6 things that can hold you back from being in a relationship!
1. Your list of “must-haves†for a romantic partner is unattainable.
2. You’re unwilling to compromise in relationships.
3. You’re afraid of intimacy.
4. You pick partners that share your interests, but not your values and goals.
5. You believe there’s only one soul mate out there waiting for you.
6. You beliefs and raise kids dont match.
BTW Im 35 min away from Sacramento.
Im a glass house open book type of man. Im a very understanding person but, I despise liars & women who play games. Im always open to chat nicely. I've learned that the greater a person's sense of guilt, the greater their need is to cast blame on others. I've learned that to Love you most forgive and not worry about the what ifs. Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction. Accept the things to which fate binds you, & love the people with whom fate brings you together!
At times I wonder is there a point to trying to find that special someone on the internet or in everyday life. All woman want is a free movie, dinner, a one night stand, Mr. Muscles, or Mr. Money! No one is true, honest or truest these days it seems! Its all about putting up walls and never commenting to someone, due to their paste and fear! I have learned that fear should never decide if you should love or not! Love is given freely and should be honored when it given!
If you give a number then answer your phone. If you make plains dont flake! Stop putting yourself out there and say I want a relationship! Yet you don’t make the time to get to know someone, do to the fact your making time for 2-10 other men, work, family, friends, or kids. Then why even be on a site and say you want a relationship?
Im SORRY I dont talk on IM or send many message back and forth on here. I am a very respectable man and if you asked me to not contact you or call, then I dont. I dont beg or force anything also, I will make time and show to you that you are worth something to me! So it is up to you if you need to have walls up. Sorry, I never put them there! Please if walls are what you need use them. I will not jump over them or try to brake them down, I will just say Good Luck with your walls and say dont hide to long behind it. I hope you dont miss out on a great guy, due to your past and holding that vs the new guy! I pay for a cell phone to use it not to look at it and hope that it will rings! Im old fashion to me a voice matters and counts for something. So Im SORRY I am not part of this IM, Text, or Email generation, but Im real and honest hope that counts for something!
Hoping lady luck is out there, I give up hope at times, then look again! There has to be more to life then wanting and feeling love deep, deep inside, but Im still am alone! Being true to myself and others has hurt probably more then anything over the years! I wish I could over the years not be this Nice Guy and be cold heart-ed and hide behind my mask, walls, games, or be a player!
Most people give up at the 1st two or three speed bumps in a relationship. They forget the great stuff that got them to that speed bump and focus on the bad. You have to have the bad stuff to truly enjoy the great stuff. It is what makes a great man or woman great! Do you give 110% or are you just the type that jumps the fence for the thought of the greener grass? Dont get you head stuck in the fence you are truly being lead by fake friends that say go, go, go Im truly behind you! A Real friend would stay fight, fight, fight, Im always here for you!
Nice Guys don’t grow on trees, we grow slowly from a seed from a loving family! At times I even wonder why I even use online profiles other then to keep in touch with real life friends and family! Woman on here have at less 15-30 guys a day sending them a message and why would I want to be just another pointless random guy that she want to enjoy flirting with! Honestly really its almost as pointless as real life looking at woman its the same there they have all theses guys to flirt and choose! None seem to want a commented relationship at less not the ones that are at less average build, I feel at times winning the lotto might be is easier!
I may not be the best LOOKING guy around, or have the most MONEY or even have the best JOB, or have a MUSCLES body, but a women should like me because I would treat her nicely and I can give her all the attention she wants. On a logical level what do woman want:
Even though she KNOWS you're the best guy for her...Shes Magnetically Attracted To Men Who Push Her EMOTIONAL Buttons...The wild, exciting, "bad boy" characters she always ends up with...The men she chooses instead of 'nice guys' like you...and the guys she gets dumped by, then comes crawling, crying back to you – for a shoulder to cry on. (I refuse to be that guy!)
The mini steps rules in starting a friendship it seems in to days times.
1st you have to only tell half truths.
2nd you can only call then and meet them once every few weeks.
3rd you most never meet their friends or family until 4 -6 months. 4th if you talk about your past and tell them who you are then boom it means run the other way.
5th if you focus and give them 110% of your time and show your not seeing anyone else it means to also mean run the other way. 6th if you dont have a great job or own a big house or car mean run or you get those gold diggers friends and loser people that only want that from you.
7th they will leave for greener grass, they cant be faithful!
8th once they get in your pants boom they change or that all they want or they leave never to contact you again. (seems no one want to be true, faithful or even have a LTR!
What else should I say here....I am open to meeting new people from all parts of life and around the world, whos know where my soul mate is or best friends are... Yes, I do have scars from being an open book, but I wish to stay true to myself because I feel if I can't do that then I can't be true to you! I have DECIDED to only make time for people in who want a Real Life friendship! I do have a small list of friends and plain on keeping it that way, due to the fact I make time for people who I call a friend, do you?
If you do live close to me FYI, I will want to meet you and not be only online chat buddy, I like real life friendships. I like to chat by phone to get to know people. If you dont do that then please move on and dont waste mine or your time TY. Please take the time to read my blogs. On myspace look me up Jerry Otis Gale, if you want to know this man behind the profile! You say you want a nice guy in your life and yes I been told that before, BE real! Dont just be all word and no actions. Show to me your not a gamer or not just a fake! I have way more photos there too,
