what else would I have on my mind to write about. *giggles*
Official Definition from Wikipedia online encyclopedia - The clitoris is a sexual organ in the body of mammals. The visible knob-like portion is located near the anterior junction of the labia minora, above the opening of the vagina.
My definition: a glorious little spot with between 6,000 and 8,000 sensory nerve endings that deserves to be played with often, and in return will give a woman hours and hours of pleasure, stress relief, makes the sunshine a little brighter, and brings a smile to your face. To find head south (slowly, its more fun to take your time and even a few detours) with fingers, tongue, or other pleasure giving device and when your hips arch and moans involuntarily burst forth – you found it. Once found, rub, lick, or otherwise stimulate until totally satisfied (or semi-conscious j/k)
OOOOH and for those who wish to learn more, a whole domain just about The Clitoris - dedicated to a Woman's Sexual Pleasure & Health
When a woman is empowered and not afraid to take matters into her own hands, people have various reactions, and one is to offer bad advice – like masturbation will make you go blind! Or too much stimulation with a vibrator will damage the clitoris.
Over at Dr. Marlene Wasserman Advises, I found a great response to those who think vibrators are bad.
Question - Hi there Dr Wasserman - I enjoy using a vibrator about 3-4 times a week and have done so for a couple of years. Someone said once that this can eventually cause damage to the nerves of the clitoris and desensitize it.
Dr. Marlene Wasserman - This is a common story about vibrators - to the best of my knowledge it just isn't true. Nerves do not get damaged by vibrator use. Indeed a desensitizing process happens which is understandable. The clit gets used to this intense level of stimulation and so needs to maintain this level of intensity to get the same response. Which is why many women find they cannot become orgasmic with manual or mouth stimulation - they just need the vibration and sensation that only a vibe can produce. If you wish, try and alternate your vibration masturbation sessions with manual play. You may need a lot more fantasy in your mind to really get you going. Please do not worry about this - unless you develop symptoms like numbing of your clitoral area, really doubt this will happen.
Girl To Girl Advice – I concur with Dr. Wasserman. Vibrators are a girl’s best friend alone or with a partner. Having your partner pleasure you with a vibrator is awesome. If it feels good, then enjoy the vibe! Batteries make great stocking stuffers so friends always know what to get me for Xmas, and my good friends know what size I need.
I found another good Question and Answer over at Go Ask Alice, from a woman who gets little pleasure, if any, her clitoris. Alice assures her there is nothing wrong with her. And advises the woman to get to know her kitty better, relax, create a sensual atmosphere, explore and play. “Sex toys that provide direct contact with the clitoris might also feel good”
My advice - Every woman, every clitoris is different and enjoys stimulation in various ways and various intensity. My clitoris is what I call an “inny” (not an outie) to borrow terms used to describe the belly-button. I had discovered the joys of masturbation and shower heads at a young age, but when I began having intercourse there was no big bang, some excitement and just enough pleasure to make me keep trying, but overall I began to think sex was mostly just something girls did to get a guy off in hopes that in return they would lick or fondle us enough to reach orgasm – which of course in the real world rarely happens. Or there was something wrong with me, my clitoris or vagina were in some way “not right.”
Luckily I came across a book that explained things (I can’t remember the name of it, but if I do I’ll update the post). The book explained that in response to stimulation the clit responds differently for different women. It can swell and become more sensitive, needing less pressure and lighter stimulation as a woman reaches orgasm. Or it can drawback, become less sensitive, needing harder pressure and a stronger stimulation in order to achieve orgasm.
A light bulb went off in my head. There wasn’t anything wrong with me! When I masturbated I was using more and more pressure without even thinking about it, so I was able to orgasm. When having sex, at first the stroking pressure against my clit would be stimulating, but the more excited I became it would retreat, so the same steady pressure of intercourse wasn’t enough for me to reach orgasm. Needless to say, this babe comes with an instruction manual. LOL Well, not literally. But I do let my lovers know when to start rubbing harder, or when I need to change position to increase the pressure and pleasure, and they all get a lesson in vibrator manipulations.
So girls..if you have no other sex toy in the bedroom, at least have a vibrator or two, your clitoris will thank you. And guys, don’t be intimated by vibrators – buy her one as a gift and keep the batteries supplied, and learn how she likes it used on her. The happier she is, the happier you and your cock will be.
