I just don't understand how some people can be so selfish. My grandmother raised 5 kids by herself. Then when she needed to be taken care of, her kids turned their backs on her. A couple of years ago the entire family was in Palm Springs at my aunt's place for Thanksgiving. At the end of dinner all of my grandmother's kids were arguing over who would have to check on my grandmother the next day and make sure that she didn't forget to take her meds. After they argued in front of her, to the point that they made her cry, I stood up and said I'd take care of it, at which point they all felt guilty and some how managed to work it out. The following year we had x-mas dinner at my parent's house. One of my aunts that was visiting from Hawaii said that she had talked with her husband and that he had no problems with her moving back here to take care of my grandmother for the rest of her life, however long that might be. She said she would need a 2 week notice "to get her life together" before moving back. She said that she was affraid that an old folks home would kill my grandmother. I looked at her and said, it will kill her and that she needed to come back here now if that was really a possibilty. Of course she didn't listen to me. The next thing I know, without warning, they put her in a home. And like I knew it would, it killed her. She raised 5 kids on her own, 3 of the 5 are now retired, and between them, they couldn't take care of her. I know that one day my parents will need some one to take care of them. I have no brothers or sisters. It's gonna be up to me and me alone to take care of them. And when that time comes, I'm just gonna keep my mouth shut and do it, whatever it takes, cos that's what family is supposed to do. How could her children have been so wrapped up in their miserable little lives, so selfish, that they could not be there for her when she needed them?
