving my options open & according to some to old to not be in a commited relationship.
I mean everything is so cut & dry. Like all those stupid surveys out there ( I admit I am addicted to them) which one chocolate or vanilla, what about the swirl damn it? black or white? well somedays are just grey & others are bursting with color. Love or lust? Sometimes doesnt lust turns into love (it happens doesnt it?) Love sometimes fades. Lust well sometimes gets boring, in the whole been there got what I wanted aspect, now its done & over.
And who makes these rules? Is there a dating vs. non dating rule book? Cant things just be as they are? If things blossom into something thats wonderful, the seed is planted & watch it grow & turn into something beautiful but why rush things? It seems that once things are labeled theres a huge pressure & things changed simply because of a label. If you dont expect anything then you cant get hurt, you pass it by and take it for what it was. What is the big hurry?
( This all stemmed from someone telling me I was in love, I said no I'm so not in love I am in lust but I just wont tell you with whom it is.... wasnt the answer she had wanted to hear.)