Yah know, a lot of women don't know how to deal with their exes. Even when we think we have made a clean break, something happens that makes us so angry that we wonder why we even dealt with them in the first damn place.
It's at this point that we really try and figure if the dick was so good that it was worth the trouble and in many cases the answer is no, we stayed for some reason but for another reason they are exes.
Sometimes we even consider if jail time is worth the heartache that we sustained during or after the relationship. I know many a woman who has asked one of her girls for a reminder as to why she lets that sorry ass man continue to breathe. The answer is usually that is murder is illegal and goodness he's not worth all that, we think he's on our nerves NOW....LOL.
Evaluating some of the conversations I've had with the girls, I've come up with a few little things that may help you through the time when the ex acts up. Just small things you can do to get through the moment........ready?
1. Take a hot bubble bath. That is a subtle reminder of one of the things you cannot do in prison.....ha!!!!
2. Don't engage in the conversations that talk about the break up. If you are not considering getting back together with him then why even bother. It's a round robbin argument that is totally nonproductive and will not have a resolution. If that shit could be resolved, you'd still be together.
3. Remind yourself that murder is illegal.
5. Let him speak his peace....he will undoubtedly remind you why he's an ex just give him a second.
4. Question why you are still talking to him in the first place. What's the point? If you can't find one then cut the line, if it's over ... it's over.
5. Remind yourself that murder is illegal.
6. If you all still have mutual obligations, don't be afraid to put things on paper. Outline what responsibilities you all have, bills, kids whatever and get it documented and notarized or done in court. That way you have a leg to stand on if he doesn't follow through other than idle argument. Chances are if everyone followed through on their word, the relationship may still be in tact.
7. Let the phone ring. If you really don't feel like addressing things at the moment and it's not an emergency, let it go to voice mail, see what they want and handle it later. Don't let it go too long but just long enough to prepare yourself for the conversation and to stay on task.
8. Remind yourself that murder is illegal.
9. Talk to friends, that's why you have them. Just be sure when they are ready to talk back your ears are open.
10. Don't worry about who he dates after you. Who cares about the bitch that got your sloppy seconds anyway?........HA!
I know all of that is very tongue and cheek but you know most of that does work if we can put things in perspective. Although this is written from a woman's perspective, some of these are applicable to the fellas as well.
Have a good one and Cherry on!
