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| | Torn |
| created @ 05/10/2007 06:05 am |
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This is kind of a long and drawn out story, (Like most people's lives) but the short of it is my ex was cheating on me for a long long time. I gave him chance after chance, until I was finally done. Up until St. Patricks day of this year he was still trying to get me to let him come home.
I am the type of person who NEVER wants to use her kids as pawns, my mother did that with my father all my life, and I always vowed I wouldn't use mine as leverage if ever in the same position. Here is my dillema. I know that I can't control him, I don't want to. I know he needs to move on, as well as let me move on, and I WANT him to, so that he will finally let me go, but... he's now openly dating the woman he cheated on me with, and after only a month, he's staying overnight there, with MY KIDS.
He has openly called her a homewrecker, and while I don't think she would ever hurt my children, I do not think she is a good role model for them. Is jealousy clouding my judgement? Probably. It doesnt surprise me that hes with her, and I really dont care what he's doing when he DOESN'T have the kids, but I despise her as a person. I asked him to think of my feelings, I don't think the kids need to be introduced to every woman he's sleeping with. I do NOT introduce men to my children.
Here's the thing.... I have never filed for child support for the baby (he can't even keep up with the payments for our daughter) but he DOES take them often. I want them to have a relationship with thier father, thier older brother, and thier grandparents. There are no visitations set, I have full rights. Do I have a RIGHT to say ... Take them, but don't spend the night over there with them, at least until you make a permanent commitment with her? Or Do I just have to grin and bear it and figure out a way to deal with it? |
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