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s experiences and people move in and out of our lives, I reflect that to covet them and ask that they remain and always be there for us is a selfish response - a response that doesn't take into account the wishes of another.
In essence, they don’t need you, so why should you need them?
Yet the pain of losing someone can cut deep, and the fear of losing someone can lead one to drastic measures in a vain attempt to keep someone that doesn’t desire to be kept. But if we know that we have given of ourselves to the best of our ability - without regrets or hard feelings, than we can move on and keep the good memories while discarding the not-so-good ones.
Our bodies are temporary, the actions and works and words that we leave behind will live on even after our bodies turn to bone dust, as our stories are told and retold, and our creations are passed down through generations.
It’s common for people to question unconditional love, to advise those who practice it that they are opening themselves up for a world of hurt, and that others will take advantage of the kindness and generosity of a person who loves unconditionally.
But I reflect that this isn't true.
Returning to the first idea that I proposed in this journal, we can only open ourselves up to a long-term pain of loss if we covet and attempt to require those who wish to leave us to remain, even if it would be against their wishes to do so.
In the short term, pain will be felt - but in the long term, the pain will disappear as we realize that we've allowed the other person the freedom to be happy. And if we don't allow others the freedom to be happy, how can we ever say that we truly loved them?
Once we let go of our desire to hold on to something or someone that wishes to leave us, we can look forward to new experiences, and take the best of what we’ve learned in the past. For we’ve given someone else the freedom to move on, and have thus proven our unconditional love for them in the process.
