Duke Boomington's blog: "the good, the bad, the ugly"

ok to start things off, this is not a desparate plea to get attention or have someone fall for me. Over the years Ive had a couple girlfriends on fubar (that didnt work out for one reason or another) and several women Ive been interested in. Now given that I have over 500 names on my friends list and 3 of em are male, apparently its assumed by many females that im some kind of player and that i get it from a different source every night. Lets debunk that myth right now. I havent had sex in over 3 years. I have had phone sex a few times (given the time period) which has averaged out to MAYBE once a month. When you factor that ive had phone sex with one girlfriend on here nightly, that shapes down to a whole bunch for a mnoth and a half and maybe 6 times over the rest of that period. I also know I have the pic of my tongue up, but for years I didnt so lets discount that in terms of opinions about me for the time being because it really has no bearing on anyone except NEW friends. What I want to know is, when I express that I am interested in someone, why cant they either just tell me know they have no interest in me like that? props to caralin@, she did from the get-go. orrrrrrrrrrrrr if they ARE interested in me, whats the hang up? why are you not stepping up and saying so? Is it my fun lighthearted perviness? (as expressed in a recent SB convo) Is it that I am a percieved "player"? whats the deal, because I truly dont understand. I know i have it in my profile what kind of woman I am looking for, and the biggest thing for me has been to be friends first, and then see what happens from there. So I dont understand the big brother theory either. Im not trying to find love , Im trying to let love find me. again this isnt some desparate plea to find a woman who is interested, Im just trying to understand why most of the ones I have been interested dont even bat an eyelash at me when I DO say im interested in them? (btw I dont go after taken females for relationships, thats just wrong) whats your perception of why the hell I cant land a woman? lol