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What are you waiting for?
People think they are in love until they finally find true love. True love is unmeasurable, it consumes you in a way that nothing on this planet can. It makes you want to be a better person, it makes you feel like you are perfect no matter what society says. True love holds you when you need it and even when you don't. When you find true love don't make it all about you or that other person, make it about the new you, the you that is both of you together. Make it about your future, your dreams, your life.
Don't let the little things get to you, when you really want and desire the person that you are with, the past and everything that goes on around you, it doesn't matter. What matters is that you can communicate with the love of your life and know that no matter what they have your back the same way that you have theirs.
Ask yourself, would you lay down your life for the person person you "love" the same way you would for your own flesh and blood When things get rough are you willing to sit down and even through the tears work it out or are you just going to walk away? Personally if I can't answer those two questions as a yes, then I'm not in love. It takes a strong heart and a lot of understanding to know that you have the person you were created to compliment and to make it work. I see sooo many people who are in love every time you turn around that you can't help but wonder what is missing in their life that they assume every person who dates them for 2 minutes is the love of their life.
We have all been guilty of this at one point or another. My question to you is, is that love that you are professing to be true consuming you in a way that makes you and the person you are with better or is it just there for convience and the ability to say you are not alone??
I am writing this because it seems lately everyone is wanting to be in the center of my life telling me that they "love me" or they "love my other half". I have loved or thought that I loved several people in my life, it wasn't until I met the man I call my husband that I realized my heart only thought I was in love in the past. There's nothing I wouldn't do for the man that I am with and I don't doubt in my mind that there is nothing he wouldn't do for me. He proves this to me every day. He makes me feel whole, and perfect, and to him I guess I kinda am, to me he is. The love that I have for the man I call my husband is something that can't be discribed and honestly if you have ever felt this love you know that you don't want to discribe it. You don't want to lable it you just want to cherish it for eternity.
The key to happiness is trust, the key to a successful relationship is openness, and the key to making them both work together is not letting everyone get in the middle of both. If you want you happiness and your love, quit letting everyone else in the middle of it. Have your one confidant that you can go to when you are confused but know that the big stuff you talk over with your partner NOT your bestie, because while your bestie may have the answers, the person you need to bring your concerns to is your significant other. Your bestie is bias, they want to see you happy and at the end of the day they will take your side even if you are wrong. The person you love they are gonna tell you if you are wrong, and they are going to help you find a solution that is right.
Ok I'm done with my heartfelt speech for the day, I hope this helps some people realize that there is a huge difference and thinking and being in love and that there is an even bigger difference in RL and FU.
xoxo- Harley
