IrishBtrFly's blog: "Venting about Abuse of a friend by her husband..."

Sometimes I wonder how many more late night phone calls or texts I'm going to get from her before she realizes when enough is enough.But as one who has been down that road of terror,utter embarrassment,and fear....the uncertainty of a a world that is so upside down can be paralyzing. It is not the road we fear to walk along,but everything that lurks in the shadows on the path that holds us...and for her,well she has 2 small kids to think about as well. My friend has epilepsy and her husband when going into his self proclaimed battle* goes so far as to head butt her,take a flashlight and turn it off and on in her eyes,hits her upside her temples all in hopes of forcing a seizure upon her and won't do anything but,watch so he can claim her to be an unfit mother and her lose her babies. His mind is not right. He thinks he knows everything b/c he is an x con and tells her time and time again that if she ever tries to escape or leave,he knows all the laws. This coming from a man who smokes pot...chooses pot over his kids on a daily basis. This week is no different when it comes to the fighting. She went to answer the door and before her were the US fire marshals with guns drawn looking for his brother. Turns out the brother is a child molester...he has watched his niece and nephew several times....the kicker is pat knew about this and didn't want anyone to know...the brother has yet to come back to his apt which is right above theirs. When my friend confided in her family about it,that's when pat got angry...and he went to choke her and she slapped him...he in turn got his belt and preceded to thrash her back and calves and head butted her. Her daily life most of the time is living in this world. He tells her that she can leave but if she leaves,she won't get the kids...that they are his.However...this bastard doesn't even have a job and get $ from the gov't for his *anger issues*,but would rather spend it on toys for himself then provide for his family.

There isn't an easy fix or answer to this...and those who have never walked in the shoes of such a nightmare....it's not simple nor easy to just up and leave someone like pat...and unless you haven't been the person IN the situation,you can't really ever begin to understand a terror such as that life.

I wonder most nights when I will get a call that can only go one of 2 ways.....

Angie