First and foremost, I am a slacker at heart... that be known.. all of the following is also true.

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Preface
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Be gentle, I am new to the area. I just moved here from Missouri to work on my PhD. At this time I am not interested in meeting anyone lacking the to ability state what they want and actually follow through on those things. I am an educated professional person who does not desire the drama of dealing with someone who is unstable and/ or unwilling to be honest with themselves and/ or someone else. I do not make time for / or have the desire to be played with or to play games. I make a conscious decision not engage in something frivolous. I respect other people’s decisions and I say what I mean and I mean what I say.

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Abstract
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5' 8''
brown eyes and hair
175-185 lbs
4 piercings
1 tattoo

honest, respectful, passionate, driven, faithful

I am new to Massachusetts, and for the most part new to dating because I have focused on my education and professional goals over the last ten years. The last relationship I was involved in was six years ago with four dating experiences since then. I have come to know what I am looking for in a relationship and what I am working towards professionally. I am a self actualized person and need someone who is also. At this point I do not want to meet people who are either incapable of honesty (in presentation of themselves, in conversation or emotionally) or who are unstable or inconsistent between the expressions. I do not want to meet someone that can not be committed (Not referring to hospital wards).

I don’t want to define anything; I just hope to meet a person of some intelligence that appreciates intimacy, respect and open, honest communication as well as a monogamous heterosexual lifestyle. What ever happens… happens. When I say this I do not mean I am open to being involved in someone’s emotionally unstable life that they are unwilling to put in effort into changing/ actively living. I seek a chance to be a friend and let things develop as they may. I would prefer something long term but sometimes things don’t happen the way we want them to. I am just a simple guy looking for a simple girl, someone who enjoys movies, cuddling, hanging out with someone and having a good conversation, someone to get to know without expectations but open to possibilities.

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I would love to find someone to spend time with who can understand and accept that I am intense and work hard at what I do because I love what I do. This devotion follows through in all aspects of my life, professionally, socially and intimately. I appreciate anyone who can deal with me for any period of time. I am eccentric, reclusive and shy but if you ask a question you can always be certain that I will give you the truth or will try very hard to find the answer. I am a complex but not complicated person.

I have to admit that I am terrible at dating. I’m a very monogamous person simply seeking that one lover, friend and confidant. I am perfectly happy at home, cuddling, watching TV and movies or reading. I also enjoy video games. For me its about the quality of people in my life not the quantity and I really don’t care about what the Jonses are doing…well unless we were invited… lol.

The person I seek is not my carbon copy, they have dreams and goals. This person believes in love at first site and that attraction is mental, physical and emotional. She will not be perfect but instead it would be her imperfections that make her perfect… to me, that I find attractive, cute, beautiful and a part of the reason I love her. She will look at life as an adventure in which we constantly evolve and be a thinker, heart felt about … something, even if that is just our love or her dreams. I also look forward to being a dad someday so she would have to be open to having children ... with me.

I don’t believe you can set limitations in finding “the One”. I believe its about connection, understanding and common values. I am liberal in my social views and conservative in my family values. Finally, I prefer to meet people that are VERY open minded. I prefer people who are able and willing to communicate, non hypocritical, and people who do not quantify others or their feelings. I am not perfect and do not care to be but I do try to be the best I can. While I have a past… as we all do, it is not a measure of who I am but a point from which to grow. I prefer people who are evolved, self actualized and sincere. I do wear my heart on my sleeve. I give all of who I am and desire the same from those in my life.

Best of luck in your search,

TJ

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"I want to love like a deaf man hears, feeling with every part of my body the vibrations and rhythms of her soul. I want to love like the blind man sees , touching her heart and life with a gentle caress that leaves us both at ease, seeing everything she says, knowing exactly what she means even in her silence. I want to love some one as if I were an amputee, knowing she is always a part of me, even when she is not near. "

If you ask what it is I want. I would say too much. For what I want I would need a lover with an unbroken heart and a willingness to let the world go. I would need a friend who could listen when I did not speak and see when I could not show them the way I would need a confidant I could kiss uninhibited, love rough and tender, and caress without even a touch. For what I yearn for I need someone like me, a romantic, a true heart, an evolved soul who wants as much. She would have to believe.

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Rest in peace big brother
A.S.W.- May 20, 1968 to Sept. 22, 2008