KouBoi FE2 Lady Gwilanna's blog: "KouBoi's Creative Writings"

The word "love" may be the most battered, abused, and misused word in the English language. To define love is impossible due to the over-whelming abundance of emotion; Yet, lack of time and vocabulary. We have little trouble saying it, but more difficulty sharing it because so few of us truly feel it. To "feel love" is the ONLY way to "know love".

Find as much as you can to get annoyed about on a daily basis. Get angry about the annoyance so that you create an atmosphere of hostility in your home. If anyone suggests you need anger management, be sure to cite all the annoyances that caused this, so they know it's not your fault. Do what "you" like to do and brush off or point out the absurdity of your partner's preferences. If they try to do something for themselves, be sure to accuse them of selfishness and greed. Claim they always focus on money. When you start an argument, make sure that you win it through intimidation and anger. If your partner suggests that you are manufacturing things to get angry about, make sure to accuse them of starting it or claim THEIR behavior is what causes your outbursts. When you've made them mad enough to fight back, be sure to declare that they are, in fact, the one with the anger problem. When you criticize, do it often and for every infraction you can think of—like windows up or down, turning lights off and on, how they load the dishwasher, where the thermostat is set, when to use the dryer—and make sure that if they do what you demanded the last time, this time it's wrong. Make certain your partner cannot easily express their own opinion. If it's different from yours, let them know you consider this a betrayal. If your partner questions anything you do, turn it into a challenge and them into the enemy. This way you have more things to be angry at and you can accuse them of creating the disharmony. Don't bother to connect with your partner. Don't give a damn about where they came from and never ask questions about what they think and fee; it might give you a clue as to what brings them joy. Do talk about yourself, your work and your ideas. Just make sure you don't reciprocate. Make sure that if your partner wants to talk about things to improve the relationship that you have other things to do. All hobbies that don't include them are good (pornography is better). If you do listen, make sure to keep the TV on and/or roll your eyes letting them know you are playing the "communication" game but don't intend to do anything about it. Should they suggest a counselor, agree that they need one. Give you partner the cold treatment whenever they stand up for themselves and don't give in to your demands. Better yet, find something immediately to blame them for so they never feel comfortable. It's good to occasionally do something really considerate so you keep them off balance and you don't lose your hostage. When you have don something wrong, don't admit it. In fact, it works best if you twist the facts, ignore them, "forget," and deny what really was said and done. Then quickly, without addressing the issue, point out something they might have done wrong, or accuse them of THINKING OF DOING something wrong. Apologize once in a while when what you did was REALLY BLATANT, so you can say that you are honestly working on the relationship and you never get credit for it. When things get really tough (which happens in all relationships) threaten to leave them, move into motels, hire attorneys, and make things horrible—then beg forgiveness later and never admit the truth to anyone—lie that it was THEM that threatened breaking-up all the time and see how many people you can convince that you shacked up with a BITCH/BASTARD. These are the perfect 10 steps to and unhappy relationship. Remember, it works if you work it.

Sometimes people come into your life, and you know right away that they were meant to be there - to serve some sort of purpose, to teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be - possibly your spouse, neighbor, professor, long lost friend, or ever a complete stranger. And some times things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower or heart. Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, strait, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless. The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you become. Even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks you heart; forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally - not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart. and eyes to things. Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can - for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, breath free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual, and believe it yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself it will be hard for others to believe in you. You can make of your life anything you wish. Create your own life and then go out and live it. Most importantly, if you love someone, tell them - for you never know what tomorrow may have in store and learn a lesson in life each day you live. Today, is the tomorrow you were worried about yesterday... Was it worth it???