As you can see i am not sitting in jail and am at home.I just wanted to let everyone know what happened in court today.
Basically the judge gave me 90 days in jail which i am to report to on June 8th 2007, he also gave dad make up visitations consisting of the whole 3 month break while off school for 2007 and 2008. How ever he has also given me the months from now til June to purge myself of the contempt by letting dad have them at every visitation he requests. I also have to let him have info through the kids schools, doctors, and thearapy.
He also filled a objection to my moving some 4 months ago.. which my attorney says just opened the door for me to file for modifications of the whole custdy order! So my attorney plans to file for a modification on; visitation, transportation, and change of venue.
After court my ex and his attorney and me and my attorney had a talk he is willing to pick the kids up at my house now due to my begining work schedule, move the divorce out of the current court, now then this all said this is where he made a big BOO BOO. After court we talked outside without attorneys around, but my sister in law was there to witness the conversation. Even though the judge gave him the whole summer to have them, HE DONT WANT THEM FOR ANYTHING BUT WEEKENDS, and wants me to keep them during the week so he dont have to take them to there doctors appointments and be bothered with the hard stuff. He also agreed that if a child is ill( vomiting, fever, or diahrea) they dont have to go to his house and he wont push the issue. He has also agreed that our 13 yr old son does not have to go to visitations if he has sports, church or school activities, he also agreed that i can send one child every summer to stay with my mom for one month for a visit since she lives 900 miles away, and he will not file a contempt as long as he gets the other two kids as planned and on schedule. I plan on doing a few things to try and catch him in a big enough perdicament that the judge will see that this is all about the money and revenge and not the kids.
a)Im going to get a answering machine to keep records of all telephone calls.
b)Im going to keep a log of all visits that he has or doesnt want.
c)I am going to get a camera and inspect the kids for bruises, welts, handprints and the such any marks will be photographed by me then the child will be checked out at hospital and a police report will be filed.
d) I sworn signed affidavit from my sister in law on the conversation that we had outside the courtroom saying that he dont want the kids.
Our attorneys are drawing up an agreement for us to sign and have placed as modifications in the visitations. If he is doing what he says and just wants to repair his relationship with the kids then fine.. but soon enough he will show his true colors and will stop seeing the kids again at that time i will bring it back infront of the judge to prove that he was only doing this for revenge. My kids protection orders are invalid and will be dismissed but my order is valid and will be used to keep the peace. Beginning this friday he will get the kids when he asks for them and i will give no resistance. He gets them christmas day at 6 pm until new years day at 6 pm. we will be switching back nu forth on holidays.
Provided all this works out and there are no more problems then come June my sentence will be susepended and this will all be a bad memory of the past. I will keep in touch on here still and help all of you out as much as i possibly can. Thank you all for your words of comfort, encouragement, and enlightenment. You may have saved me many times over from giving in to the battle and the severe depression that i was suffering.. a few times i was scared for my life. I have gotten help and am seeing a therapist to deal with the trauma and will recover fully. Thank you all again and god bless.
