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To understand the power of submission, one must first understand what being a submissive means, where it comes from and how it is expressed.

True submission is something that comes from deep within a person and is an essential part of their nature. It is something expressed from the soul and as such, it goes much deeper than the mere physical/sexual act of offering oneself to a Master for pleasure. A person can behave in a submissive manner but this is not the same as being "a submissive".

To offer oneself completely and utterly to another, to surrender all choice and "power" requires an exceptional inner strength. High self esteem and a knowledge that, in order to relinquish power to another as well as the understanding that one must possess, inner power is essential.

Embracing and expressing my submissive nature has given me the most powerful opportunities to find the deepest levels of trust, power and the intimacy that can only arise from the bond of a Master and sub. It is the ultimate expression of balance, the archetypal opposition of Yin (the receptive principal) and Yang (the active principle). Both sides being perfectly equal, yet forming a perfect whole.

As a submissive, my goals are to come before my Master as an empty chalice to be filled.....or a blank canvas to be painted....formless clay waiting to be moulded. Through this exchange, I know that I will become more than I was before....the Master takes the raw material, or the blank canvas or the raw gemstone and brings out the inner lustre. In this experience, what many misinterpret is that they assume the Master imposes his will upon the sub and she becomes whatever he wants her to be. I would disagree....to me, the Master brings out the qualities of submission in a more pronounced way. Rather than being told to "act" in a submissive way, it is the submissive's role to remove veil after veil until who she becomes is the perfect reflection of devoted service and in serving her Master, she finds an inner joy and balance that comes from knowing that with each veil removed, each boundary crossed, she becomes more of who she already is